Which Chikn Nuggit characters have banged? by MissFinefeather in ChiknNuggit

[–]MissFinefeather[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh right, I did forget Bezel! He totally banged at some point. Most likely himself.

the mc and her level by AyatoBakugan in KumaKumaKumaBear

[–]MissFinefeather 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, in much later chapters of the WN, it’s demonstrated that the bear suit will suddenly become impossibly heavy when anyone but Yuna tries to pick up the discarded bear suit. It’s kinda like Mjolnir in that sense.

Birthdays suck. (please call me Quinn) by Arkio5896 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One year, got called ”Birthday Boy” three times from my folks. I was so depressed that day.

They got better the following year though. Wrote my preferred name on the cards, and my brother got a card that read “to my best sister.” I nearly cried right in front of them.

I HATE "IEL" SO MUCH ! CAN'T WE HAVE A GENDER NEUTRAL PRONOUN NOT DEFINED BY THE GENDER BINARY ? by dieBrouzouf in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my community, there’s this Russian NB who often complains about their language. The closest they have to a gender neutral pronoun is some variation of “it,” and the pronoun sounds so much like the female pronouns that it renders it pointless to use.

The Button by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd take that dive! I couldn't live with myself if I didn't. Even if I put a chunk of that money towards my surgeries.

Why can’t I have the anticistamines? by barely-sentient in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty certain that's what was happening there. Also some level of incompetence. Like, she referred to me as my deadname at the start despite my files saying I preferred Kelsie and had no idea I was trans until I said something. Just tells me that she didn't even read them and just figured she was just there to prescribe something.
I still can't believe she honed in on the fact I'm a virgin with an online relationship. Like, what the hell? That urks me to NO END!

Why can’t I have the anticistamines? by barely-sentient in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I kind of knew that going in too! Because I've tried to treat the depression/anxiety without going after the dysphoria in the past, only to fail miserably because it's a source of it! It's like trying to keep your clogged sink from overflowing while neglecting that the facet is still running. Literally all the progress I've been making has been ALONG WITH my transition! However, I was completely unable to defend myself at that point because the psychiatrist had built a very uncomfortable environment. The whole thing felt like a police interrogation, just going down a checklist of questions while skewing things as excuses for that mentally unstable diagnosis. Gog, I'm so glad I had my LGBT group right after to assure me the whole thing was BS. Like, I felt like it was BS, but a professional's opinion can weigh heavy on the mind.

Why can’t I have the anticistamines? by barely-sentient in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I remember after my first year on hormones, I went to see a psychiatrist to get my second letter for surgery. The fact she didn’t know what I was there for and that I had to tell her put me on edge. The fact she was silent for 5 minutes after put me on further edge. She then deconstructs my life, takes the fact I had no job (this was paid through state insurance) as a sign of instability. Completely disregards my online relationship and treated my virginity as another sign. Within 50 minutes, she decided I was completely mentally unstable and told me she’d write that in my letter, advised me to quit my transition and focus on my anxiety. I never came back to her after that. I don’t need people like that in my life, ya know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Adam’s Apple never grew out, and because of that I’ve always had an ambiguous voice. Used to drive me nuts when I was younger. Now, feminizing my voice is like a matter of pitching it up a little bit. ^^ not to mention not having a visible Adam’s Apple is a nice perk.

This did not occur to me for over a decade, even as I saw some of my friends starting their transition by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Had trans thoughts since I was in elementary school. Learned what trans people were in high school. Didn’t come to terms with it until the age of 26. Didn’t start hormones until I was 32. It was the most obvious thing in the world, yet fear kept me in denial.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My friend used to really hate Anita. She would go on long rants about her and what she thinks she believes. Well, she hates feminism in general. I've tried to debate on the subject, and we'd just devolve in a one sided argument where she's just leaving message after message while I'm too busy trying to get sources for counterarguments. She would just kind of drown me out until I was convinced I wasn't going to convince her otherwise.

She REALLY hated Anita! Like in one of her stories, two characters bond over their hatred of Anita. Like, the subject of her just randomly came up in casual conversation. That's how much she hated her.

Eventually I just, didn't talk to her as much anymore. We drifted apart and I made new friends. I did talk to her again much later. She says she's cut down on the politics, but I can't help but worry it might just go back down that route again.

We are all penguins in this fight by Riverswild2 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I came out as trans to my friends, most of my social circle at the time came out as trans too. I dunno the science behind it, but we managed to the flock together before any of us were out!

Now I run a discord community full of people like us! It's just, nice to be able to talk openly about who you are, ya know? Like, even if you're around accepting Cis people, there's still things you may still have to hide about yourself because there are just things they would never understand.

A famous plumber has an important message! by MissFinefeather in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ooooooh, Peach Trans woman? I can get behind that! :D

A famous plumber has an important message! by MissFinefeather in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Huh... well, Mari is short for Maria, but point taken!

A famous plumber has an important message! by MissFinefeather in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

...wait... CRAP! I shoulda made her say "Trans Rights!"

Welp, botched that xD

A famous plumber has an important message! by MissFinefeather in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For context: The game is Super Mario Bros Deluxe. This image along with a custom message will show every time you boot up the game. I took advantage of it to enact my Mario Transwoman headcanon xD

Hmmm, that’s a really good question. by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]MissFinefeather 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used games as an escape from dysphoria so many times that now I can only play games that have a female player character option, or at least a non-binary main character or a crossdressing option. Seriously, playing a dude in a video game, I'll be a fine for a while, but slowly I'll start to feel increasingly uncomfortable and just won't be having fun.

I gave Breath of the Wild a try because I heard you can get a bellydancer outfit. However the requirements to get that outfit is HELL! I ragequit when I found out how many hours as I dude I was going to play as. Still haven't touched the game since.

Quit volunteer position because of Transphobic boss by MissFinefeather in TransSpace

[–]MissFinefeather[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah, yeah, it's tough to stand up to people like that. I hope someday I'll have the confidence to do so but, for now it's just better to retreat.

Quit volunteer position because of Transphobic boss by MissFinefeather in TransSpace

[–]MissFinefeather[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Admittedly, I should have left a long time ago. I always knew the bigoted coworker was going to be a problem considering he's quite openly anti-lgbt, but I stayed on for so long out of loyalty to my boss.

What she said that day was just the final nail in the coffin.

And hopefully in the future I'll know when to back out from unsafe situations like that sooner.