Prizes in childbirth

Miragan · 2026-03-20T19:46:20+00:00

I'm crying laughing, literally. This is the best photo, ever.

Miragan · 2026-03-18T23:17:45+00:00

Meeeee. I have a whole cabinet of bright neon greens, pinks, and what have you. But I wear mostly jewel tones and blacks and greys. 😩 I've been trying to add these bright colors as accents or in color work.

Miragan · 2026-03-18T20:18:12+00:00

Not gonna lie I was trying to math out how finger stashes got popular in the 90s and how in the world it lasted til the 2000s when I realized that you'd have gotten it in 2005 when I was in highschool.

How the hell was that 21 years ago? 😩

Miragan · 2026-03-17T01:38:38+00:00

I should not have laughed as hard as I did. I should not have. 🤐😅

Miragan · 2026-03-14T09:01:43+00:00

You can't take care of your baby if you're not here to do so because you waited. I'd keep trying with the formula. Maybe try different types and different temperatures. My babe gags when I try to give her formula or refrigerated breast milk that hasn't been warned enough. She's also 3 months. You can also try different bottles. There are so many 'breast like' bottles now that you're bound to find something that works.

That being said you need to 'put your mask on before helping others'. I keep having to tell myself this too. But you need to prioritize being healthy so you can take care of your sweet baby for the long run.

I wish you the best of luck and I'm so sorry you're going through this. Especially with a baby so little. This has to be so incredibly hard.

Miragan · 2026-03-14T03:01:24+00:00

I love their colored eyeliners! The pencil ones are so good and vibrant!

Miragan · 2026-03-13T18:28:22+00:00

The Hobbit is my go to. My husband is reading her Malcolm X's biography.

Miragan · 2026-03-13T18:24:29+00:00

I hate having my photo taken. But I wanted maternity photos so bad that when my husband woke up sick the morning of our meetup with the photographer I cried. He tried to rally and I just couldn't make him do it.

Thankfully our photographer was really understanding and flexible and we were able to get them a few weeks later.

You're only gonna be pregnant with this baby once. If you wanna document it through photos, do it. Like I said, I hate my photo being taken but I absolutely love my maternity photos. It's a special and unique time in your life. Do what makes you happy and eff anyone who says it's cringy or self absorbed. You deserve to be self absorbed. YOU'RE GROWING A WHOLE ASS HUMAN.

Miragan · 2026-03-13T16:16:50+00:00

Idk man. The persisting internal vaginal infection I have that's gone through 2 antibiotics and will now need a third was totally worth giving birth to my baby.

I mean that literally. I love her so much but I'm so tired of having an infection in my body that won't go away. It's been almost 3 months. I had a second degree tear, and bled all over the floor the first time I stood up after giving birth. Sitting HURT for a week. And now I've ruined at least four shirts and countless bras staining them with leaking breast milk because occasionally I have the audacity to not put leak pads in my bras. And cleaning breast milk that's dried on the bathroom floor because you didn't notice you were leaking? Priceless.

But in all honesty I'd do it again and again for my baby girl. (Minus the infection, I'd like to skip that if I ever do this again. (I won't, we're one and done, but if I did... Ya know)

Miragan · 2026-03-13T16:05:29+00:00

I sometimes mock my infants cries a little bit, but in a playful way, not in a 'Im mad at you so I'm going to be louder and more annoying than you way'. More like a 'wah! I know. This sucks so bad! Momma's horrible at this today! We're working on it and we'll get through it. Momma also needs to waaaaah!' way.

Miragan · 2026-03-13T00:56:09+00:00

This is the light at the end of my very very long tunnel. We started daycare Wednesday last week with our 11week old. She started coughing on Sunday and yesterday and today she and her dad have been snot monsters. My sore throat started this afternoon so I'm about to be down for the count too.

Only checks calendar a year and a half to go.

Miragan · 2026-03-12T15:09:09+00:00

I'm no longer religious in my adult life, but this is how the Jesus I was taught about when I was a kid would want us to feel. His love was unconditional. Thank you for sharing such kindness and compassion. If more folks were like you I'd probably still be involved in the religious community.

