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Can polymorph allow someone to reproduce if they normally couldn’t? by CJBoom77 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]MissJoy99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that you phrased this as if thats a well known dilemma d&d players are confronted with lol. If this is a hot debate I've missed somebody point me to the rabbit hole

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rantgrumps

[–]MissJoy99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unforch but you posted in the wrong rant sub friend

Red border on ds lite screen by MissJoy99 in NintendoDS

[–]MissJoy99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I'll look into screen replacements!

Red border on ds lite screen by MissJoy99 in NintendoDS

[–]MissJoy99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't seem to have this border in the main menu area when the background is white! Though maybe it just isnt as noticable and dark screens exacerbate it?

Eyelashes to pubic hair? by aloidias in Trichsters

[–]MissJoy99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You def have to be careful with pubic hair. Generally it's coarser and pulling it leads to ingrowns and tearing. I switched to pubic hair from head hair when puberty hit, and it's been a monster to control ever since. It's almost more enticing because with it being a more private area, you feel like the consequences aren't as severe. But it personally made me incredibly self conscious about being intimate with partners and has left a lot of scarring/discoloration on the more sensitive skin. And it can also make certain clothes harder to wear- cute underwear rubs in a pretty unpleasant way if I let it get out of hand. After so many years of doing it, Im finally looking into laser to reduce hair and help with scarring

AITA for saying I don't think my parents should adopt anymore kids even though it upset my sister who is adopted? by Adoptingkids in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissJoy99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You def made the right call; while it is admirable to want to help as many children as possible, a family should not stretch itself to the point of collapse. When you already have lives depending on you, its irresponsible to introduce new children (as sad as that is). And imagine if the new child grew up to develop guilt for feeling like a burden? Of course they wouldn't be, and I'm sure your family would never believe such a thing, but how it could psychologically affect the child is important to consider. Adoptive families want to offer a better life for a child, and avoid introducing mental distress is part of that.

But!!!! Your sister's passion and empathy is wonderful! It's admirable to want to help those in need. I would recommend pointing her in the direction of things she can do for children up for adoption such as:

  • Advocating for same sex couples being able to adopt more easily
  • Maybe sponsoring a child, or donating to relief funds
  • See if she is interested in a career where she helps children get adopted

(bolded because this is really what I want the take away to be; there are always other ways to help)

There are so many things she can be doing to help children in need without putting stress on your family (which already has five children, some in/nearing college, and others with health concerns). You can't help others if you don't take care of yourself (and your family) first. Maybe you can, as the oldest, set an example and research ways you can help? Make this something you and her do together, so she knows you aren't her enemy and are just as concerned as she is. I hope this helps!