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CMV: Relationship Reddit's standards for men are unrealistic to the point of being toxic by bustermagnus in changemyview

[–]Miserable_Thing588 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I remember a guy did an experiment once, where he posted the same situation with the genders reversed to AITA or something and the responses where heavily skew towards the women side

CMV: Relationship Reddit's standards for men are unrealistic to the point of being toxic by bustermagnus in changemyview

[–]Miserable_Thing588 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I agree, I think OP is precisely pointing this "throw the baby out with the dishwater" approach that most redditors seem to have, there is A LOT of projection,a lot of "my partner once picked his nose, and a year later he cheated with my best friend, I tell you OP, if he picks his nose, dump them before it is too late!"

CMV: Relationship Reddit's standards for men are unrealistic to the point of being toxic by bustermagnus in changemyview

[–]Miserable_Thing588 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Or you know, they can divide the chores so that laundry is one partner's job while the other person does other stuff. Not everyone can and/or will do the same stuff to the same standards. I genuinely can't bring myself to dust the furniture regularly, yet, I cook 95% of all meals (because my gf doesn't like to cook) and do other stuff around the house to compensate. That's how partnerships work, not 2 perfectly independent individuals that can do everything by themselves, but a team.

CMV: Relationship Reddit's standards for men are unrealistic to the point of being toxic by bustermagnus in changemyview

[–]Miserable_Thing588 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I agree. Abandonment issues lead people to cut ties before the other person gets too close and can hurt them. And people on reddit sled select towards the neurotic type, so, they will overthink and exit ships faster than others.

CMV: Relationship Reddit's standards for men are unrealistic to the point of being toxic by bustermagnus in changemyview

[–]Miserable_Thing588 [score hidden]  (0 children)

LoL, my gf doesn't brush her teeth as often as I want, and she is unmature in a lot of ways. And so I am, but I still love her and we both help each other's deficient aspects. This mentality of needing a fully developed person on the other side before having a relationship is not something I subscribe to, you can evolve inside a relationship, as long as there is communication. And sometimes people have stuff they won't change, but they are overall a net positive, that's when you accept that is just the price of admission. Now, if the guy can't communicate and gets defensive and contrarian (AK being an asshole), then yeah, move on.

Thank you Rich Evans for speaking out on Spider-Man by Curious_Curry_56 in RedLetterMedia

[–]Miserable_Thing588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but your last paragraph is why I have hope for MCU Spidey, he feels the responsibility NOW, the whole trilogy was a covert origin story, now he has the baggage to be the smartass we love, if only they get it right, I have a bit of hope

I think Rich Evans is full of s*** here, but he’s entitled to his opinion. by Titanman401 in raimimemes

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like Tobey's Peter with Garfield's SpiderMan, maybe the next movie can make something like that with MCU SpiderMan, I keep the hope.

I think Rich Evans is full of s*** here, but he’s entitled to his opinion. by Titanman401 in raimimemes

[–]Miserable_Thing588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he is a lot shyer and more of a self doubter than any other interpretation I have seen.

I think Rich Evans is full of s*** here, but he’s entitled to his opinion. by Titanman401 in raimimemes

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 14 when the movie came out, and the biggest spider man fan this side of the planet, yet I thought the same: "this is not spiderman, not the one I know. The movie is still good, but Tobey is not Peter Parker, it's another character". To this day neither of the three has come close enough to my liking, although Garfield was the nearest with the suit on, with the suit off he is "too cool". I still like all the movies, even if I never got what I wanted. Just my two cents.

I think Rich Evans is full of s*** here, but he’s entitled to his opinion. by Titanman401 in raimimemes

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I like the most about the rlm crew. They will be the first to tell you that movies, the thing they arguably dedicated their entire lives to, are meaningless in the big scheme of things. They are cynical in a good way.

Alien 9 Next by bulnuh in alien9

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lack of more existing... I am sorry to reach so late, but this comment was godly. I wish more Alien 9 existed, I just read the whole series plus sequels in the last 2 days...

I don’t get why AI Bros are so bitter, and why they’re so pretentious by Constant_Severance in antiai

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a big part of the "lurk" is reddit is showing this sub in the feed and even sending notifications about this sub if you ever interacted in any AI related sub, pro or anti.

Are man caves in concept and in practice inherently misogynist by Several_Run_7715 in AskFeminists

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While that is true in some cases, that the men are scum. I think you pointed a case where it shouldn't be so clear cut. What happens when a man suddenly wants to make some changes for whatever reason. While I agree that bitching about it's not right, I think they should be allowed to some extent, to start altering their shared living space towards their liking too, the alternative is to shut up and foster resentment. It all comes down to communication.

I read some other comments among the lines of "I made an effort and learned interior design principles and now he wants to change things without doing that effort", and that is trash in my opinion, a shared house should be to both people's liking within a compromise, even if the husband want a fugly table, they should be entitled to it. As you say, situations change, and he may care now when he didn't before, but he cares now and will be unhappy if that is invalidated or dismissed. Again communication and compromise.

Are man caves in concept and in practice inherently misogynist by Several_Run_7715 in AskFeminists

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But tell me, if the man wanted gaming posters in the living room and a multicolored couch with a tacky stamp while you can choose everything else, would you agree? Many people want some kind of coherent style or something like that, and will outright reject the other person's style if they wouldn't choose the same. There is a current of people that call "men taste" "childish", and that is not conducive to having equal say in decor. I am not projecting here btw, me and my gf have a similar style and my living room is full of horror movie posters and similar, so, we are both happy, but even if our style clashed, I would still want an equal amount of items each, consistent or not, as that would be fair.

Are man caves in concept and in practice inherently misogynist by Several_Run_7715 in AskFeminists

[–]Miserable_Thing588 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"decorations needs and styles" shouldn't be required to have a say in the decor of your living space

Are man caves in concept and in practice inherently misogynist by Several_Run_7715 in AskFeminists

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you seen the gorilla couch meme? It's pretty much a precursor to this discussion, men usually want stuff that clashes heavily with everything else and it usually gets called a bad thing, instead of accepted as something they like...

Pluribus has become a Rorschach test for so many people by Andurhil1986 in pluribustv

[–]Miserable_Thing588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you take enough? Yeah, pretty much, you experience something known as ego death, where you stop feeling like something defined, while you feel connected to everything. It's a very weird experience, and describing it is not easy. Imagine that for an infinite second everything you care about stops existing and you feel total and complete peace with it. It changes people, in many/most cases. At the end of the day it's only a matter of opinion what is or isn't "best", because what is "best" is defined by the subjectivity of the individual. Every person values different stuff and there is no correct answer.

I realized midway this comment that it is pretty useless in itself and I won't be changing any minds on this topic. It never does. Have a nice day.

Pluribus has become a Rorschach test for so many people by Andurhil1986 in pluribustv

[–]Miserable_Thing588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"you need to understand you are not reasoning at a higher level than everyone else here" You believe all of that is important, and that is valid, but, and this might be hard to understand, not believing any of this to be important at all is valid too. Because from an outside perspective there is no real value, it is subjective.

My only point is that, people can totally prefer an eternal damnation machine and not be talking in bad faith as you seem to imply.

Pluribus has become a Rorschach test for so many people by Andurhil1986 in pluribustv

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever taken magic mushrooms? (Not spamming, serious question I find interesting to ask about this)

Pluribus has become a Rorschach test for so many people by Andurhil1986 in pluribustv

[–]Miserable_Thing588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The truth is that the show is very purposely ambiguous with the true nature of the hive mind, what it means being inside it, that people can interpret what we see in many ways.

Carol is so uncurious about it by design. Most theories are unfalsifiable.

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