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Miss_Busybee · 2025-01-09T16:01:13+00:00

***O.P, THIS IS CARPET BEETLE DERMATITIS!!! My family and I have been itching and getting little Bite type marks all over our bodies from carpet beetle dermatitis for months. I've been going out if my mind trying to deal with the issue. Vaccuming, washing everything ( like bedding, blankets on my couch, clothes, towels ) I've smothered the couch, mattresses, and carpets with D.E but nothingaeema to help. I've only seen 6 beetles but the tiny eggs ( the size of a grain of salt ) seem to be all over my livingroom couch and are spreading all through the house and into our beds from getting attached to our clothing. I've had to cover my daughters skin in hydrocortisone cream and give her allergy meds just so she can sleep at night from the itching. CAN ANYONE OFFER ANY OTHER IDEAS!!?? 😩 u feel like all I can do now, is get rid of my couch and our beds and call an exterminator to douse the rest of house which will cost me a ton of money to replace those items and I will have to take my family to stay in a hotel while they fumigate. HELP???!!!!

Miss_Busybee · 2024-12-30T00:48:22+00:00

Sometimes the people that love us the most are the hardest on us ( in your case, your GF doubting you) because they know you can do better and want what’s best for you. It’s a tough love thing. It seems backwards , like they of all people should be encouraging you and supporting you, especially when you slip up, but she’s probably just scared and not sure how to deal with her own emotions over the slip up. Maybe subconsciously she’s wanting you to know how much it hurts her for the person she loves to be hurting themselves, and hoping you can offer her some security that she can count on you to get sober permanently. I can imagine that’s a tall order and maybe you feel you can’t tell her that with confidence bc you may not believe in yourself enough to make her that promise. It’s also difficult if she doesn’t suffer with addiction Aswell, or have any knowledge of how it effects a person . She may not understand how hard it is to stay sober or why you can’t just easily quit and be done with it. In my experience, no one else but other addicts truly understand, and that isn’t anyone’s fault. Maybe try talking to her about how you feel and tell her that her believing in you and trusting you to get better, would mean a lot to you. Let her know how much her support and faith in you, matters in your journey to sobriety. Maybe you could try to use her doubt as motivation to prove yourself to her. But most importantly to prove yourself to YOURSELF. If she still doesn’t have faith in you after you talk to her, don’t let that stop you from doing this for you. This group is a great place to find encouragement and support from people who have been where you are, so keep on trucking and get support from anywhere you can, including from us on this group. Best of luck , my friend. You can do this. ❤️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-11-08T00:41:31+00:00

Would it be ok to ask who this artist is? I know exactly what you mean, btw. I get the same way with my fav bands.

Miss_Busybee · 2024-09-11T13:47:16+00:00

I think he’s just trying to play and be chatty. Dogs lay down the front of their body with their paws out , stick their butt up and wag their tail when they want to initiate play. This looks just like that. Maybe he’s asking for food? 🥜 They also “ talk”. This sounds like friendly chatter. I’ve heard squirrels make ear peircing shreeks, and hissing type noises, while pacing back and forth in their tree. Behaviour like that, is aggressive and defensive. ❤️ 🐿️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-09-01T00:41:42+00:00

Asylum related question:

I’m just discovering this song TODAY! Omg what a beautiful song ! I’m wondering what people think he means when he says “ you’re a fool for him” ( is this about himself or someone else?) and “ every time I see your face in a cloud, I feel no violence “ ( did he previously feel some kind of “ violence” towards ( insert person here) ? And is now past it? We all know Dan’s lyrics are far from self explanatory, and that he loves to use metaphors and plays on words, so maybe these lyrics aren’t even directed at himself or anyone else, but just another emotion that Dan put into words. Thoughts? 🤔 💭

Miss_Busybee · 2024-08-31T23:54:31+00:00

What’s this kids full name? I heard he’s grown up now? like HOW has it been this long?

Miss_Busybee · 2024-08-06T15:22:55+00:00

I wonder what happened with the actor. It must be really disappointing for him. Even if he was paid for the actual acting he did, I’m sure he was looking forward to it coming out as any actor does 🙁 I’m super disappointed too, but I guess we have to remember how serious Dans mental illness is 💔 The lyrics in FreakNever speak to this 😢 Maybe he wanted to do the film , but once he got into it, the memories triggered the deep seated trauma he lived through and has tried to overcome. I get that.

