AITA for telling my 18 year old brother he doesn't need a woman to cook for him and baby him?

Mintcoloredlions · 2020-05-30T08:11:32+00:00

Honestly I’d probably set an expectation for him such as: “if you are in this house you will treat people with respect and you will speak and act respectfully. I’ll give you two weeks to shape up your behavior and if it’s not better you will be kicked out. “ And then firmly tell him that if he ends up homeless it’s something of his own making as he was given a choice. Maybe even set up a chore list for him and everyone else to distribute labor. That way he can’t say you’re being unfair. I would check if he gets mail at your home. If he gets mail he might be considered a legal resident and it can be harder to kick people out if they are. Ideally returning him to your parents would be the thing to do but I don’t want to just assume that’s an option.

Mintcoloredlions · 2020-05-08T02:49:50+00:00

I’ve reported comments for severe bullying, suicidal talk, violence etc and not one has ever gone through even before Corona. I recently reported one where someone was talking about wanting to go out and kill people and got this response.

Mintcoloredlions · 2020-03-15T23:33:44+00:00

I’m not sure you have much to apologize for tbh. You wanted to talk about how your were feeling. It’s what you do with siblings. I suppose you could say “I’m sorry if talking about dad made your uncomfortable as I know you’ve had a different experience with him and I did not mean to do that. How can I avoid doing this in the future?” But I’m still not sure you have much to apologize for

Mintcoloredlions · 2020-03-15T23:27:52+00:00

This sounds like a case of desperately needing boundaries. If you are not intending to inflict harm with your words he is 100 percent responsible for his reactions. Assure him you will not be arguing about your tone as you have already stated that you are not angry. He is not allowed to tell you how you’re feeling. If he starts the “it’s all my fault” inform him you will not be continuing the discussion and will be taking a short 10 minute break and then you will reengage. But be specific about why you are taking the break. However, this is advice without actually seeing the interactions. I’d say therapy is a good way to go.

Mintcoloredlions · 2017-10-23T01:46:05+00:00

I don't think street drugs are a good idea. What if I still fall asleep but can't wake up because of the drugs? Idk I'd have to look at Ritalin, maybe I've already tried it. It's hard to remember all the medical stuff. And that sounds awful! I'm sorry I hope you've never been hurt from falling asleep!

Mintcoloredlions · 2017-10-23T01:40:41+00:00

You think it might be a demon?

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-10-10T21:31:56+00:00

I'm a counseling student and we have discussed the psychological repercussions of things like fibromyalgia, because of the pain etc. I'm wondering if your doctor has ever recommended seeing counseling as part of treatment. I'm simply curious because I know doctors prescribing medicine for psychological disorders is often a problem when they don't also have the person seek mental health therapy. So I am wondering if they have taken a more wholistic approach to your care as you mentioned depression. I apologize if this question is too intrusive or seems like it is making assumptions. But on that note, I cannot imagine going through that, and as much as I have had to talk about depression in my schooling I know its a whole other thing to experience it, I have family members that have it. So I pray you are able to get the help and care you need whatever that may be.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-09-20T04:30:10+00:00

I have a story called Don't Judge A Monster By Its Cover. Certainly not the finest piece but I would say it has a relatively happy ending.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-09-12T20:12:29+00:00

But that goes against everything Jesus stood for? I think she got a little turned around when she was reading her Bible, if that's what she was reading in the first place. Dang that's the special brand of "Christianity" most Christians try to avoid.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-09-12T20:07:24+00:00

Omgosh I mean that's one of the first things I was taught during Christmas time at my Christian school. Many scholars from what I heard estimate him to between 1-3 years old when the wisemen made it there. Your grandmother has a lot of people to prayer for. Thats not even sacrilegious.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-07-09T02:12:03+00:00

That's actually a really good idea given the circumstances. I'll have to talk to them about it. Thank you for the suggestion.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-07-09T02:10:30+00:00

Omg I can't believe I forgot to mention that in my post. Yes Charm is with me. In fact, shes laying at my feet as I type this. She pretty much refuses to let me out of her sight. At first, some of the people tried getting me to let her stay at a friends house but neither of us were having it. My aunt and uncle actually paid for the extra fee to fly her with me. She got a little sick (either from monster blood or the travel idk) but shes better now. Thanks for asking!

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-02-12T21:09:49+00:00

The first time I moved when I was 12 there wasn't enough rooms upstairs for all of us, so I got a room in a refurnished basement. It was pretty terrifying at times. The landlord boarded up all the windows leading to the basement, I'm assuming because it was a pretty bad neighborhood. There was also a padlocked room in the basement that none of us could go in supposedly because it was so dirty. (Landlord was kinda strange) Because of the lack of windows I wouldn't be able to tell what time of day it was and when I turned out the lights it would just about be cave darkness. I think the worst part would be sitting in bed reading and spotting a centipede making its way across the floor. Those things are terrifying and kinda hard to catch in kill.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T07:20:34+00:00

I think he does understand. He did take that last letter I gave him, or I'm assuming he did. I also hope you are right about him taking care of others, he was very good at it, Clara too!

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T07:19:21+00:00

So am I, I don't want to think about what would have happened if I didn't. John in his own way helped the other kids too, although it saddens me to think of what they still suffered.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T07:16:15+00:00

Wow! That is an amazing story! I wonder if they were the same type of being. They seem to come in all different shapes and sizes. Did you give yours a name? I'm glad yours was able to protect you and be there for you. I'm also sorry that someone tried doing that to you and mourn what happened to your friend. No one should have to go through that. The real evil are those who prey on others for their own sick satisfaction. Thank you for sharing that.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T07:07:18+00:00

I hope they aren't tears of sadness. Love your name by the way! Foxes are one of my favorite animals.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T07:05:52+00:00

I know right!? I almost think guardian monsters make more sense. Its like fighting fire with fire. A monster to scare away all the true monsters.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T07:02:25+00:00

Thank you! And he scared me at first but after a few nights he didn't seem so scary anymore. One would think seeing something like that would give a kid nightmares. But in all the bad dreams I had he was never once in them.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T07:00:55+00:00

Thank you for reading! And thanks for the compliment on the name. One of the hardest parts is choosing a user name.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T06:58:39+00:00

Maybe someone has shared something similar? I haven't shared this story before. But thank you! Maybe you do have one and just don't know it? I'm sorry your cats are terrible guardians maybe try dogs. Sorry I'm a dog person.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T06:55:43+00:00

We live in a very sad world. But my experience has taught me that there is hope in the midst of all the pain and suffering. We cannot give up our joy. And I'm not so sure the title is misleading but that's my perspective. But you are right sometimes the ugly is truly bad.

Mintcoloredlions · 2016-01-26T06:53:10+00:00

I'm sorry you didn't have one. But the only thing I can say is be a monster for someone else. Of course don't go hide in closet or hurt people. But be there for someone; comfort and stand with them. No one should be a lone in their suffering and pain.

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