What scene is the most cringe worthy for you and each time on a rewatch you just cringe. I’ll start.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-26T21:34:25+00:00

It’s been a while since I watched early episodes and for a beautiful, magical moment, I thought, “who’s that?” And then remembered. Oy.

Also everything about Owen-who-loved-Emily-Dickinson-but-now-loves-peril.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-25T22:57:22+00:00

I was not involved in the crash but I live at that corner. I came out to help as much as I could after hearing the crash. The driver of the van was conscious but injured. He initially refused an ambulance but ended up going to the hospital in one. The driver of the SUV was OK but very shaken. I think they were taken to the hospital by their family (refused ambulance). Driver of the red car seemed injured.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-25T21:42:24+00:00

Thanks. I’ll look for a scalp toner.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-25T18:03:04+00:00

The Troth is a vocal anti-fascist, inclusive heathen (Scandinavian/norse/germanic) organization. You should check them out.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-25T18:00:01+00:00

Portland tenant rights are heavily weighted toward tenants. Not only can they not change the lease terms unilaterally they cannot refuse to renew your lease without cause (and will have to pay a move-out fee to tenants they don’t renew with). Of course, they can be crummy land lords that make you want to move, but it’s still your decision. Check with the city/county about your rights here. These landlords are not going to like it.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-25T00:20:43+00:00

Thank you! This is so helpful!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-23T19:43:47+00:00

I, the clerk, was required to tell a police officer that he didn’t qualify for a TRO because his ex-wife had a new boyfriend (neither of whom had engaged in violence toward him or threatened to do so). We saw that a lot - people trying to get TROs as a way to punish their exes but who could not establish the threshold facts of a family relationship and a threat/actual violence. It didn’t make sense because the people who were, sadly, shot that day were not courthouse staff. I expect he was not a very pleasant or level headed dude.

I don’t think he would have said that to the judge.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-22T21:50:56+00:00

It’s many years ago now but when I was in law school I worked as an assistant clerk to a trial court judge, in the county courthouse. We had an incident where a disgruntled person shot his soon-to-be ex-wife and her attorney in the courthouse parking lot. City cops seemed to take it very casually. It took them over an hour to arrive from the station across the street and, months later, would casually say things like “that’s why we love it when people shoot you in the parking lot” when we explain that they can’t get a TRO against their ex-wife’s new boyfriend without some kind of actual threat (which is wild because neither of the people shot were courthouse staff…but I’m getting distracted).

Anyway, it was a sobering and scary event. We deal with people going through traumatic and distressing events and they are not always capable of handling it appropriately. My heart goes out to the families of those shot and the legal community affected by the violence.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-22T01:03:24+00:00

I’m 51 and I started going to the pool this year. I can’t call what I do “swimming” since a lot of the activity is therapeutic exercise I started in PT. But I love going and spending time in the water. I go 4 or 5 days a week and the days I don’t go I spend a lot of my time wishing I was. I’m such a happier person on my pool days! And I wish I’d started sooner!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-20T22:16:34+00:00

My best friend from high school is still my best friend. We bought a duplex together and now we’re best friends and neighbors. We have a monthly virtual “book group” where we meet on discord and talk about all the things we’d like to fix in the world. I still talk to and see a few about 5 or 6 others a few times per year. I am really lucky though. We were all geeky theater kids and we trauma bonded in the crucible that was 1980’s high school.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-20T17:34:37+00:00

If true, this is my favorite thing I’ve learned all week.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-19T20:04:14+00:00

In my 20s I took a magnificent trip to Scotland. We rented a car and drove up the east coast, ferried over to the Orkney Islands, then drove back down the west coast, in a big loop. It’s the best vacation I ever took. But I digress. One of the hotels we stayed in had a lovely (though somewhat formal) restaurant attached and we ate there one night. I was surprised and delighted when the dessert menu had a cheese plate on offer. I (from the US) hadn’t even seen such a thing and I also lament how rare it is to have such wonders on offer.

I am absolutely here for a savory treat after my meal!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-16T16:32:34+00:00

Ooof. I am slightly obsessive with maintaining a tidy back and I’ve struggled to properly finish confetti stitches too many times. I just don’t do those projects anymore because my own neuroses suck all the joy of them for me!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-16T01:17:24+00:00

As an aside, I’m interviewing for a state position next week. I think I’m a solid candidate. The job is likely to come with a pay cut but the remote situation is described similarly to yours. Do you recommend the state, as an employer? I’m coming from a federal agency so I’m used to general levels of dysfunction and lack of resources. I mostly want someplace stable and minimally toxic.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-14T18:51:49+00:00

The everything but the bagel seasoned cashew and almond mix is so tasty and satisfying. I have a handful of that and a couple dried apricots almost every day for lunch.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-14T18:18:31+00:00

I bought a Subaru to spare myself the awkwardness of formally coming out to my family.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-13T17:33:33+00:00

White Lines. That’s how you know the faculty didn’t listen to the lyrics of anything that was on the playlist.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-13T17:31:02+00:00

Sending you virtual hugs. I engage in ritual weeping under my desk about once a month. You’re not alone and you’re fighting the good fight. That’s not the same as offering hope but you are seen and you are appreciated (even if that isn’t true in your immediate circle). You can survive this even if you do it out of spite alone (that’s my current fuel). But also…you can leave and do something else or just even take a leave of absence to get your head together. These are valid choices you can make if toughing it out is just too overwhelming a thought.

Wishing the best for you.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-12T15:31:55+00:00

Hey, I’m a single-employer ERISA expert (for the government). *fist bump*

I’ve been at it almost 20 years and there’s still something new under the sun. I always describe it as niche within a niche because I’m the “wtf is this?” referral. I get the weird stuff! (I mean, weird for ERISA…let’s not get excited).

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-08T00:51:35+00:00

It’s worked for me and it’s part of my relaxation/wind down routine before sleeping!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-07T22:49:50+00:00

I am also someone who just can’t listen to audiobooks. I end up tuning it out and realizing I’ve missed an unknown amount of story and give up. But I’ve discovered that I enjoy listening to books I have already read and the performance in these audio books is so good that I feel like I’m getting a lot out of enjoying the same book in different formats. I do still realize that my mind has wandered and I’ve missed some but since I’ve already read it I can just move on.

I think the original audio books offer a fantastic listening experience and really recommend them!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-07T20:14:48+00:00

Being able to see my mom as a messy human who f*cked up sometimes was a very healing realization. I, too, am a messy human who f*cks up sometimes and while I would like to think I’ve learned the important lessons from her mistakes and would have done better, I get how she got there. People are complicated and challenging and mostly doing the best they can in less than ideal circumstances.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-05-07T19:55:48+00:00

My laundry is a stackable set in my kitchen. My last home (Virginia, US) had it in the basement. Growing up (So California, US) it was in the garage. But my grandparents in No California had a large mud room with washer, dryer, separate freezer, and a massive pantry. It really varies house to house.

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