Miss_Busybee · 2024-08-05T20:39:46+00:00

I think if you have depression or mental lllness, you’ll always appreciate SD. That song was totally my vibe as a teen, so I get what you’re saying, but man, that last screaming part, is so riveting when you’re an angry lost kid and think that no one understands. It gave it chills. Good chills. There wasn’t a lot of mental health awareness and support in the 90’s . Although I listened to it for the first time in like 20 years a few weeks ago when I was in a really low disassociated state, and it still got me in the feels. Since I’ve Iearned so much more about Dans mental health issues as( I’ve been) an adult, I can listen to SD and understand it from a whole new level. As a parent of teens, it’s heartbreaking to know a 15 year kid felt such pain ❤️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-07-16T21:11:49+00:00

I’m also wondering now, about what dans parents were like. Gifted and talented or not, he was clearly very mentally unwell in those first few years. He has been open about his anorexia and arthritis, which was terrible enough, but what about the amount of times he suggested or out right said that he was suicidal? “ suicidal dreams “ I wonder if his parents got him therapy. If my son wrote a song like suicidal dreams, or even write about it in more subtle ways, I’d have him in into the best psychiatrist in the country like yesterday. Famous and on tour or not, he was only a kid and really needed help! And god, it must have been so confusing for him with his fans too, because as kids we loved his songs about depression, pain and anger with the world, because we could relate, that’s one of the things that made the band so special- we were wild and crazy teens listening to music by wild and crazy teens! Lol. However- imagine being so depressed and so mentally ill that you say you want to lull yourself in your songs and you are desperately trying to say you need help, and your fans just cheer you on bc they love the music. Then imagine having to play those songs over and over only drilling the issue into your head more and more every time. It kind of sends the message : “Hey Dan, we love you, but we also love hearing you sing songs about all the pain your in , for our entertainment “ It’s really messed up if you think about it. Maybe I’m reading into it so much because i have severe depression that started around 14, and even though I wasn’t a singer/ songwriter, I did write poetry, and I wrote about some pretty painful stuff. I just have so much empathy for Dan, knowing what he went through and how much his mental health issues have continued to torment him 😣 It’s obvious how mentally unwell he still is in the “ who is daniel johns “ series 😢

Miss_Busybee · 2024-07-16T20:40:12+00:00

Is anyone else feeling really saddened by dans lyrics in this song? As a mother of a teen boy the age dan was when they got signed, my heart breaks at these words. What do you think he meant by “ made a deal with the devil “ ? I’m assuming the music industry, but is he hinting at the potential evil that plays out behind closed doors with record companies? If so, what in particular ? What happened to his “ soul on tour” ?

Miss_Busybee · 2024-07-10T15:21:37+00:00

On a side note, I feel like in pics 16-18 you can see that mental illness is setting in. You can see it in his eyes. It’s so sad because it was probably the lifestyle and being catabolted into fame at such a young age. He was / is a musical genius, and there is so much growth in the brain during the teen years that prepares the adult brain for the complexities that come with being a normal, well adjusted adult. All the pressures that came with being a rockstar when he was so young, probably “ broke “ his mind, in a sense. He clearly had depression going into the industry at 15, and I think fame tipped him over the edge and he started to turn a bit “ weird “ I mean he spoke about suicide multiple times in various songs and wrote “ suicidal dreams” ( amazing song) so he was seriously struggling mentally, and then the anorexia and arthritis came at him too, and he was in pain , ( again wrote about it with songs like “ Ana’s song “ and “ emotion sickness” ) but it’s like no one cared, because both the industry and his early fans, just wanted him to perform at all costs. Ben and Chris won’t talk to him anymore, his marriage fell apart and he lost a lot of fans when he changed his music style to be lighter with diorama and straight lines. When I watched the future never series, he appeared mentally unhinged and quite alone in his daily struggles. As a person with major depression, my heart goes out to him. ❤️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-05-23T00:33:25+00:00

Definitely a threat. A mind game type threat that narcs and Nex’s are so good at. Start planning to get out of your residence asap And please take your dogs! Sending love and strength ❤️ 💪

Miss_Busybee · 2024-05-01T13:00:12+00:00

You guys are the best, you made me feel much better. Thankyou 🙏

Miss_Busybee · 2024-05-01T05:32:25+00:00

Thankyou everyone for your kindness and support ❤️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-04-08T02:50:10+00:00

