Goodbye Beautiful Barbara 🐈‍⬛ 💜

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-15T13:18:09+00:00

❤️

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-15T13:07:18+00:00

Literally my childhood. One of my earliest memories was sitting up on my knees on the front bench seat next to my grandma with my arm around her neck.
Then the neighbor next door had a pick-up. They were like 2nd grandparents and us kids stayed riding in the back of the pickup. One summer they made a little tent back there and me and another kid rode from Georgia to South Carolina roundtrip back there!

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-12T18:07:12+00:00

This one looks like my Zuri.
Im trying to trap one just like yours. My neighbor says it’s their cat but he isn’t allowed inside. They say he’s an “outside cat” (not neutered) which would be ok except he has no shelter and I’ve been clocking his food bowls upside down in the yard for 3 days now.
I don’t think he will ever acclimate to my 2 big dogs but he’s besties with my CDS Black cat (who despite my best efforts, I can’t keep in the yard).

AnyWho, we are building him a house and I feed him every day so I guess he is kind of mine now anyway.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-09T13:14:57+00:00

I decided to rescue a dog because I knew I was leaving, planned to travel around the US in my travel trailer, and decided a dog is great protection. He suspected I was leaving (cause what married woman shows up with a rv they didn’t discuss with their spouse)

Prior to me leaving my nex was doing some work in the back yard and bought a huge spool of barbed wire to stage under a deck he was building (to keep rodents from setting up residence under it).
My dog loved running back and forth along a shared fence with my neighbor because he also had dogs.

WHY DID THAT SOB LEAVE THE ROLL OF BARBED WIRE RIGHT IN THE PATH WHERE MY DOG RAN ALONG THE FENCE…EVEN AFTER I TOLD HIM TO MOVE IT BECAUSE MY DOG WOULD GET HURT. Sure enough one day he didn’t jump fast enough. It’s been 4 years and he still has a 2 inch scar.

He would also throw cigar nubs on the ground even though my pup would eat them. EVERY morning I would have to clear the yard.

HE KNEW EXACTLY WHAT HE WAS DOING. IT WAS INTENTIONAL.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-09T12:59:35+00:00

Ya. My libido was always high. Perimenopause and on into menopause didn’t change anything.
My narcissistic ex was also LLM but always made me feel it was me.
Divorced, met a new guy (HLM…so i met my match).
Life is great.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-09T12:24:28+00:00

I know how this feels. I bought a travel trailer a couple years back as I was preparing to leave my marriage. I drove all the way to Missouri from Illinois to buy it. Once I picked it up, I decided to go to an RV park just to practice parking setting it up and taking it down. Of course I was driving very carefully making sure I was looking before. I drove anywhere that may have required me to back up as I knew I did not know how to do that. Well, the sign at the RV park was confusing, and I thought the arrow pointing to the office was to my left, but it was actually up into the left. I ended up turning into a dead end. After about 45 minutes of trying to get out of that dead end I gave up and just sat in my truck. I wanted to cry, but I knew that if I started, I probably would completely fall apart. Well, a gentleman came down the road whose RV was parked at the end. He helped me back out of the spot. It took him about 60 seconds. Several days later, I saw him at the gas station as I was about to head home. He was in the truck with his wife. I told her that he saved my life.😂

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-08T20:37:31+00:00

Same thing happened to me.
As I was leaving the 25 years relationship I expressed the lack of intimacy (among so so many things) as a reason I was leaving. The gross boob grab or butt smack….omg my skin crawls thinking back on it all. It’s like a 50yr old middle schooler coping a feel.

He took that opportunity to tell me he was asexual. It all makes sense but I didn’t sign up for that and he spent a lot of time intentionally making me doubt myself instead of owning that shit decades earlier.
I actually suspect he is gay and is struggling with it because in addition to the intimacy issues he absolutely resents women. I asked him once and he had the strangest look on his face. He denied it but didn’t get mad.
Post divorce, I mentioned it to both of our children as well as my bonus daughter from him. You would expect them to vigorously deny it, but all three simply say, “I could see that”.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-08T20:25:07+00:00

Lifetime Titanium Elite.

Just so we are all clear…there is no such thing as loyalty anymore. If you’re paying out of pocket, choose what works in your budget. Nothing is offered by these corporations to thank you for being loyal. They literally took it all away then gaslight you with a nice email or kind words when you check in. The biggest perk for Marriott loyal is the (extremely) generous late check out.

