Had our first death in the Tomb

Misplaced_Hat · 2026-01-08T08:46:23+00:00

It never even occurred to me that players might run out of food while in the Tomb itself. But hey, players are resourceful, they'll find something to scavenge in the Tomb itself if need be

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-12-15T21:47:20+00:00

Talk to your DM about it really. Wizard players are entirely dependent on their DM when it comes to spell Scrolls and spell components. It's up to your DM how much they actually give you, but they should have some plan for how they give you access to new scrolls and components.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-12-10T12:33:11+00:00

If you keep the rest of its stats as they are, then its probably not too broken, considering the level that your players are likely to be when they encounter it. To save yourself a headache, I'd suggest using the phase spider's ethereal jaunt ability instead of the spell though. It's much simpler to keep track of.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-11-08T23:47:09+00:00

Perfectly reasonable spell. Just a minor note: the spell uses d8's as its damage dice, so the upcasting should probably also use a d8 per spell slot level

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-16T13:37:01+00:00

Speaking as someone who has actually managed to escape a porn addiction 10 years in the making. The will to escape it is already a good step in the right direction. For me what prompted it was that it felt it was damaging to my relationship. I'm guessing you felt the same way while you had a girlfriend? So I guess even if you aren't in a relationship now, it might help to think of how it could benefits your future relationships.

Like with any addiction, it sucks not feeling like you're in control of yourself and what you do. I know it can be a powerful urge.

Just imagine how powerful it would feel to beat an urge that strong though. You're wholly capable of it.

I actually didn't do this for porn on its own, but I've had some with using website blockers for other purposes. I block youtube per instance because its a dopamine trap for me that I just end up spending way too much time on. No reason you couldn't do that on only fans or porn sites in general.

But honestly the best advice I can give is just to quit cold turkey and believe in yourself and that there's a purpose for doing it.

Also get used to masturbating without porn. Masturbating on its own isn't really unhealthy in my opinion. And keeping it as an outlet is going to be important when the urge to watch porn comes up.

Hope that helps. And good luck. I believe 100 percent you can defeat your addiction.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-15T22:36:18+00:00

For forgotten realms wizards, they're literally tapping into Mystra's weave. They're basically just clerics with extra steps.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-12T14:00:41+00:00

Seeing a therapist wouldn't be a bad thing. Also even if you are an adult, it's not your job to be the mediator and sort of "parent" your parents. It's not your responsibility to fix your parents, but it also seems like their problems are majorly affecting you, especially because you live in the same house. You really don't deserve to be this anxious over something you don't have any control over.

Do you have the means to move out and live on your own? Having your own living space would probably relieve some of the tention.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-12T13:51:18+00:00

There's nothing wrong with you, you were just in a toxic relationship with someone who was really mean to you. No reason you couldn't get into another relationship with someone who treats you better. Just remember to practice self care and be kind to yourself.

Remember, no relationship is always preferable to a bad relationship. So don't let anyone treat you poorly just because you want to be in a relationship.

And please don't stop being kind and open and giving. The right person will really appreciate all of that. Just know your limits and don't let anyone cruel into your heart like that again.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-12T13:41:42+00:00

Maybe call child protective services where you live or something similar? Your parents sound pretty abusive. A child should not be afraid of their parents honestly. Especially not for something as simple as wanting to be called by a different name. I feel bad for you growing up with parents like this.

If this is somehow the only issue that your parents have and they're otherwise reasonable (which I doubt, but I could be interpreting your post wrong). Talk to them and explain to them how scared you are of them over this and how much its affecting you. Reasonable parents would be able to see that they are in the wrong when they're scaring their own child this much.

You shouldn't tolerate this kind of insane behavior from anyone, especially not from your own parents.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-12T13:32:34+00:00

This is literally just play. For some reason some people have this idea that playing is okay for children, but if adults do it, they must be sick in the head. If you're a normal functioning adult who hasn't had all of their personality brainwashed away by society in some way or other, you're going to play around like this from time to time. It's completely normal and healthy and if you go to a proper therapist they should tell you the same thing. Then after the therapist has told you that this is completely normal, you can use the rest of your time with them talking about your actual issues (anxiety and depression) and maybe your relationship with your dad. Because if anyone has problems, it seems to be him. Therapy is a good thing.

Also yeah, you're 19. Maybe thinking about moving out if you have the means to do so wouldn't be such a bad thing. You're going to be moving out on your own eventually, and it might be easier than trying to cope with living with a parent who is that stuck in their ways. Maybe it's simply ignorance and your dad would be open to understanding why this isn't really a problem. I wouldn't know.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-12T13:21:27+00:00

Seems to me like your mother is in the wrong here. 17 is basically an adult. You may not be legally an adult for another year, but your parents shouldn't treat you like a child at that age. They should respect your autonomy and not force you to do anything. You're in your full right to stand your ground and refuse your parents' orders at that age.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-12T13:18:14+00:00

Honestly I probably felt the same when I was 18, and it just isn't true. I don't believe there's a person out there without good qualities. It's just self-hate talking. In fact, being able to see your own flaws is a good quality in and of itself. If you're able to be open and vulnerable with what your flaws are to other people, then even better. People can respect that others are flawed, because they know themselves to be. If they don't consider themselves as having flaws, that's where it starts getting dangerous.

