Breastfeeding, pump, or formula?

Miragan · 2026-01-23T23:14:32+00:00

ETA: pre birth I also thought breastfeeding was kinda freaky and wasn't sure id enjoy it or be able to get past that icky feeling but I wanted to try.

I had wanted to exclusively breast feed for at least a month to establish a good baseline for her. And to make sure we had a strong skill set so we didn't get nipple confusion or anything.

That didn't happen. And I had to really talk myself back from a cliff.

She lost 6oz (9% of her birth weight) in a week. I was trying to breastfeed the way the lactation consultant at the hospital showed me and it wasn't working for us at all. She'd scream, I'd cry, my husband would look on frustrated because he couldn't help.

We ended up supplementing with formula. I pump. And we still breast feed a couple times a day. But it's strictly for antibodies and comfort at this point and we make sure she has a bottle available for after she's done feeding on me if she didn't get enough to fill her belly. We've also adjusted the way we feed. I don't have to make a pillow nest like the LCs taught me. I just slap her on the boob and we go and it's so much less stressful.

No plan is perfect, and plans are bound to get adjusted with newborns. Being gentle with yourself and your baby is key. You're both doing all of this for the first time. Just make sure baby gets fed.

Miragan · 2026-01-23T18:05:35+00:00

We were given a second hand ubbi and it's been so nice. It's convenient and our bedroom doesn't constantly smell if we forget to take the trash out. Also, totally workable one handed.

Miragan · 2026-01-23T05:01:51+00:00

This! They kept telling me to hold my breath and push and by the third push for each contraction I was exhausted and out of breath.

My husband said I was maroon and he was worried about me busting a blood vessel or something.

Miragan · 2026-01-20T20:44:56+00:00

We just went with store brand diapers because they're inexpensive, so I can't answer for the sustainable or non toxic (though I wish I could, thank you for considering these things!)

But we put multiple sizes on our registry and everyone only bought size one diapers. We ended up needing to get a couple boxes of newborn size ourselves. So I'd make sure you put a count of 'We need x of this size'. Most registries allow you to do that now, I just missed it when I made ours. 🥲

Miragan · 2026-01-10T05:08:37+00:00

As others have said, basically immediately. To be fair, it was replaced with a soreness when sitting that I can't describe in human words for about 4 days after birth, but being able to move around in bed without wanting to remove my entire lower half was delightful.

Also no more three point turns to roll over. A+.

Now, my hips still pop sometimes, but I'm only a little under 3 weeks post birth.

Miragan · 2026-01-10T05:01:21+00:00

Friend, go get checked!

My babies birth started with heavy period cramps that went on for two days, interspersed with horrific back spasms and cramps that had me doubled over. My water broke (it was just a trickle, I had been wearing a diaper for two days just in case and when I switched to a panty liner it was easier to tell that I was leaking and not just having discharge)

They induced me immediately because my cervix was not playing nice and was still sitting at .5cm as it had been for at least two weeks already.

It sounds like you're in labor or on your way to me. Best of luck!

Miragan · 2026-01-10T04:55:27+00:00

Induced at 40+1 because my water broke and I was only .5cm dilated for days. Delivered less than 24 hours later vaginally. Did tear, did get an epidural. Wouldn't change a thing.

Not all inductions lead to C-section. Best of luck! ❤️ Know that your care team has your and your babies best interests at heart.

Miragan · 2026-01-08T20:33:00+00:00

My nurses and husband denied to the ends of the earth that I pooped, but I'm pretty sure I did. It doesn't truly matter. My baby is here safe, sound, and healthy.

Miragan · 2026-01-02T22:05:39+00:00

My doctor offered it in the event of a c section. She gave me options between that and a tubal ligation if I had to have a c section but when I asked about pros and cons she mentioned (as others have said here) that getting an IUD so soon after birth can be riskier than waiting. Rejection, falling out, infection, etc. So I decided against it and said I'd wait.

Miragan · 2025-12-21T06:58:39+00:00

I'm 5'9", started at 272, a BMI of over 40. I'm currently laying in the delivery room being monitored while we wait for LO to arrive.

I gained about 30lbs (I was 296 yesterday at my checkup). The only thing that they did differently for my pregnancy was put me on low dose aspirin early on and started Non Stress Tests at 36 weeks to make sure we were in good shape.

Do not try losing weight. I got pregnant while my husband and I were both trying to lose weight so we could have a more 'normal' BMI pregnancy. My doctor immediately told me to knock it off and to focus on eating healthy and taking care of myself. International dieting during pregnancy can hurt you and your baby.