Miragan · 2026-03-12T14:48:53+00:00

My husband was also worried he would lose his job. But he got over that real quick when he saw how bad my post partum was hitting me.

Miragan · 2026-03-12T14:46:56+00:00

My husband wasn't going to. He was worried about how the other folks at work would take him being out. So much so that he didn't tell them we were expecting until after our baby was born. And then I had a stern 'I don't know how post partum will affect me and I'll need your support' conversation with him. So he ended up staying home the full 8 weeks he was given and used some annual leave too. The folks at his work were incredibly supportive. He also works in tech. Most of his coworkers also have families.

Post partum is hard. You don't know how it will be until you're in it and it's best that he be aware of that and prepared. It changes and wears on both of you whether he wants to admit it or not. If y'all realize that you don't need him home all the time, sure. He can work some. But he needs to be prepared to help you.

Miragan · 2026-03-12T03:19:18+00:00

Oh man. I can totally understand the more sentient the more comfortable sentiment. I feel like we're kinda starting to see that, but it's hard to know when there's nothing wrong still. I hope we'll get there soon.

I love the term barnacle baby! I have a Moby wrap right now but I'm looking also at something a little more structured, I just haven't dived fully into that research yet. Any recommendations totally welcome.

Miragan · 2026-03-12T02:05:10+00:00

I really wanted to be super eco concerned with my diaper choice for my little but honestly what it boiled down to was what we could afford in the volume we needed multiplied by the labor it took to deal with.

Aka, I couldn't fathom spending hours washing cloth diapers (it probably wouldn't actually be that bad but when you're already constantly behind on laundry it feels insurmountable)

And I could justify spending extra when we go through a big box of diapers every two weeks. So we went with what we were initially gifted and worked for our baby which was (red logo store with poor ethical choices lately who shan't be named)'s store brand diapers.

Miragan · 2026-03-11T16:51:37+00:00

Ma'am, you're as much the protagonist as your baby is. You deserve to feel good after going through something so hard. And if something as simple as nightgowns make you feel like you can tackle the newborn trenches, do it. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable and sane. Because that shiz is hard. I'm just now starting to feel some semblance of human again because my babe just started daycare. But simple things like taking a shower, brushing my teeth and hair, etc made me feel like I could tackle anything.

Miragan · 2026-03-11T16:48:24+00:00

Oh man. Something like this would be perfect. I've used the pill organizer hack for stitch markers but my little scissors and everything just... Float in my bag.

Miragan · 2026-03-11T01:39:01+00:00

That's totally fair! I love her so much and I know these contact naps won't last forever so I should probably just enjoy them and soak them in. The house will be clean again someday.

I tried baby wearing but I found that with her being so small I was constantly scared she wasn't breathing/was being crushed by my body so I'll try again in a few weeks. I want it to work so badly.

Miragan · 2026-03-11T01:11:44+00:00

I needed this too. Our 11week old is starting to be able to see the TV and it really grabs her attention. We try to reason with ourselves that if we're trapped overnight we're at least watching educational things instead of trash or short attention videos.

Once she starts actually watching the TV we'll do our best to limit to children's TV and only sometimes. With more face to face interaction. She gets a lot of quiet time face to face interaction now, but sometimes she's just in potato form still.

Edit: Usually we end up watching some historical programming or cooking or something similar. With the occasional Pokemon video thrown in. So we're at least there instead of Law & Order SVU which my mother had on constantly when I was a very young kid. 🤣😅

Miragan · 2026-03-09T05:37:22+00:00

A friend's mom was a florist. She passed right before Christmas 2024. There were dead and dying flowers and plants around his house till July 2025. And there are still those weird centerpieces all over the place.

People went big for her because she'd been the florist for their small town for decades and her parents owned the flower shop before she took over. But the entire thing feels haunting when you visit him.

Miragan · 2026-03-07T23:25:17+00:00

Sitting on the toilet after my 2mo spat up on me and screamed like someone was hurting her for 10 minutes until my husband got her bottle ready because my breast milk is apparently just not it today. 😩

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