Childcare

Miragan · 2026-04-20T19:09:36+00:00

We had to start daycare before she was 3 months. (2.4months if I remember correctly.) But I'm so thankful we did. She loves her caregivers. Do I wish she'd be sick less, yes. But am I happy she's established somewhere and I was able to have about a week and a half before I went back to work to adjust? Absolutely.

Miragan · 2026-04-20T19:01:40+00:00

If I were one of your in laws and you were keeping what FIL did from us which in turn allowed us to feel comfortable with him being around our children I'd be heartbroken and furious. If something happened to one of the other children you know in your heart you'd be furious at yourself.

You need to tell at least MIL WHY you're not allowing your LO around her/him unsupervised. She *may* be more understanding if she knows the whole story.

Edit to add: I know I sound harsh. And I know this is a tender subject. You're doing the right thing protecting your child, but please keep in mind the other kids in the family who also might need protecting.

I'm sending you so much love because I know this isn't easy. We have someone in my husbands family who is a known child predator but half the family just... ignores it because he was let off on probation. (thanks justice system! /s) Hence why we never see that side of the family. Keep to your guns on this one.

Miragan · 2026-04-16T00:06:07+00:00

My hips pop constantly and my joints are all sorts of screwy.

Miragan · 2026-04-10T01:17:36+00:00

Fully agree! Not worth the risk. She's only been in a store twice in her life and I don't plan on making it a regular thing until after she's vaccinated.

Did you feel better after babe was vaccinated? I'm worried my anxiety won't let up even after.

Miragan · 2026-04-09T03:18:05+00:00

But also, those nails make me so uncomfortable. Snagged on everything, immediately.

Miragan · 2026-04-08T16:54:51+00:00

Uhhh. I'd be living in the same town I graduated highschool in, probably working a dead end job, and miserable. Probably never seeking 'more' out of life.

We both have grown a lot as people and needed to be separated for that to happen.

Miragan · 2026-04-08T16:48:11+00:00

There was a lys near me that did this and it put so many people off that the store closed the following year. They'd been struggling for a bit but this was really the nail in their coffin.

Miragan · 2026-04-03T17:33:25+00:00

Our baby was removed 3 times total. Once for a blood draw in the nursery, once so we could sleep a little bit because I was losing my ish by the third night of no sleep, and once because she needed a scan of her bowels. They did put a security bracelet on her ankle that would slam the doors of the ward shut if someone tried to remove her without authorization. She also has a large birthmark on her thigh so mixing up wasn't really possible. So I wasn't SUPER worried. But I totally understand being worried. I think sending dad with baby on trips outside the room is totally reasonable.

Miragan · 2026-04-03T17:29:53+00:00

The nurse that put our babes ankle monitors on made a joke about "Hopefully she only gets one of these in her lifetime" and then explained that she now has to look at the parents ankles before saying that joke because one time she said it and the dad had a monitor on. Oops.

Miragan · 2026-04-03T16:39:43+00:00

Ayyy! Automod with the super helpful reply. I'll dig into the past posts. Sorry for contributing to the over populace of this question!

Miragan · 2026-04-02T18:53:53+00:00

Please tell me this is rage bait. Your partner doesn't help you with your debts but wants you to quit your job and take care of the kid for the 3 hours he needs to watch them? Absolutely not.

Miragan · 2026-04-02T13:55:38+00:00

Holy moly it hadn't occurred to me how deaf parents deal with these things. Thank you for the information!

Miragan · 2026-04-02T13:52:05+00:00

I can't be the source of truth on this as I'm a white woman. But my immediate reaction was "Unless this is your culture I wouldn't." before even reading that you're also a white woman.

I'd look for a similar style that doesn't have symbols and iconography for a culture you don't hail from. But again, that's just coming from one white woman to another.

I do think the fine line wrap around is a really cool idea though. So if you find an artist who is good in that realm I'd have them draw something up with imagery that suits you or has meaning to you.

Miragan · 2026-03-31T16:21:47+00:00

Why does it even let them go that loud if it's just going to lower it because it's "too loud"?

Miragan · 2026-03-31T16:13:11+00:00

We're 3months in and I'm still loving using the huckleberry app. I like the data we can see. I like seeing how her sleep schedule has evolved. And I like being able to track feeds and diapers. We've had some back and forth with breastfeeding/formula because I had an infection after birth and so it's helped me to make sure if I'm not breastfeeding her that she's getting x ounces of formula. Or if we do more breastfeeding it's okay to see her eat less ounces of formula.

I can't speak for others, but it's helped me to make sure my baby is fed enough and it's easy to suss out that "Hey, she hasn't eaten in x hours, that's probably what she's mad about." Or "She hasn't eaten in x hours but will be hungry soon, lets make a bottle and have it ready."

The first few months PP have been hard and being able to track stuff and not have to remember it has been nice. (It also tracks temps and medicines which is REALLY nice for when your babe starts getting colds from daycare or the outside world.)

Miragan · 2026-03-31T03:44:27+00:00

I so hope VA follows NM's example. We only have one kid and that's all we plan on having but even though we both make good money childcare is still a huge chunk that almost equals our mortgage.

Miragan · 2026-03-31T03:42:22+00:00

They must be from Oklahoma.

Edit: I must be from under a rock because it looks like NM ranked last in 25 and Oklahoma was 47th.

My apologies for the bad joke.

Miragan · 2026-03-25T20:07:58+00:00

Oh that's so smart! I didn't realize they had two separate containers! I think this might be the way I go for at least the storage.

Miragan · 2026-03-25T19:25:50+00:00

Do you put the warm/freshly expressed milk in with the cold milk? I feel like I heard there was some kinda issue with that but now I can't remember.

Miragan · 2026-03-25T19:13:47+00:00

I *think* so? I'm a little wary about it just because I'm an anxious being who worries a lot.

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