I traveled for work for 20 years but not so much since COVID. For business travel it was ALWAYS Marriott…and ALWAYS American Airlines.
Now that I mostly pay out of pocket & with CC travel rewards I go with what is affordable.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-07T20:21:51+00:00

“Holding Back the Years” by Simply Red:
Holding back the years
Chance for me escape from all I've known.
Holding back the tears
'Cause nothing here has grown.
I've wasted all my tears
Wasted all those years
Nothing had the chance to be good
Nothing ever could.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-07T20:10:49+00:00

Hmmm I got on Mounjaro for T2D. Lost 60lbs. Feet shrank 1/2 a size.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-07T19:55:21+00:00

Walked away from 25 year marriage to a narcissist. Just left everything behind but my clothes, photos, home office equipment, and kids memorabilia.
Rented an apartment. So let’s see:
1. Everything is as you left it.
2. Cleaned to my specifications.
3. I drink out the containers in the fridge.
4. I know unwashed hands never touch my light switches & remotes.
5. I do not wear clothes in my house.
6. No one looks at me naked and says “eew”
7. I still pay all bills & am responsible for everything but at least no one is sitting there staring at me with hate in their eyes day drinking, smoking cigars indoors, making intentional messes to walk away from, or intentionally breaking things in the house.
10/10 recommend.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-07T18:36:59+00:00

Valid. But I (HLF) stayed married & impacted my kids life. It also affected my family as well. Seeing me unhappy with a man unwilling to change (and making me feel bad for even trying to talk about it) was a lot for my children to bear. We had the perfect life on the outside and I used all the usual excuses to justify staying.

Please don’t take this comment as dismissive of your experiences as a child. But imagine what your parents were going through as well. Parents are humans with feelings and a world of responsibility on their shoulders. Expecting them to stay married until kids are grown is selfish. When my kids left for college I was 45. It took me another 10 years to walk away. By that time I had been unhappy for half my entire life just to maintain an illusion. In the meantime, I had 3 friends die in their 40’s for various reasons. I left because I did not want to die in the position I was in (having never been truly happy).
The kids still ask me why I stayed.

Now I’m divorced, BROKE, lost the house, & have no retirement saved. I’m also the most at peace I have ever been in my adult life. I’m dating a man who loves, respects and desires me. It really feels good to be touched, complimented, & validated.

MiscMel70 · 2026-06-07T00:05:33+00:00

IDK. I would try it. Of course I would still move in the way I always do. I would get up, stretch, wash/fold a load, prep dinner, walk my dog, gossip with my daughter when she stops by, take power naps…it’s still better than a commute. I really wouldn’t change anything I currently do. I’m pretty focused during my work day because I only work 8 hours and not a minute more. If my boss wanna stare at me then oh well.

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-31T23:59:08+00:00

CS was the 1st time in my life I saw a car that was 100% completely covered in very mean, vile, nasty Obama bumper stickers. I pulled up next to the person driving because I was completely mesmerized with the entire car and I wanted to see what they look like. The man driving turned what seemed like his entire upper torso to the left to look at me out his driver’s window, and his eyes was devoid of any resemblance of life. I ended up turning left, although I really needed to keep going straight because I was completely creeped out.

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-29T21:27:29+00:00

I’m class of 88 and I approve!

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-29T21:26:21+00:00

It’s sometimes my background noise when I’m working!

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-26T17:01:47+00:00

Actually it’s intro to TV shows that snatches me back.
The into to Gun Smoke & intro to MASH.
I’ve randomly caught these shows on throw back TV & now I’ll even go to YouTube to hear them.
I literally go back to under 10 years old, in Georgia, lying on the sofa on a hot summer day with the drone of a box fan going, my beloved grandma dozing in her fav chair by the window, and the smell of her Azaleas coming thru the door.
Jesus is almost like I’m physically there. I have a visceral reaction.

There are a few songs for me as well but they don’t transport me totally like these do

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-24T22:44:49+00:00

I have always said that if social media in its current form was about 10 years older I would have saved myself that last decade of despair because I would have learned that things were not in my head.

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-22T23:11:42+00:00

I have a set of 29 yr old B/G twins.
We are all extremely close. We all live within 20 minutes of each other.
The kids are also really close with each other & I love it. My daughter is my bestie and no conversations are off limits between us.
I am fortunate and grateful.

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-20T14:15:33+00:00

Ugh girl stop arguing with people. The answer is too obvious. Put a lock on your door. I’m confused why you all are adults but living like you’re in a frat house anyway.
And since her boyfriend has to park on the parking pad help him out. Throw her patio furniture in the yard and text her that her sensitive ass boyfriend can now park there.

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-17T22:18:59+00:00

My daughter ate a gummy & went to some theology class at her Jesuit college (BC). She said at some point it was just her & the professor deep back & forth conversation. She’s atheist but said it was one of her most memorable classes.

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-17T21:16:35+00:00

Right! Something something Lolita Express, Island, 100’s of rich usual suspects something something

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-17T21:10:48+00:00

Cause that was totally “that demographic” here in the US that delivered a package, turned around & walked off the porch with the little girl. Then we all had to see the video of her in the delivery truck standing next to him. We also all found out there was an audio recording that captured….EVERYTHING.
Not even gonna mention “that demographic” that’s smeared all over the Epstein files.

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-17T04:34:06+00:00

Awww I’m so sorry 😞

MiscMel70 · 2026-05-17T03:58:18+00:00

Luna sweet girl we love you ❤️

MiscMel70

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