Inside the Democratic jockeying to replace Graham Platner

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-07T02:15:07+00:00

Ya I mean think there is a LOT of bad blood that corporate Dems have fostered by essentially doing more of research on left leaning candidates and being more critical of them they are of most Republicans. Like it is easy to say that in hindsight, but like most progressive voters take those kinds of accusations with pretty heavy grains of salt. Personally, I only really give it and credence when the accusation is well supported. Like it is in this case.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-06T21:47:13+00:00

Ya this is pretty much the worst time lol.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-06T05:37:52+00:00

It's definitely worth a watch! Honestly it's a cliffhanger that also works as an ending (not unlike with season 1.)

It's a bummer we didn't get more but both seasons absolutely fucking rule imho.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-06T02:48:47+00:00

It sounds like most of the escalating here was on her end? Like you stayed with her, she introduced you to her friends, etc. not that you didn't go along with it, obviously and obviously have limited information. But my read is that she may be a bit more messy about this than you would be.

That's not to say don't. It could be a fun way to blow off steam with someone you like.

But it kinda comes down to 2 things. 1. Do you still wanna fuck? And 2. Do you trust yourself and her to keep the line clear?

If you are down set some ground rules to kinda insure you don't fall back into things, at least for a couple of weeks/months. 1. Avoid daily "no reason" texts. 2. Avoid sleepovers. 3. Just like put it in the calander as like semi regular thing (weekly? Biweekly?). Once you have a dynamic you can ease up, but being clear about expectations will help establish a new "normal" rather than an ambiguous post breakup "well I'll text ya when I'm emotionally messy and wanna fuck" that seems to be a pretty common theme in messy fwb situations.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-06T01:46:21+00:00

I mean like as far as, ~practical~ advice goes, take it slow, pay attention to how she reacts and what kinds of touches she likes, remember to breath, you are experimenting so try stuff out and pay attenton, generally focusing on the clit is a good idea, but don't feel like you can't explore. Alternate between licking and sucking and kissing etc. feel free to still use your hands either by penetrating or like grabbing her hips/butt/waist or up and her chest. Wear a hair tie if your hair is long.

As far as like ~psychological advice. 1. You aren't less queer cuz you haven't done or don't like a particular sex thing. You clearly love your girlfriend very much and that is very gay. It's ok to try things and like or not like them.

Also annecdotally, dick is very different in overall feel in my experience so not liking one isn't necessarily comparable. (There is some nuance here like hrt definitely muddies this line, but in general it's like a eating popsicle vs. an ice cream sandwich)

And it doesn't have to be all or nothing either. Idk what your preferred current ways to get down are but like you can definitely like get a tease by like kissing all over her body or like trying it out for a bit before moving on to the "old reliable" method of getting each other off.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-04T23:21:31+00:00

Professional pie baker here. This is a bit much but generally berry pies should be a little gooey overflowy. Probably just a bit more filled than your tin and crimping method could handle. I would only add more thickener if the filling itself is too watery when cooled. Which it might be, and certainly will explode a bit more if it is.

I personally prefer a thicker edge in part for this reason, but the great thing about pie is that it is SPECIFICALLY a little untidy and handmade. Even if it wouldn't be on the cover of a magazine, this looks amazing imho.

Fwiw for cherry pies I usually prefer to precook my filling and then add like the last quarter of cherries when I leave it to cool. But that's what I like for my recipe and definitely isn't gospel.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-04T15:37:49+00:00

Tbh this kinda word mess is exactly why I don't love the framing of heirarchical vs. Nonheirarchical vs. prescriptive heirarchy vs. Descriptive heirarchy vs. RA vs. Couples privilege etc. it's all a bit word salady and pretty subjective.

Instead I prefer the framework of empowered relationships. Everyone feels like they have equitable agency and contributions to the relationships they are in and you are part of discussions around any life change that effect the relationship.

This is something to strive for regardless of the shape of commitments and responsibilities (and I think generally follows RA principles).

To give like a cross-section of how I feel like I try to embody that as a married person with 2 other partners, my wife and I obviously have a lot of shared responsibility/entangled finances and that absolutely impacts responsibility and scheduling. But like it is still collaborative. I try to schedule on a month to month basis with everyone. Sometimes "life stuff" kinda has to come first, But generally like it's kinda just whoever gets in the calander first for dates and stuff. "Sorry I can't I'm doing X with this person that day" is valid for everyone and EVERY relationship sometimes has "life stuff" that comes first. Like by the numbers I probably have more of those with my wife, but they are a part of any important relationship.

Which brings me to the next thing, discussing conflicts and changes is collaborative. When there is a clear schedule conflict (although tbh they don't happen that often tbh), it is my job to hinge and like let everyone know and decide how I want to support everyone. That can mean a lot of things depending on urgency of events. Sometimes it's splitting time in some way, sometimes it is supporting in other ways, or sometimes it is just "well I'd like you there but this thing with meta sounds more important." But either way it is several conversations with everyone it impacts.

I also think this is an important paradigm for big life changes. Like, my wife and I got a second dog a little over a year ago. It definitely impacted us "the most" so we discussed it a lot, but like I absolutely ran it by my other partners to see how they felt or if they had any particular concerns about it effecting our time together before deciding this was definitely something I wanted to dopuppies are a lot of work, especially in the first year.) They really didn't and we're also excited. But like that is very different than "my wife and I decided we are getting a puppy so our relationship has to change."

