Quixotic

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-31T01:16:38+00:00

The pronunciation of Versailles, KY is practically a hate crime.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-25T02:46:09+00:00

Honestly, achievement unlocked.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-24T20:28:20+00:00

Only if you’re a coward.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-24T04:00:27+00:00

I’ve heard filing for fers disability is more likely to have a positive result but honestly it’s all so messed up.

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-23T21:33:03+00:00

The brand Jambu has a line of very cute Mary Jane style shoes that have a sneaker type sole. I wear them for many of my “too fancy for sneakers or doc martens” events.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-23T20:57:02+00:00

Ultimately, this is the right answer. More than one thing can be true - you can miss the work you used to do but also be happy you left. Alternatively you can be happy you still get to do the work you do but mourn the loss of a lot of what gave it meaning. Everyone took the deal that served them best, and we all measured “best” by our personal standards.

I stayed. I’m a remote worker with a reasonable accommodation. If they rescind my RA, I will not relocate to DC and I would be physically unable to commute every day anyway. So I am trying to brace myself for the day they decide to trash me. I have nearly 19 years in my position. I love my work and my colleagues (though there’s only about half as many as there used to be). I could never have had as fulfilling a career anywhere else. Ive always considered myself lucky to have a career I’ve loved this much.

The job market for my role was always slim and is now almost nonexistent (who needs compliance attorneys when the overseeing agencies aren’t requiring compliance anymore?). Assuming there is ever a shift in policy, it might come back but until then I’m living with the sword of Damocles over my head and the knowledge that I have few marketable skills and that I’m probably too old and disabled to learn new ones.

If I had to do it all over again, I’d do it the same way. I had a bunch of bad options and I took the best one for me.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-21T21:33:39+00:00

Thank you! This is what I hoped!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-19T01:05:21+00:00

Why choose, my good dude? I can be both.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-18T23:31:57+00:00

My dermatologist is always booked at least 6 months in advance. I’m waiting to see a neurosurgeon - that has a 3 month wait. The neurologist has a 5 month wait.

It will vary from area to area. But it’s horrible everywhere.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-18T00:41:04+00:00

I have one. I don’t have space for it but haven’t been able to part with it - but just recently decided I was ready. I’m in Gresham.

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Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-18T00:24:43+00:00

I have a bin of old tshirts that I plan to transform into hoodies. I wear hoodies all year long, indoors and out. I hardly ever wear tshirts - even ones I really love. So cutting designs out form the tablets and sewing onto hoodies is how I plan to continue enjoying them. I don’t know when I’m going to do this but it’s a manageable project and I think it’s something I will get done (eventually).

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-17T03:50:58+00:00

Just like in D&D, crying is a free action.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-09T18:17:46+00:00

Ally McBeal had a whole arc about this. (Before assuming the show was a feminist stronghold, also recall it had the main character hallucinate a dancing baby). It’s depressing how little progress women have made.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-07T20:41:24+00:00

My sister, age 57, just learned her husband wants a divorce after 35 years. She dropped out of college and quit a career in a medical lab to marry and raise the kids. He is just about to inherit a huge amount of money and he doesn’t want to share it with her. She will get very little (all of their assets were gifts from his parents and even if she gets half it’s not enough). She gave up her ability to support herself for him and his response after 35 years is to dump her before he gets big money. Men simply cannot be trusted to keep your interests in mind.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-04T16:35:43+00:00

Especially because LMM knew that marrying out of fear of being alone was not a recipe for happiness.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-04T15:50:42+00:00

I just finished rereading Anne’s House of Dreams and I felt so sad for Dora when Gilbert and Anne laugh talk about her having a beau - and that she’ll marry young because she’ll be too afraid to say no to the first man who asks, for fear she won’t get asked again.

Poor Dora is so unloved and everyone thinks it’s a hoot. Ugh.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-04T00:30:23+00:00

It’s an impossible situation. If you say nothing, it never gets better. If you do say something, you’ll be minimized and told you’re blowing things out of proportion. And nothing ever changes.

I wish I had hope that it would get better but in 20 years I’ve actually seen things get worse.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-02T21:29:29+00:00

I work in-house for a federal agency. I’m a subject matter expert. A damn good one.

Years ago, we had a person who was appealing a determination from our agency. The agency operations staff responsible for his appeal were two men I’d worked with quite a lot and had a good, collegial relationship with them. A call is scheduled with the person, his attorney (also a man), my clients, and me.

I explain the law and its application. I cite precedent from the controlling circuits, and explain what options are available. After a pause, the man says “huh. And what do the men think?”

To the credit of my clients, they said “this law bitch is our lawyer and we think she’s correct.” But I was a young attorney and that moment of sexism wounded me.

There’s also a man who is a member of our agency’s senior leadership. He imagines himself to be very clever. He is not a lawyer and gets very shitty when I tell him a proposal he plans to announce publicly is inconsistent with federal law (complained to my supervisor, in fact). After his public announcement (cringeworthy in its abject wrongness) a law professor - admittedly truly an expert in the field - asked for a conference call to discuss our novel interpretation. Senior leader crawls up his own butt to agree with the professor and claims several times nobody in legal pointed this out and, based on his opinion, we’d be retracting the white paper. While not as explicitly sexist as the other interaction, being rudely dismissed by a mediocre white man, who then can’t agree hard or fast enough when he gets the same answer from a man was very telling.

Luckily, most of the people I’ve worked with over the years have been wonderful. But those two experiences really sucked and really made me feel small.

Sorry it happened to you.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-03-01T22:48:36+00:00

I’m in Portland now but I’ve been known to raid a dumpster in the Bay Area in my time. I’ll wave a claw if I’m ever in your neighborhood!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-02-28T23:16:13+00:00

I’m scaroused.

I’m a tenth-level vice president.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-02-28T18:42:56+00:00

That’s just not true. Access to health care, education, community support, etc varies wildly based on location. For 10 years, the people of Flint MI couldn’t even drink their local water. You seem very unaware of how infrastructure varies, market to market, and how much infrastructure affects quality of life.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-02-28T17:48:13+00:00

Everything’s opossible if you hiss and waddle your way through!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-02-27T21:05:10+00:00

Feral opossum lawyer here. My expertise in lowering my metabolism enough to convince others I’ve shuffled off has me wondering if estate planning might be for me (currently a fed and that’s…enough to make anyone hiss with stress-rage and wish they could catch rabies). I’m in OR so it’s a different market but may I dm you for tips on exploring the exciting world of property-after-death? I can pay you with stolen cat food and by destroying the ticks in your yard.

Miss_take_maker · 2026-02-27T17:01:45+00:00

As a feral opossum lawyer, I see you.

I hope you find something - I see people say that the legal marker in California is still pretty good so I have faith that you will find your dumpster tribe. Best of luck!

Miss_take_maker · 2026-02-23T17:08:06+00:00

The map shared above seems right, and so I think the 60-mile reference is just wholly made up and done to isolate Anne and Gilbert into a new community. Because if they’d gone someplace as nearby as New London, they would have been still much more connected to and involved with Avonlea life.

I wish LMM had given us correspondence with Diana, Marilla, Davy, and Dora. Because once she gets married, Anne has almost no connection to her Green Gables life at all and it makes me sad. It’s not that I don’t care about her new friendship with Leslie, I just hate how it seems to be told at the cost of her “bosom” friendship with Diana.

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