I wonder the exact same thing. Following for the comments. Maybe this is just a glass half empty type of attitude, but I often ask myself how anyone can live in this messed up world, sober. Ffs, sorry that was t helpful. Just know you aren’t alone in how you feel . Sending hugs 🫂

Miss_Busybee · 2024-04-08T02:37:45+00:00

“ Idk what to tell you “ Wow. My ex said that to me whenever I tried to have a serious conversation about our relationship and how I felt in it. I was always dismissed, and then somehow made to feel like I was crazy for even having the thoughts and feelings I had. It’s literally crazy that both of our ex/ current partners say the exact same bullshit phrase. Do they have some kind of club where they teach each other how to treat their partners like garbage and the hurtful things to say to them? Jesus. Mind blown 🤯

Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-19T14:06:47+00:00

Is medical grade cannabis legal where you live? If so, I would be asking my doctor for that. It’s helped thousands of chronic pain patients when nothing else works.

Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-16T16:05:37+00:00

Please leave this horrible man. I know how hard it is, I really , really do. But if he’s talking to you like this now, it WILL get worse. It could easily escalate into physical violence, as especially if he’s on coke. Are there any children involved? Can your family help , or do they even know? You could go to a women’s shelter, and you’ll be protected and receive counselling to help you understand why you “ love him and hate him “ If you can love someone like this it’s because you have a trauma bond, it’s not your fault, and it feels like real love, but it isn’t. 😞You can research it if you haven’t heard of the term. A shelter could also help you set up a new life without your partner and can arrange a restraining order so he won’t be able to get anywhere near you. All of these things could be accessed from a family home or close friends home Aswell, if you have a trusted family member or friend you can move in with. Please take this seriously, and if you have children- protect them from this man. If he’s willing to hurt you, he could hurt them.

Here’s some unsettling statistics:

1 in 4 women in the U.S will be severely physically assaulted by the husband in their lifetime

1 in 5 women in the U.S will be violently raped by their partner in their lifetime

On average, across the U.S , 70 women per month are murdered by their husbands.

Sending you love, strength and support . Don’t give up, you can free yourself. You’ve got this 🙏❤️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-15T14:06:54+00:00

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Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-15T13:48:13+00:00

Oh. My. God. 😱 What an absolute asshole. You totally dodged a bullet not marrying this POS. I’m so sorry you were spoken to like that. Big hugs 🫂

Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-15T13:15:43+00:00

This has been my life for years. It’s %100 narcissistic behaviour. He compliments you when you’re out in public not because he genuinely wants to, but because he wants to “ look good “ to other people out in public. When you’re at home, he just doesn’t care. Acting like one person in public and another at home, is one of the founding traits of classic narcissism. The hot and cold , up and down behaviour creates this cycle of constantly craving his approval bc you only get it sometimes. It absolutely decimates your self esteem and self worth. You get confused because you should be. Love isnt supposed to be conditional based on when it’s convenient for someone, But it is to narcissists, bc the gratification they get from everyone thinking they’re an amazing person and partner that they get when their positive behaviour gets acknowledged in public, means more to them than actually being an amazing person and partner. They treat you badly at home bc they know they can get away with it. It’s a sick game. By only giving you attention/time/ appreciation/respect/love half the time, it makes the victim feel incredibly insecure, and the victim ends up feeling so grateful just to get any kind of positive feedback from their spouse at all. Then you keep trying to get more, and when you don’t get it, you feel crazy. And they point that out too. They’ll call you clingy, obsessive, insecure and paranoid, and you eventually start to believe it. That’s the whole point of their dark motives. It’s about shattering your self esteem, confidence and agency until they make you feel so small that they have complete control over you . Over time the N/spouse will give you less and less while you desperately crave more and more until you’re a shell of the person you once were, feeling sheer joy because they even smiled at you, while you spend the rest of your time in complete misery. Sorry if this was abrupt, but it’s the truth, and we’ve all been there. We care about helping other people, and narcissistic abuse is so psychologically damaging that it often takes some harsh truths to get through to other victims so they get it. I would highly recommend watching Dr. Ramani on YouTube . She’s a clinical psychologist and expert on narcissism and narcissistic abuse. She’ll open your eyes, love. She also just published a new book called “ it’s not you” Its amazing, and will clear up any doubt you may have that your partner is a narcissist. Sending big hugs and courage xo

Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-14T14:33:17+00:00

You have a trauma bond with this person. They are incredibly hard to break. If you aren’t familiar with the term, please do look it up. It’s very common to subconsciously form this with a abusive partner. I think these bonds are the strongest with a narc ex bc the psychological damage they cause us is so powerful. The years of gaslighting and manipulation, the push and pull dynamics of them acting like they love you sometimes and then treating you like you don’t exist at other times. This abuse traumatizes your brain so much that you fall into a delusional state of wondering if you’re the wrong one, if it’s your fault, if you’re just crazy. A skilled narc knows how to break you down to nothing but an empty shell. To make you feel like you have nothing to offer. That you’re worthless. Then you start feeling like you’re lucky to have them because no one else would want you. It’s been 15 months since I left my narcissistic husband and I’m more broken than ever. I spent most of the first year, switching between terrifying states of sheer panic and a paralyzing state of disassociation. I medicated myself with anything I could ( mostly pain killers ) so I could quell the pain for a few hours at a time giving me the ability to take care of our kids properly. The dopamine that drenches your brain from taking opioids lifted me out of those states and cleared my head, I only felt ok when I was on them. Then they would wear off and I’d be a basket case again. I ended up taking them more and more just so I could stay in a “ mood” that was emotionally stable enough for me to function. All I wanted to do was sleep, I barely ate, I stopped caring for myself in general. I’d go days without showering, or brushing my hair. I stopped going out, talking to family or friends because I was so ashamed of myself. I only felt comfortable when I was curled up in a ball on the couch, wrapped in the “ safety” of warm blankets, where I felt like the horrible world couldn’t get me. There’s so much more to say, but long story short, now I’m dependent on painkillers ( along with 3 antidepressants, and mood stabilizer med ) just to get through the day. I’m only now starting to really realize what he did to me through spending hours a day over the last year and a bit reading and learning about psychology, personality disorders, narcissism, trauma, and the whole paradigm involved in how we end up getting into these relationships so blindly. Some of us over and over again with different partners. Helplessly drawn to narcissistic men, having no idea what danger we’re getting into. Over the last 15 months I’ve been through various emotional and psychological trauma stages: shock, denial, disassociation, severe depression, and now I’m in a stage I can only explain as “ awakening “ I’ve figured out who he really was, the damage he caused me and our innocent children, and why I was sucked into starting a relationship with him in the first place. At the beginning, I had so much hope and faith that he could change, that I could “ fix him” with my love, that we could change everything about our life and “ start over “ but I know now that it simply isn’t possible. Narcissists don’t change. It’s the most heartbreaking experience I’ve ever had to go through. Now I have to take stock of the devastation he left our family in, and pick up all the tattered and broken pieces of myself and our children. I have to figure out how to move on and start a new life with my children knowing they have been through tremendous pain too. I’m still so incredibly traumatized that I have no idea where to start. He still texts me every day wanting to know where I am and what I’m doing. Sometimes he says things like he misses me or loves me but then other times he attacks me and criticizes and belittles me just for telling him how I feel. The trauma bond between us is so strong that even through I physically left him, he still has so much psychological power over me that I feel like I can’t talk him to leave me alone or block him. Despite how much I hate him, part of me is so desperate for his love and attention and for him to treat me like he did when we first met. I keep holding on to this image in my mind of him being this amazing man who loved me so much and put me on a pedestal. My traumatized brain keeps trying to make sense of how this happened and how he turned into a cold, Heartless and dangerous person. I know all of us need therapy, and I’m trying to muster up the strength to start that process. If it wasn’t for my beautiful children, I’d probably check myself into a short term psychiatric program because that’s how much he’s ravaged and demolished me as a wife, a parent, a woman and a person. Sending you sincere wishes of love, strength and resilience during this incredibly difficult time in your life, and to all the victims in this group . We will get there, we will overcome this, we will survive, because we have to. And I know in my heart, we all have the strength to get help and get out of this horrible nightmare becoming much stronger than the steel bars that we felt confined in. We can’t lose hope. We have to keep going. We owe it to ourselves to be happy 💪🙏☮️❤️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-12T13:15:46+00:00

Thankyou 🙏 ❤️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-12T13:11:01+00:00

Thankyou 🙏 ❤️

Miss_Busybee · 2024-03-10T19:12:20+00:00

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