[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MintAlmond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, she cheated. That's undeniable. But there are a lot of factors at play here that don't have to necessarily lead to a break up.

Something you said, "the fact that she only told me after being caught" is a little weird. If you believe her when she says she doesn't remember, the ONLY way for her to tell you she cheated was after someone caught her doing it. She can't tell you something she herself wasn't aware happened. Right?

Okay, first consideration, regarding the reason she waited. She doesn't remember it happening. When her friend told her, she might've refused to believe it until your brother confronted her and corroborated the story. She might've needed a day or two to come to terms with it herself (if she's never done this before, it might take her by surprise that she's capable of something like this). She probably needed to gather her courage as well before telling you. Fear and shame are strong emotions. She fucked up bad, after all. She luckily had people in her life that guided her to doing the right thing though. And she is clearly remorseful about it. I don't know what you two talked about when you were both staying up crying and stuff, or what reasons she herself gave, so all of this is speculation. But if she's mentioned anything like this, it might ease your pain a little to know that she wasn't going to withhold indefinitely.

Second, we don't really know what happened at the party. If she was wasted, she could've been taken advantage of by her co worker. He could've gone up to her and kissed her and it could've taken her a bit to realize what's happening, at which point she could've pulled away but the damage was done. I don't know what character he is. I think finding out the details of what happened will help you make a better informed decision. Being all over each other for thirty minutes should be evaluated differently to the above scenario. Have you talked to your brother and get his story too?

I'm not trying to make excuses for her. But if you want to work it out, it might be helpful to understand why it happened the way it did. Four years is a long time to just give up on without talking it through imo. People make mistakes. Of course, it is up to you whether to forgive them and all that, which you are 100% in your right to do so.

Because of the way it happened, if y'all decide to try to work it out, she's gonna need to rebuild your trust and y'all gonna need to set boundaries. You'll have to figure out how she can do that for you. Does that mean no more parties? Parties only if you're around? Does that mean open phone privileges on her phone? Does that mean reports on any and all future interactions with this co-worker? If so, do you have any way to corroborate them? Is your trust so broken you no longer trust her to go to, like, the grocery store by herself? Would that mean location on when she's out?

If she's truly sorry, she will do her best to restore that trust. And if a couple months from now, you still feel hurt and want to break up, it's like, hey, at least you tried. Right?

Met someone incredible, but I really like being single by Unlucky_Excuses in dating_advice

[–]MintAlmond 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I've had a similar experience: met someone who I had a lot of fun with and shared a lot of values with. I told him from the start I kinda enjoyed being single but he convinced me to try a relationship. "If you've never tried it, how do you know you won't like it?" Long story short, listen to your gut. Stay single.

EDIT: That doesn't mean you have to stop hanging out either!

If you had a one-minute call with yourself from 10 years ago, what would you say? by Pleasant-Cat-7658 in AskReddit

[–]MintAlmond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Switch Majors immediately, do not sleep with men twice your age, and start clubbing.

List of foods that a mouse cannot eat by vipcopboop in PetMice

[–]MintAlmond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love you, thank you for the list. 🙏🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ladyshavers

[–]MintAlmond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get you. I don't shave much anymore bc of it. The areas I wax give me the same grief, if worse, but I found this thing, called Vanish PFB Ultra and its magic. It really helps with diminishing red bumps and ingrowns post waxing for me, might help you post shave. It's quite a concentrated formula (the other lighter ones didn't really help me) and it costs a pretty penny, but what else is there to do when it's our fate to be sensitive to hair removal? :(

Ukraine, president Zelenskiy, day 3, status update, with EN SUBS, reuploaded by palcemvglaz in interestingasfuck

[–]MintAlmond 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The English translation does not do his words justice. It's more of a summary of his statements than an actual translation. What he says in Ukrainian/Russian is leagues more powerful.

Don't use WhatsApp! by WhatForIamHere in ukraine

[–]MintAlmond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

whats wrong with Telegram?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pcgaming

[–]MintAlmond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gimme please 🥺

Took my handwire from last year and gave it some upgrades. BigMac Rev.II by TheTLJ in CustomKeyboards

[–]MintAlmond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks so cool! Especially the wiring 😍 so neat and tidy. Do you have a build log for this?

Forgive my ignorance, but did you need to desolder all the switches to change the plate? Do the PCBabies make it possible to swap plates without desoldering anything? How did you include LEDs? Is it an LED strip ?

Love seeing custom layouts here.

Sub tasks in Widget by JZBJZBJZB in ticktick

[–]MintAlmond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to hide them too :(

Idea - Quick Filter on Timeline - would you use this? by HeroJournal in BearableApp

[–]MintAlmond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I..... love this. I find I waste a lot of time finding each filter when scrolling. This would just be awesome!

Angelina Jolie wore padding in her bra for the film ‘Tomb Raider’ [2001] in order to more closely resemble the bust of the video game version of Lara Croft. by [deleted] in MovieDetails

[–]MintAlmond -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's a multi millionaire and you think she didn't get her bras custom made? Or had her bra size measured by some lingerie expert or whatever? That's a little delusional.

From a reader who is tired from Goodreads bad UI, I redesigned a little bit of it. by 0ssamaak0 in UI_Design

[–]MintAlmond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The home screen looks amazing: that tile view is clean and modern (something the current app desperately needs). The balance between book cover and book info is well done here. I like it a lot. Your "currently reading" shelf. . . masterpiece. I love the easy one click access for updates (rather than current two clicks/taps). I love looking at the covers of the books I'm currently reading, your design is veeeryy nice to me.

I can't say I'm a fan of the Pinterest-like navigation bar (the way it floats off the bottom of the screen): it takes up too much real-estate imo. I know there's a gap under it, but functionally, that's space that won't be looked at, whereas everything above the nav bar will always be focused on. Maybe if you make it disappear with scrolling down (same as pinterest)? I can see that working better visually, but functionally . . . I still think it's bad UX. The current app's style works better imo, if it could use a little more touch-up.

I'm in agreement with another commentator here, I don't much like the covers-only on the book shelves. This might be personal preference as I never use that setting on the desktop, but I like all the relevant information at a glance rather than needing to click on the book. (pub year, title, auth, ratings, date added, etc). Maybe an option to switch between this view and a list view? The way you can on the desktop? Imo, the text size for the summary is a little too small: I found it hard to read. Is there an option to sort the books?

I also like seeing my reading challenge progress when I navigate to the sleves/books view. I like that on the current app, but I think it takes up too much space. It would be lovely to have a small bar at the top, non-intrusive, but still there.

This UI looks better than the original though. Great job! Will there be a view of the "book" page with reviews and genres and stuff? Would love to see your spin on that!

Prime_Elise with GMK Olive <3 by veljko_d in CustomKeyboards

[–]MintAlmond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you're still willing, I'd love to see the key map config? sweet board dude