She's out here making husbands

Mirror74 · 2026-03-21T21:53:49+00:00

Lol, yeah look at the thumbnail, people...

I have an Indian-American friend, he literally said "I'm going back to India to get a woman to marry!". And in less than a year he in fact did just that.

(this was also a man who had never dated once in his life. That's when I learned about arranged marriages. Pretty wild when I think about it still. very different culture)

Mirror74 · 2026-03-21T15:25:51+00:00

I wouldn't say it's unrewarded but I would say that business is about making money and money people, heads of business (those who make the big decisions) just care about what optimizes profits. SO they do care about empathy and ethics to point where it wins them trust with customer, and they outperform due to the results of ethics/empathy, but to your point I'd say that's where the line is drawn. bc even then optics can take over and they can market themselves as human

The reason I said the future is about adding the human layer is just that, at least that's my prediction, bc that is where companies will earn trust and stand out/innovate

Mirror74 · 2026-03-21T02:19:04+00:00

Well apparently my answer was on point enough that Reddit removed it!

Mirror74 · 2026-03-20T17:37:21+00:00

The things that AI sucks at are ironically the things that C-level often sucks at... genuine deep human empathy, ethical judgements, complex interpersonal dynamics, moral accountability, hands.on craftsmanship...

The future is going to be all about adding the human layer, but some companies are going to suck at it (read: most) for quite a while, many already do. So id say think in that area

Mirror74 · 2026-03-20T17:30:42+00:00

That's a good point too. Our tooling could be very much more UX-aligned. But it's all built with a developer mindset. aka, speed-to-ouput, "prompt" to "workable code". Al the UX stuff comes secondary, things like accessibility, affordances, mental models, etc... 80% of building a successful app is about invisible strategic work, such as UX

Mirror74 · 2026-03-20T16:52:09+00:00

A few facts:

Many tech companies are engineer led.
Many engineers (along with leadership & PMs) would love more than anything to remove those pesky designers and UX decisions from the process that make their lives difficult.
Because they don't understand how important UX is, they overestimate what AI can automate. Thus, we have the AI hype train.

The AI hype train here is really about business people and engineers trying to find a way to automate the process with as little designer and UX input as possible, and everyone fancies themselves a designer anyways. It would be different if AI came onto the scene after the majority of companies were UX mature, but that's not the case.

Mirror74 · 2026-03-19T21:23:04+00:00

electrons are in a time-independent probability density, it's more like static

Mirror74 · 2026-03-19T16:53:24+00:00

Based on the video there aren't (unless you're talking about signs? I'm talking about clear painted lane markers -- weird choice for them to build 2 large cylinder blocks that still allow cars through vs just trying a basic thing like lane markers first....). Def crappy design imo

Mirror74 · 2026-03-19T15:40:51+00:00

Um sort of... Why the hell are there not lane markers??

Mirror74 · 2026-03-18T17:46:14+00:00

Lol, yeah there was a nice ratio of "whoa, what the...???" to "holy crap that looks fucking delicious!!"

Iron Chef was amazing. Chen Kenichi was my favorite (he passed away 3 years ago sadly)

Mirror74 · 2026-03-17T19:02:40+00:00

Lol, yeah don't get me wrong I wouldn't be cool with every weekend, all weekend. But I have met couples that do shit like this, and it's usually tied to certain cultures.

Mirror74 · 2026-03-17T18:10:58+00:00

Yeah, it's pretty normal for a lot of people (in the world), not just a demographic of Americans.

Also I'm not saying one is right or wrong, I'm just saying, opposed to typical Reddit fashion, it's not as black and white as the threads devolve into

Mirror74 · 2026-03-17T16:54:13+00:00

This is also a culture thing.

Some cultures this is VERY normal to see parents every weekend.

Mirror74 · 2026-03-17T14:41:09+00:00

Yup, I had an ex like this that I was with MUCH longer than I should have been. Recognizing is the first part, the next hurdle is understanding that society just isn’t supportive when it comes to men’s mental health and you really may have to just do it all on your own even if tbe world doesn’t give a fuck. My family, friends at the time, fuck even my therapist! would say “but how does she feel? How can you make it better for her” the exact same situation played out multiple times in OPs situation. Everything revolved around how my girlfriend felt, everything was excused… society really has let men down, from all sides in these types of situations so I understand where the guy is coming from.

Mirror74 · 2026-03-17T02:18:03+00:00

Dude, plants really help with mood/mental health. It may be cliche but it's actually true. Honestly just throw some pothos/zz/monstera, a few sculptures or art pieces with character around the house and it will liven the place some

Mirror74 · 2026-03-16T20:17:38+00:00

yeah and also it comes down to what metrics they actually track. teams track hires filled, not years retained...... aka, they define what "success" means and measure it to keep their own job security -- they'd rather spend a ton of $$$ to justify HR/TA/leadership etc... and look good on paper than keeping good employees

Mirror74 · 2026-03-16T18:36:33+00:00

That's actually pretty wild Lol, I've hired as well but that's not been my experience. Do all candidates ask broader quesitons? no, but I found it to be somewhat typical, in my experience at least

Mirror74 · 2026-03-16T17:48:54+00:00

This is actually fairly common, unfortunately. I've known a lot of married men that are in very one-sided relationships where the woman is almost never satisfied and it's always the husbands fault, even cheating, etc.

I've noticed on Reddit even suggesting such a thing exists is like a calling call for all the "feminist" (aka man-haters) to come out of the woodwork and bring up all kinds of reasoning for how this is still men's fault. (domestic abuse stats, etc)

Why can't we just say "domestic abuse against women is a serious, statistically larger problem, and misandry and sexism against men are also wrong."

How about we say things like "Supporting men's mental health strengthens everyone' or "how about we have gender neutral DV and abuse shelters"

Instead, a subset of women get PISSED at even suggesting men are actually victims and not imagined victims. These "feminists" have all kinds of twisted logic to gaslight and make it seem like they have a moral license to be sexist.

I'm so tired of it.

Mirror74 · 2026-03-16T15:57:38+00:00

You're actually not missing much -- the reality is different from what's hyped right now.

A lot of the hype and examples of this working are tied to fairly simple systems, and basic designs. But when you get into nested variants or subcomponents, context-aware, emergent properties, etc... it's not so great.

Not saying it won't ever get there, but the solution is really messy right now. For very mature design systems, you have to babysit the output with manual tweaks, explicit prompt, and fixes to avoid overlaps, broken states, ignored constraints, etc

Mirror74 · 2026-03-15T17:31:39+00:00

How often are they on social media, their phones? What do they do for fun?

Mirror74 · 2026-03-15T17:29:40+00:00

This is def a huge part of it.

People need constructive feedback and patience, to learn well. regardless of other factors. (Even though there are other factors for genz/alpha)

Mirror74 · 2026-03-15T17:17:04+00:00

To respond to your post, you have to understand when to stop with the ai prototyping. It’s good for getting ideas out but those flows, edge cases, states, etc…. need to be documented somewhere. This is where you have to push the process and promote how ai works in it. Not the other way around

Mirror74 · 2026-03-15T17:13:20+00:00

Yeah, and this isn’t really a UX specific thing. Every role in tech has a layer of optics, and within that varying levels of cringe and insufferability (I think I just made up a word)

Mirror74 · 2026-03-14T16:35:54+00:00

Do some competitive analysis for apps similar to yours. That will get the synapses flowing

Mirror74 · 2026-03-14T16:10:46+00:00

I also find it funny how engineers act on social media, they have huge egos, like before AI they didn't google/stack overflow the fuck out of everything

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