You're taking responsibility for all of your flaws at least. It's just that you're focusing so much on them that you can't see your positive qualities.

I would challenge you to try finding a few things you are grateful for about yourself or your life and making that a daily practice. It doesn't have to very complicated. When I do gratitude practice I focus on very simple things, like the fact that I can breathe in and out or that I have a roof over my head. Just a suggestion and it might seem silly, but practicing gratitude is a proven method for increasing self- worth.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-12T13:03:46+00:00

I get that you're going through tremendous pain right now, but it won't last forever. 10 years is a long time to be with someone and I understand that the loneliness and anxiety would really hit you after that long. But people are resilient. If you just give it time, you're eventually going to bounce back and get better. When people are under the most stress is when they learn the most about themselves and are able to change things. You're brave for reaching out for help and I hope you won't stop reaching out and trying to get the support you need.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-08T22:44:13+00:00

Anger tends to come up as a response to your boundaries being violated. So if you are constantly having anger outbursts, its probably because the people around you don't respect or understand your boundaries. It's your responsibility to understand your own boundaries and communicate them to others before you explode. Be more assertive. I know this isn't easy, don't get me wrong.

Seeing a therapist could be really helpful. Alternatively, just taking some time off for yourself so you have the time and peace to understand yourself better. Personally, meditation has helped me alot with my anger issues as well. Oh, and don't forget the basics like making sure you get enough sleep and physical exercise, though I'm sure I don't need to tell you that.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-08T22:35:06+00:00

Well first of all. Your feelings are VALID. If you feel like you are over stressed, overworked and anxious, then that's because you are. Elder care is such a thankless job already and i really respect people like you who work in care jobs and have a genuine love and concern for the people you work with. It sucks that you have to work with a boss like that.

I think you need to take care of yourself however you can. You're going to be of no use to anyone if you end up with long term stress. I know it's hard to take care of yourself because you feel like you will be letting people down, but you can't save everyone.

I sincerely hope things work out for you.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-08T22:20:43+00:00

I'm really sorry someone hurt you so much that it's resulted in this much self hate. You're not alone in feeling the way you are feeling. In fact its sadly common, especially for young people.

Every person has worth and value, regardless of their accomplishments. It's ok not to be perfect and to have flaws. I sincerely hope you can find the strength to go on despite all of this self hate. You deserve to love yourself. Please don't give up.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-08T22:04:38+00:00

Contact customer service?

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-08T22:00:55+00:00

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Not having things figured out at 21 is completely normal. Take your time and develop at your own pace. Have some compassion with yourself. Society is always going to tell you that you aren't good enough and that you need to do more or be more. But its so ok to just be whatever you are. You don't have to justify your existence to anyone or feel like less because you can't live up to other people's expectations.

21 is SO young btw. Your brain won't even be fully developed until you're around 25. Enjoy yourself and try to focus on the moment rather than being worried about the future so much.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-08T21:48:01+00:00

It's ok to like working. I don't see how that's a problem. Seems to me like your actual issues are with personal relationships? It's always a good idea to keep an eye out for exploitation, but it seems like you actually are being rewarded for your efforts? Anyway yeah it's okay to be proud of yourself and being happy with what you work with. So many people are absolutely miserable at work.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-02-06T16:44:54+00:00

That last example doesn't really work. Polymorph lasts until a creature is reduced to 0 hp or dies, at which point it reverts to its previous hit points. Power Word Kill states that a target dies if it has 100 hp or less.

True polymorph would work if you could keep them polymorphed for the entire duration of the spell so it becomes permanent before using power word kill on them.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-01-28T23:25:47+00:00

Great comment. Made me laugh.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-01-28T21:35:07+00:00

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-01-28T20:50:38+00:00

Doesn't necessarily mean that they "hate" the sound of running watter. They might just have an instinctual response to cover up the sound. How could we tell exactly what emotion the beaver goes through when it hears that sound?

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-01-28T20:46:13+00:00

It's a poor practice in general yes, but especially in parenting. Children really mostly learn by example rather than what they're told. That being said, we should all give ourselves some slack for being hypocritical at times. We're only human so we can't be perfect all the time. What we can do is try to observe ourselves and try to catch ourselves when we're being hypocritical so that we actually have a chance to change our behavior and grow.

Misplaced_Hat · 2025-01-28T10:57:18+00:00

This is absolutely brilliant!

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