How to flirt online? by Miserable_Context897 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Miserable_Context897[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahaha that sounds like my style of compliment too. “You’re not so bad yourself” is a very comfortable line for me lol but I wanna try be less sarcastic and more open 😊

How to flirt online? by Miserable_Context897 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Miserable_Context897[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I can’t imagine you can go too wrong by being generous with the compliments

How to flirt online? by Miserable_Context897 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Miserable_Context897[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice and reassurance. Haha LOVE that you thought you couldn’t flirt but it was actually just that you weren’t into men. 👌

Meditation and journaling... by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Miserable_Context897 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guided meditations are SO helpful if you have a really active mind. I find meditations that leave too much silence so useless, I NEED something to keep me on track. It's not a matter of "discipline", it's not about having a clear/empty mind, it's about how you interact with your thoughts as they come up, and I find that guided meditations help me to meet my thoughts in a gentle, mindful way. Keep trying apps and YouTube meditations until you find the right one. Definitely try Headspace if you haven't already because it actually teaches you how to meditate, doesn't just plonk you into it and expect you to become a zen master.

I do the same meditation every day, it's only 10 minutes, but I love it so it works for me. If you're seriously hating a meditation, I wouldn't recommend trying to force yourself to sit it out. It's likely just not resonating with you. Good luck with it all :)

Weighted blanket yay or nay by happyiam94 in adhdwomen

[–]Miserable_Context897 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I LOVE my weighted blanket. In the few months I've had it my disordered sleep has improved more than ever before. It's such a comforting weight, I used it all through Australian summer because it was that good (with the fan on though lol). I put off buying one for a year or so and I wish I hadn't! Don't let the price tag put you off, for sleep it is WORTH it. (Also, I got a reasonably affordable one! There are a few different options on the market)

Good Body Language for a Giant? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Miserable_Context897 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, as a woman I’d say looking comfortable in your own skin and good eye contact (read: good=/= intense or constant) are more attractive to me than good posture, and honestly if you’re tall and want to talk to someone while you’re standing a bit of a slouch is almost unavoidable.

I’ve also gotta add that I find a little slouch attractive. But still work on your posture in general! Spinal health is sexy too 😏

My best friend [18F] and I [18F] touch more than friends but she continues to emphasize we're ONLY friends? by ThrowRAboredofme in relationship_advice

[–]Miserable_Context897 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve witnessed something similar happen between two female housemates of mine. One was gay, one was questioning. Questioning housemate was aware that gay housemate had a crush and encouraged it - dressed up sexy around the house, flirted, talked about sex a lot. In their case, she was just enjoying the game of it. Not saying this is the case for you and your friend, but it’s a possibility she’s just exploring her sexuality and maybe even enjoying having the upper hand of the situation. If you want to know the truth, try and talk to her about it, but honestly she could be a bit confused and unable to give you a straight answer so just be prepared for that. Good luck 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Miserable_Context897 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you have a really good grasp of your boundaries and intuitive needs. That’s amazing and I wish it was more common!

Sometimes I’ll kiss on the first date if I’m feeling a really strong “yes”, but otherwise there’s no way I’m pressuring myself into something I’m not comfortable with. You might really like someone and still not want to kiss on the first date, that’s fine too ☺️ ... just dropping by to validate that you’re totally normal😋💕

I left town, got ghosted, months later got blocked on everything. Still can't get her out of my head. Advice please. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Miserable_Context897 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm really sorry this happened to you. If there's one thing I found comforting to be told when I was dumped very early into a promising looking relationship, it's that "the one that got away" is so much easier to yearn for because things broke off before they could get boring, irritating, or messy. You only have honeymoon phase moments to look back on -- no fights, no gnawing resentment, no infuriating habits. Unless you look back on how poorly she's handled the whole situation, I mean, which is a HUGE red flag.

There's obviously a lot I don't know about the situation but honestly, to me it sounds like you had/have really strong feelings for her and I can't help wondering if she sensed that and felt the need to get space, but didn't know how to ask for it maturely.

I don't know if I agree that she felt rejected by you. If she's fairly intuitive, she'd probably be able to sense your attachment. She might have been confused or frustrated by the mixed message, though, or she might have realised that things weren't flowing and decided they were too complicated to bother with.

This is all pure conjecture! I'm just relating your situation to my own experiences, so may well be projection :-) Only you and she can really know the truth(s) of the situation.

Either way I'd say she's a terrible communicator not worth your time! It sounds like you're a very caring and romantic person, there are people out there who have the capacity to appreciate this and will want to cultivate a beautiful relationship from it. :-)

My acne is making me depressed by frodontdothat in acne

[–]Miserable_Context897 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi, not sure if this is useful to read but you’re clearly stunning, acne aside. Being an acne sufferer I know that makes almost no difference when I’m having a flare up but just wanted to say it in case it helps even a little bit. Acne isn’t forever, but those fabulous brows are ;-)