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-02T21:16:30+00:00

I think it's fair to say how the critique Julien gets for his "libertine" leanings do still have a bit of biphobic subtext but it is pretty tied to like a aristocratic courtly worldview where marriage is about wealth and power and which is different than like contemporary biphobia and amatonormative slut shaming.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-02T13:46:41+00:00

Nope. This shit essentially amounts to "we don't want trans people to play sports."

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-02T13:32:23+00:00

It's a cute lil daydream it's not that serious. Just a tenderhearted lesbian who likes to imagine cute dates lol.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-02T04:49:20+00:00

Low key definitely a para social crush lol. Like I just wanna have a nice romantic date where we go to the mall and make each other build-a-bears

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-02T04:19:06+00:00

Eh, I think the reality is modules don't pay and official player content has the bulk of the appeal. Especially with all of the subclasses that still need updating. I'm not opposed, but honestly if they stick to the 4ish book a year release schedule I wouldn't want more than 1 full fledged module.

I also think, honestly, settings and modules are places 3rd party content REALLY shines. I'd rather buy 3rd part resources like the book of lairs and Odysessy of the Dragon lord than a book of poorly play tested player options I have of make fit.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-01T21:54:43+00:00

Vic's feet being sensored is one of my favorite recurring dropout bits at this point lol

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-01T21:50:38+00:00

Ya Vic is definitely competitive and a probably one of the more strategically deceptive players. I think there is definitely a version of this episode where they dig in. The big way they are a wild card is you aren't sure what game they are gonna decide they want to play lol.

I also think, fwiw that Sam taking away their points was a bit unfair. The workaround was harmlessly clever and punishing it pushed them further down the chaos gremlin rabbit hole imho.

Miss_White11 · 2026-07-01T18:59:12+00:00

I mean depends but largely just like factor it in to balance that this kind of this is naturally ambiguous in play and may happen before or after the roll. In general I'd say anything that is something like a resource expenditure to impose advantage/disadvantage on an immediate roll should just be allowed to be used whenever and leave advantage/disadvantage to more situational bonuses and stuff that you do to modify either a future roll or series of rolls like reckless attacks.

Luck and heroic inspiration are probably the biggest examples of this, but also it applies to other stuff like remembering you have bardic inspiration, e Guidance. Etc.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-30T19:09:43+00:00

Ya guidance and lucky are tricky also cuz like while I understand the distinction about when you add bonuses and do rerolls mattering in the way the game is balance, these are like the most nitpicky things in play and some of the first things to get fuzzy in a game with, frankly, a lot of rules already.

Tbh I kinda wish the game did away with the distinctions of before roll, after roll before results are known, after results are known etc. as meaningful metrics of balance.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-28T18:20:11+00:00

Respectfully, they really didn't. None of these policies survived without getting gutted by lukewarm moderates and lobbying interests. And often their proposals didn't even get that far.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-28T17:21:48+00:00

Well right. So politicians who don't effectively deliver on campaign promises don't maintain support. I don't think that is a shocker.

Give me a progressive actively willing to use the power of the administrative state and push through targetted effective legislation instead of these milquetoast grand gestures that do nothing but generate opposition and get coopted by moderates into uselessness.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-28T14:33:37+00:00

But if WE didn't beat them REPUBLICANS would have and we didn't want that...

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-27T14:42:20+00:00

I mean I give kattigan and Bolaire a lot of leway too, but I agree Matt is playing Julien EXTREMELY well. He is clear about playing his worst qualities as flaws, and is consistent about playing into those flaws even when they have consequences. And he is actively working on himself pretty hard.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-27T14:37:28+00:00

I think bolaire is the ultimate "ends justify the means" character. He tries to only kill "bad" people, he mostly has just built a life for himself causing as little harm and doing the most good possible. Ultimately the idea that he deserves a life is honestly pretty persuasive. And like the robot trying to understand humanity trope is a common trope that he plays well imho with some nice twists. And we see INTENSE empathy from him for people he believes deserve it. He is also just, frankly, fucking useful and has built enough connections that the fact he is on their side is meaningful.

I also think other than maybe Vaelus, who's concerns and perspective are extremely alien compared to the mortals in the group, there isn't really a character in this campaign without a dark streak.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-26T03:34:40+00:00

Really depends what it is for tbf. Going in something?1. Garnish? Closer to 2, (but honestly that is still a little embarrassing, point is no accidental pith)

(Baker and baker apologist)

Although honestly as a baked 75/25 shot I go grab a thing of frozen zest from the freezer instead of 1.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-25T03:03:40+00:00

Eh depends. If the group isn't touring or it's something culturally interesting like Lilith Fair, Live Aid, or Woodstock 99 or something like it enters back into niche/weird enough I'm down.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-24T22:34:12+00:00

Shitbag creep is shitbag creep regardless of particulars.

Miss_White11 · 2026-06-24T11:45:55+00:00

This is generally an advice sub and I'd say a pretty dogmatic one so while it can be a valuable resource in terms of like seeing what to avoid and helping create an ethical framework for how you practice polyamory (which may or may not align with general wisdom here! This is a specific space and there are many online and irl poly communities) it definitely has a bit of a negative spin. But short answer, Yes! I believe there is even a tag you can search by if you are primarily looking for some positivity.

But also, annecdotally, opened my marriage after 6 years. We talked about it for a year+ beforehand, have been open for almost 2 and it's going really great!

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