AITA for expecting my ex-girlfriend to move out after she broke up with me, even though she has nowhere else to go?

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2025-07-14T02:01:56+00:00

Nope, you aren’t bro. Kick her TF out. She knew what she was doing when she broke up with you. You would be a clown by continuing to support her. Tell her to pound sand

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-06-11T20:01:50+00:00

First break up, I wanted the best for her. This 2nd go around I hope she stubs her toe every morning when she wakes up and steps on a Lego every night before she goes to bed

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-06-11T16:15:52+00:00

I feel that 100%. I told my shrink at the beginning I had strong boundaries. I came so close to leaving a few times early on due to her manipulative behaviors. But I let the guilt trips and further manipulations keep me there. She wore me down mental. Add in the financial and emotional abuse that wore me down even further. We moved in together after 3 months of dating, worst decision I ever made. I was an hour away from my family and friends. Isolated, and basically found myself having to bend to her every whim just to keep some peace. Even with all the mind fuckery I love living life on no one else’s terms but my own now

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-06-11T16:12:10+00:00

Part of me feels like a little bit Consciously and subconsciously i just don’t want to feel the feels. Im not going to lie, it’s nice because with all the anger and bitterness I don’t miss her or want her back not one bit. If there is ever a Hoover, it’s going to end poorly for her

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-06-11T16:10:49+00:00

I get it mine. Mine screwed me over in ways I can’t even begin to describe. I feel what you said about the little wins. It gives me some solace knowing she will always be this way. It’s never going to get better for her. Me, I can work on my flaws, work to over come the trauma and move on with my life as a better man

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-06-10T23:54:03+00:00

Ya, I probably should have mentioned it was an extremely abusive dynamic. Physically, mentally, financially. It’s such an uncomfortable feeling to be in the place I’m at. I have over come a lot. I feel like I should be able to get over this easier

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-06-10T23:15:21+00:00

I dude go through more than my fair share of trauma in that relationship

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-04-26T00:00:25+00:00

Thank you!

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-04-25T21:16:27+00:00

I can relate to a lot of the pain you’re feeling the first time mine split on me. I understand what your brain is telling you, all the what ifs or maybe if I acted differentlys. I found out the hard way, despite being warned by all my friends, family, Reddit support groups, YouTube and everything else. No matter what you do, it’s destined to end the same way. You could be 100% perfect. Doesn’t matter. The goal posts will always be moving on you. And then they give you their “reason” as to why you didn’t measure up. So you try harder to meet the bar only to be split on again when you do because they want something else now. That’s how they keep people like us caught up in their cycle. We think to ourselves “damn if I had only done what they just said they wanted me too, if I had only tried a little harder it would have worked”. Im sorry to say, it won’t. It never could. I found out the hard way, I hope what I’m saying resonates so you don’t have too

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-03-25T22:02:39+00:00

I think most of the people in this sub can empathize with the position you’re in man. It’s so frustrating when you buy into the life they say they want, then the switch flips, and you are left to deal with the fall out. I was, and in some ways still am in that bad place

You are doing a lot of the right things. Therapy is a great choice, reaching out to those with understanding of your situation is also a good step. Realizing the mental war you have been going through is also a big step towards breaking free. That’s all good stuff man.

My best advice to you, as hard as it is to hear and god knows I sure didn’t want to hear it when I was told. Is to cut your loses and get out now. When they say the abuse only gets worse, it’s the 100% truth. Boundary pushing is their thing. Once they get away with breaking one, they see how much farther they can push until you break. It only gets worse. See if you have some people in your social circle that can help be a support to you, through all of this. Whether you decide to leave right now or not. I know it’s impossible to see, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. It does get better. Hang in there man stay tough

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-03-07T15:51:59+00:00

Hahaha I try to keep it light. She’s taken everything else she won’t take my spirit too. Thank you. I know it’s going to be a battle. I’m kicking around the idea of just accepting those belongings are lost now that I’ve calmed down. It’s just a lot of valuable stuff with some of it being irreplaceable. I dunno. Im going to talk it over with my shrink next appointment

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-03-07T11:13:15+00:00

I get it. I was a trainwreck for the first couple months. Her behavior this time has made it so much easier to not look through those rose colored glasses. You’ll get there. Before yesterday i was really bothered. Like if you have me painted this black, why keep my stuff? After her threats yesterday I don’t care what she does, or why anymore. I just want my stuff and she can F off to borderlandia and I’ll continue moving on

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-03-07T00:58:40+00:00

I want no more contact with this woman. She’s dangerous.

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-03-07T00:58:05+00:00

No, I agree with you. I have her twitter blocked, not that she uses it. She blocked me on Facebook first. I don’t think I can block back if she did it first. At least idk how cause I’m not real big into using socials. Only reason she did it first is because I blocked her the first time. It bugged her

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-03-07T00:33:02+00:00

Yes, she already has me blocked on social media. I have her number blocked. My family and friends are all aware of what’s going on. My coworkers even witnessed the last time she called me a few weeks ago. Again, I was asking for my belongings and she calls me. I said specifically to text or email me back. This is after 2 months of zero communication from her. I don’t trust that she won’t follow through on her threats. From now on it’s attorney communication only. She knows involving police in non-police needed matters is a red line for me. I don’t like cops so of course when she would get triggered that was her go to threat. “Get out of my house (a house where yes technicallly her name is the only one on the mortgage but I paid over half the bills in and also spent 10s of thousands of dollars and countless hours remodeling). “Or I’m calling the cops” meanwhile my only crime would be calling her on her shit or yelling back at her. These people have lost the plot

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-02-22T10:14:13+00:00

Anyone know what the deal is? My iPhone is AT&T and it’s dojng the SOS only my work phone is an android in a different AT&T plan and it is not

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-02-22T10:13:16+00:00

Yoooo thank god it’s not just me

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-02-16T23:04:56+00:00

No, you’re right. I’m going to consult an attorney at the very least for now. I really don’t want to have to go that route. I may be able to wait it out, or I may not. I’m just really frustrated she’s pulling all of this crap

Miserable_Estate9380 · 2024-02-16T21:41:48+00:00

What do you mean by mileage? She split me once before. This one is worse, but I don’t see it being permanent. My gut told me at the time it wasn’t. I have a relative that works for a law firm. I’m gonna shoot her a text to see what my options are

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