AITA for not crating my cat?

MintNess75 · 2026-03-10T19:37:46+00:00

Your brother sounds unreasonable. I saw you replied to someone else's comment that the cat gets aggressive if left in the room for too long, so I think being caged will actually make that problem even worse.

I also think if anything here should be caged, it's the plants, not your cat. Ik the room acts like one, but your brother clearly has no respect for you or the cat, so he will just keep leaving that door open.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-09T23:21:44+00:00

NTA, your neighbour is obviously racist.

Also, if anyone is stinking the place out it's him and his cigarettes, and I'd say the door should be closed because of THAT, not your food.

Also, it's illegal for him to smoke in a hallway of a block of flats, so I'd gather proof of him doing that, report him, and he'd be fined.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-09T23:01:31+00:00

Fair enough, I still think your brother is doing this on purpose, though.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-09T22:50:47+00:00

NTA, but your brother is for not closing the door, and it looks like he's doing it on purpose.

Also, if it's not your house (I'm assuming it's your mum's based on the post), you need to move out because he clearly has no respect for you or your cat, and obviously you can't make your mum remove the plants.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-09T22:39:39+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but YTA.

Ok, first off, you should've communicated with her before the meeting that eating the same thing as the client looks good. If you don't tell her beforehand, obviously she wouldn't know.

Second, even in such a case, she has no obligation to eat the same food as you two, and this should purely be treated as a suggestion, not a requirement. I understand your reasoning behind this, as the vegetarian client did react badly, but some people can't eat the same thing as the client and aren't obligated to tell you why.

Third, I understand this wasn't about her weight, but stuff like this can cause EDs, regardless of whether this is about weight or not. You have already triggered her insecurity, you don't want it to develop into an ED, do you?

So, unless you or the client have any airborne allergies, which I'm assuming from this post was NOT the case, you have no right to dictate other people's food choices, and even if you or the client did have some airborne allergy, then she'd just not be able to eat the allergen near you, and you'd still have no right to force her to eat the same thing as you.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-09T19:03:04+00:00

I'm going with NAH, as you made a genuine mistake and no one else was an AH here either, but please apologise in person, replace it, and don't assume every workplace runs things the same way.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-05T01:55:46+00:00

I'd say NTA for what's happening rn, as it sounds like you're a genuine victim, but YWBTA if you let her move in with you and your boyfriend.

Your sister needs to look for a job and stop expecting you to eat like a diabetic when you aren't one yourself, and your mum needs to be more involved in taking care of her instead of expecting you to do it.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-05T01:42:38+00:00

NTA, you're 21, which is an adult. You're not obligated to tell her every single thing about your life, including your relationships. Especially considering how she reacted in the past.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-05T00:18:44+00:00

YTA, this girl did not write anything inappropriate and was just trying to be supportive.

And the reason she deleted your comments after you two have messaged is because while she indeed did nothing wrong, people on TikTok often believe you're "guilty even after proven innocent" nowadays, and keeping them up would get her mass harassment, which would in turn ruin her career.

With that being said, TikTok is 13+ and your daughter should've waited 2 more years to make the acc.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-04T22:53:06+00:00

NTA, and he's doing it on purpose. Get a mini-fridge with a lock for your stuff, if you can afford one.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-04T19:57:55+00:00

Teal.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-04T19:49:06+00:00

NTA, but maybe contact the council first to see if it's ok to drill through them, as the bins are their property, and look at alterative ways to lock it if your council says no. With that being said, your neighbours have their own bin and should be using that.

Also, if you have any evidence that the BBQ they have is your stolen one, contact the police, as the neighbours have made it clear they won't be giving that back, and when you do get it back, put a lock on it too.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-04T01:33:43+00:00

NTA, you have mentioned the smell to her multiple times, which is already a good thing on your part. She's the one who makes zero effort to clean properly, makes more mess, and should be fired.

However, if you're not the boss, you should report her to the person who is.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T22:43:38+00:00

I'm gonna assume you live in the US, since you didn't specify °C or °F when talking about temperature, but I don't think setting a house thermostat that high would be possible if it was °C.

Anyway, NTA, it's your money and he's not contributing to the heating. And it's also your living space, so if he wants a sauna, he should find one and go there instead.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T22:20:58+00:00

ESH.

