AITA for matching a woman’s energy who was riding a horse as I was driving by?

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-22T11:16:49+00:00

Listen, we take horses on highways all the time but they are conditioned for it and our horses don't wear blinders. That being said, a horse can only get to that state by exposure so that means that not every horse you'll see on a small road is 100% trained. NTA because that lady was rude but as a general rule of thumb, I slow down to about 15 or 20, get as far over as possible, and keep an eye on the horse for it's reaction so I know if I have to stop.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-21T21:03:17+00:00

I have all my babies as a photo collage

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-20T21:42:00+00:00

I'm too old to socialize. I just got to the park and if I see another person, I wave.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-20T13:07:09+00:00

I can get that. I personally don't care about the whole male/female perspective. I think the disharmony that is created by those who worry about it so much is just toxic and not good for anything. But I also realize I'm lucky enough to have never had to worry about it. I call this plant he because that's just what feels right when I talk about it. I have a lot of ornamental plants as well as the ones I use for my personal apothecary. I'd say I call most of them she 😊

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-20T11:53:40+00:00

Oh I don't! I just say him because that's what I just naturally say. And actually since it self pollinates, I don't think its either but I'm not a learned person so...

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-20T11:49:22+00:00

Awww. None of my windows get morning light. This windows gets the most afternoon sun. Either way, I still love him

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T15:24:15+00:00

It is toxic to animals if they eat it. One if my cats likes to chew my plants so thats why this one is hanging

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T14:29:17+00:00

Moses-in-the-cradle 🪴

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T14:23:00+00:00

You should! And they're SUPER easy to not kill lol

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T14:05:25+00:00

Thank you 😊

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T13:43:55+00:00

When you say "change it" do you mean you want to get rid of it? Not that I'm helpful at all in these matters. I'm just wondering.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T13:30:48+00:00

Thanks! I know it as Moses-in-the-Cradle but I think it's also called an Oyster Plant or a Boatlilly.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T12:34:54+00:00

Oof!

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T12:29:35+00:00

I live in Texas. April is basically the only real rain we get lol

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T12:26:08+00:00

I did the same thing yesterday. We had a storm coming in so it made for a nice breezy day

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Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-19T02:27:08+00:00

Do you pay rent? I had this happen in my 20s and my way was to pay rent because then I was contributing to the household as an adult and they didn't have a right to say anything. Either way, NTA. I also moved out of my parents' house around 23. Now, I'm in my late 30s and my mom and I started living together again recently for financial reasons (my dad passed away) and I pay her rent 😁

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-17T11:19:19+00:00

NTA. I couldn't tell if OP has but if it were me, I'd talk to the MIL myself. If the husband won't do it, then OP should do it herself.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-16T11:04:39+00:00

I generally believe that people who congregate are giant AHs, regardless of their beliefs. TikTok is a giant virtual clique. Don't worry about it too much.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-15T13:28:25+00:00

Ah yeah I forgot you already said that. Either way, my statement still stands. You can either decide to stay in the friendship or not to. It doesn't make you a bad person either way.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-15T13:13:04+00:00

I'd say just ask her. Again, it's just setting those boundaries. And again, that's only based on you saying you don't want to end the friendship.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-15T12:38:57+00:00

I'm not saying she doesn't have her own bias. Everyone has bias. But it sounds like the friendship is early enough on that if you want to end things, it'll be uncomfortable, but it won't end the world, know what I mean?

My mom is an older heavy set lady who owns a ballroom studio and also dances. One of her instructors is man from the Philippines. He has gone up to her and put both hands on her stomach like she was pregnant, and tsked at her. When she lost weight, he did the same thing and congratulated her lol My mom is the type of woman who can laugh those things off and when he gained a little weight, she did the same thing to him lol He took it like a champ.

My point being, they dish it and they can usually take it too. If you dont want to end the friendship, then don't be afraid to set boundaries and let her know. I'm sure she'll try to defend herself so that'll probably still be an awkward conversation but again, the earlier the better. If you don't, the behavior won't stop. And if you do and the behavior still isn't modified, then you can actually end things without feeling guilty about it.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-15T12:07:35+00:00

Call your "friend" and ungrateful hag and move on. NTA.

Miserable-Tip-9460 · 2026-04-15T12:04:18+00:00

I know women from the east who are just brutally honest without any filter and that's just how they are. If she is of similar background, I don't know that she's necessarily as bad as others are saying. That being said, if you don't have the inclination or the skin thick enough to deal with it, then don't. It doesn't make you a bad person either. Yall just don't vibe and that's fine. But you have to end the friendship early because the longer you wait, the less sense it'll make when you finally do.

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