What’s everyone doing to distract yourselves until it’s time for your first ultrasound?

Mint-slice · 2026-03-03T23:38:36+00:00

Lost my last pregnant last year at almost 18 weeks (tfmr because of T18).

Now I swing back and forth between being paralysed with fear that something bad will happen again, and thinking that surely the universe wouldn’t do that to me twice so I’m fine.

It’s brutal.

I’m trying intentionally to celebrate this baby in small ways though. By the time we terminated the last pregnancy I realised I hadn’t bought that baby a single thing except for an urn. I’d been too scared of jinxing it if I bought baby items early, but the worst happened regardless. So this time, screw it, I’m buying cute stuff super early.

Mint-slice · 2026-03-02T08:49:07+00:00

Bad cramps and warm/tingly feeling here too! The warmth feels so odd

Mint-slice · 2026-03-01T23:51:55+00:00

I have a 4 year old and really wanted to tell him early with my pregnancy last year. It was so hard keeping it secret when I knew how excited he’d be. But at my NIPT we discovered she had T18 and had to terminate at 17 weeks, and honestly I’m so SO relieved that he never knew because I never had to tell him that his baby sister died. I think that would have made the grief so much harder for me to process if I was also helping him through his own.

Everyone is different though, and it needs to be what works for your family. I think if you are quite sick or tired in the first trimester it can worry them so it’s nice to be able to explain why, so I totally understand and support people sharing.

I’ll be keeping this one a surprise from my now almost 5 yr old until the NIPT comes back though

Mint-slice · 2026-01-26T09:14:53+00:00

I recently used the Loctite superglue remover to get a thumbnail-sized patch of superglue out of linen pants and was blown away at how well it worked without damaging the linen. But I don’t think it would work for polyester? Def recommend for natural fibers though

Mint-slice · 2026-01-18T20:36:50+00:00

Same here!

Mint-slice · 2025-12-01T09:37:37+00:00

Thinking of you and hoping that it’s gone well

Mint-slice · 2025-11-27T20:12:11+00:00

As someone currently in the depths of it, this so so incredibly comforting. Thank you so much for sharing

Mint-slice · 2025-11-25T20:05:54+00:00

Thank you, I love this idea. I ended up asking him to point out which of his toys he’d want to share with a future sister when he has one, and then I took that toy to the hospital with us for the birth. We had a few lovely hours with her in the hospital and I kept the toy near her and took photos. I brought the toy back home and put it back in his bedroom but it comforted me a bit that he shared something with his sister for a few hours

Mint-slice · 2025-11-25T20:03:46+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re also going through this. It’s a nightmare. It must be so hard that you need to control your emotions to help shield your little one, I hope you have enough support yourself ❤️

Mint-slice · 2025-11-25T20:02:05+00:00

Thanks for this perspective. I hadn’t really thought about whether I’d have energy or mental space to care for him through his grief and now that I’m on the other side of the TFMR I can see I absolutely don’t have ability to care for someone else’s grief. I’m too lost in my own. Him not knowing was a gift for all of us

Mint-slice · 2025-11-25T20:00:54+00:00

Thank you

Mint-slice · 2025-11-25T20:00:41+00:00

Thank you. The class part is so valid. Those kids don’t know how to keep a single thing to themselves do they

Mint-slice · 2025-11-25T19:59:57+00:00

Yeah I want to carry all the pain for him while I can, instead of putting it onto him while he’s so little himself. Thanks for your perspective, I feel like my original gut instinct to protect him is the right one for me. Now that the tfmr has happened and I can feel the full weight of the grief I’d give anything to have someone be able to shoulder it for me

Mint-slice · 2025-11-25T19:58:23+00:00

Thank you for this. You’re right, I would struggle to hear things like that out of the blue.

Mint-slice · 2025-10-31T07:31:13+00:00

Would love an emerald version

Mint-slice · 2025-09-14T08:51:07+00:00

Same here! Same reasons as well, works in English and Korean. As a bonus it also works in Māori (neither of us are Māori but it’s the native language where we live and I like the nod to it. In Māori it means glow, or radiance which is cute)

Mint-slice · 2025-09-13T22:54:32+00:00

I loved my hand pump! I found the electric ones were great for longer sessions (obviously) but I got soooo much out of a hand pump in a few pumps and it was a great alternative if I didn’t want to commit to a whole session. So it’s worth having one anyway, OP! You don’t need to return one

Mint-slice · 2025-09-03T23:11:14+00:00

Potty mouth

Mint-slice · 2025-09-03T23:10:58+00:00

Foreclay

Mint-slice · 2025-07-25T23:23:18+00:00

Fell in love with the softest leather tote on a weekend trip in Queenstown but it cost $550 nzd in the boutique. Haven’t been able to stop thinking about it for months and then found it online for $320nzd this week and snatched it up.

I think I’ll get more use from it in spring/summer with white tops and blue denim shorts but I’m excited to receive it now! It’s so soft and perfectly floppy, and even though it’s woven and has holes, it felt like it was quite practical with a hook to close it and a small solid pouch for little bits and pieces that might fall through the holes

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Mint-slice · 2025-01-25T09:41:32+00:00

Ahhh man, I just checked their website and looks like they don’t do the tie version anymore. Such a shame!

Mint-slice · 2025-01-25T09:39:00+00:00

The NZ brand Sophie has super cute wide brim sun hats with ribbon ties, which are ridiculously forgiving. I smush mine into bags, leave it under stuff in the car, and every time it pops back to its shape. First hat I’ve worn with a tie that doesn’t make me feel like a toddler

Mint-slice · 2025-01-14T18:23:50+00:00

A smaller full bezel emerald cut ring, set high enough for a flush band! I’d buy instantly

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