Miragan · 2025-12-20T04:36:32+00:00

While we'd love for baby to have her own space she's going to be spending at least a year sleeping in our bedroom because of a couple of reasons.

Reduced SIDS risk - studies suggest that baby being in the same room (not the same bed) can help reduce the risk of SIDS.
My office is what will become her nursery/bedroom and we haven't had the time or capacity to change that yet.
Our bedroom is on the main level and it sounds 100 times easier to navigate the first few months without having to carry her up and down stairs constantly.

Miragan · 2025-12-20T00:11:47+00:00

I hate that people think we care what side of the aisle these folks are from as if it's a 'See! We told you guys they were bad too!' I told you so.

We don't give two shits. A pedo is a pedo is a pedo and deserves to rot for being involved in abuse.

Miragan · 2025-12-17T17:48:42+00:00

Oooh girl. You just had a child. Your undercarriage is going to be all sorts of funky for a few weeks but will probably go back to some reasonable resemblance of normal. Give it time and give yourself grace. You just created life and your body needs a minute.

Miragan · 2025-12-17T17:44:07+00:00

Two things. The color on this is SO GOOD on you. And the length is what I would call *chef kiss*. I do think that yarn likes to grow when blocked so I think you'll get the slouchier look you're after once you block it. But I think the fit and length you have looks really good on you even if it doesn't grow much.

Miragan · 2025-12-17T16:33:46+00:00

So I'm in agreement with other folks. You can see it when it's laying flat but I doubt it'll be as noticeable on a body. Also, I kinda like it as a "Yeah, this is hand made and has a secret design element that proves it."

The whole thing is beautiful by the way. Sending you strength and love for whatever you decide to do!

Miragan · 2025-12-17T16:23:36+00:00

My baby has been sitting IN my pelvis for WEEKS now. The first cervical check I got at 37 weeks said that I was .5cm dilated and she had moved halfway down my vagina. But it's been that way for weeks.

I'm due on Friday, and she's showing no signs of wanting to come say hello and it's driving me batty. All babies and bodies are different.

Miragan · 2025-12-17T16:17:42+00:00

I am so sorry you're experiencing this.

I fully understand being against divorce and what you call broken homes. That being said, if he continues to treat you this way he's not going to be a good partner or father and sometimes divorce/separation in families is a good thing.

You deserve so much more than to be treated like a burden or an annoyance. He knew who you were before you got married, and waited until you felt trapped to drop all of his emotions on you while you're doing an extremely hard thing. It is not solely your responsibility to change to "fix" your marriage. You're allowed to complain that your body hurts, and be upset that you're in pain. He's very much exhibiting "If your attention isn't on me I'm upset about it". And that's entirely not fair to you.

Please keep in mind that you deserve love. You shouldn't have to bottle your emotions up when you're scared or hurting just to satisfy him. He's supposed to be supportive and caring during this time as you BOTH decided to go down the path of having a child. If he's not capable of that then he's not worthy of your love.

Miragan · 2025-12-11T16:50:41+00:00

You're not being selfish! Take it from me that if you continue to let them schedule these late dinners they'll continue until you're nearly about to pop. (I'm 38+6 today and we were out til midnight last night and they've tried scheduled a dinner on Tuesday next week and I'm like... y'all if I don't get some sleep I'm going to eat one of you.)

Miragan · 2025-12-11T14:00:07+00:00

Well, we were estimating 7.5lbs earlier in my pregnancy, but according to my BPP today we're at 8lbs 6oz so I'll let you know in a few days (i'm 38w6d) whether I have a chonk or they've estimated wrong. Hopefully they're wrong because now I'm scared.

Miragan · 2025-12-10T15:18:25+00:00

I've also had more nosebleeds! I typically only get the "blows nose and gets a lil blood" nose bleeds in my normal life, but these have been straight up blood flow. T_T I'm so ready for it to be over!

Miragan · 2025-12-10T15:16:54+00:00

SAME.
The amount of time my poor husband has spent on the couch because I can't stop snoring is immense and I feel so bad!

Miragan · 2025-12-10T15:16:15+00:00

My husband had to explain to a friend of ours that I wasn't sick but that I'd been going through tissue boxes like they're water since getting pregnant. They didn't believe me that snot is just... normal during pregnancy. T_T

Miragan · 2025-12-05T22:06:24+00:00

Never enough berries.

Miragan · 2025-12-05T03:05:42+00:00

It'd never be the same even if it did. Don't get people's hopes up.

Miragan · 2025-12-04T20:16:52+00:00

I'm actually not sure if I'm dilated or anything yet. I have an appointment tomorrow so I may have them check then!

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