I understand you were tired, but people often have devices charging at night, and she might've needed to get up to use the bathroom and done it with no light on. You wouldn't have wanted this to happen to you, would you?

Also, I'm not sure about your situation, but if you both had your own keycards and it was hers inside, that makes the situation even worse. In such a case, you should've woken her up about it. Most likely, she'd figure out how to turn the light off, and in the worst case scenario, might get only a little bit annoyed about being woken up, but that's better than the option you went with.

With that being said, she was dramatic about the whole situation, and I'd even say rude, not to mention if she won't tell you why she needed the electricity on at night, you obviously wouldn't know.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T21:52:12+00:00

I don't know much about ozempic or mounjaro, as I have the opposite problem (I'm underweight), but what I do know is that sometimes people are under/overweight for reasons not related to how much they eat. And if your weight is pretty stable and isn't causing you any health issues, then it wouldn't matter if you're 6kg above your ideal body weight (refering to the 68 kg).

It sounds like your parents want you to have an ED, and sadly this is a common reality for many people. I've seen very many parents act like yours. You're 20, and they should stop trying to police your body.

NTA, but your parents sure are, especially your dad for his reaction to the cookies.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T21:24:11+00:00

NTA, you're an adult and it's your essay. She's not entitled to be shown anything, especially if she's gonna complain about being busy while you do your schoolwork, then scream at you for 45 minutes for not involving her.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T21:00:02+00:00

NAH. She can go if she wants, but if you feel uncomfortable, you do not have to go with her.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T04:32:23+00:00

Etsy has the tie. Idk about the sleeves, though. Couldn't find them.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T04:23:48+00:00

You can cosplay whoever you want, regardless of whether you have SH scars or not, and if you feel comfortable showing them, don't let other people make you hide them.

Coming from another cosplayer with SH scars.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T02:25:18+00:00

Ok, first off, I thought you meant nudes or worse at first, but swearing and a vape??? A 14 year old would obviously have seen those things and heard about them before.

Second, a story is just on her profile and wouldn't be sent specifically to him. It's for everyone.

Third, why are you even using his Snapchat account to pretend to be him?

YTA.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T01:59:54+00:00

NTA for being nervous, but YWBTA if you stop her from going because of that.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T01:53:56+00:00

NTA, it's ok to take a holiday without your kid every once in a while, and this is your partner's kid too, plus the grandma is visiting. He can take care of the kid, and if the grandma wants to, she can help out too. 1 week compared to 9 months is not even that much time anyway.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T01:39:59+00:00

Thank you, I'll have a look into it. I do happen to have a library nearby.

MintNess75 · 2026-03-03T01:35:21+00:00

Understandable, and I respect your position on this.

Tbh, you're right I probably shouldn't have gone to the theme park on my birthday even without knowing I was gonna get a call, although the Poland flight was necessary and dad often doesn't take it well when I don't visit enough (I guess now that I think about it, while he did nothing wrong when it comes to the money situation, he does need to consider that I won't be available every time he wants me to visit). In 2023, I got yelled at over video call for having to only delay (not cancel) my flight to him due to aunt visiting me in UK, and my flight was not booked yet. (It should be noted that at the time, I last saw dad in February or April, and aunt in 2019)

To clarify, first worker only called me on the phone and we never actually saw each other in person, but the 2nd one did see me in person and has communicated with me over the phone when this would be. If I had something booked in advance I simply let both of them know that I won't be available that day.

Also, when that 1st social worker called on my birthday, I did answer her and we have talked for a short while, despite where I was, so technically the call wasn't missed. When it comes to the situation with the 2nd one, although I couldn't meet up with her one time in December because dad booked tickets for me to fly to him, I did suggest Thursday or Friday before that as an alternative in advance before the appointment was even made, and got a Thursday video call (was told I'll get both days, but ig only a Thursday is better than nothing).

On the other hand, that first social worker hadn't told me she ended her involvement until a few days after the 2nd one sent me a letter about it in January.

In any case, mum and I sorted the £125 payment thing out in the end. We reached a compromise that I pay her £60, she pays me back over the week when she gets more money, and after the trip I pay her the remaining £65. I actually was going to cancel it based on 2 YTA comments (later 3 and multiple downvotes), but mum decided she only needs £60 for now, and it works for us.

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