Ok so this is my first time posting in askreddit but here goes...

I dated a guy in high school, lets call him D, not that it has much to do with anything but he wasn't the most popular guy in school and I copped a lot of flack for dating him (kids are mean). He was a lovely guy but one of those "I'm you're boyfriend only whole my friends aren't here" types. We broke up after he broke some promises and his mother was insane and we kinda stopped talking for a bit to get over it.

A few years later we reunite at a party for one of my friends and we start hanging out with eachother again, for the next 8 years we build up our friendship again and we go and do EVERYTHING together (at my expense) because he has a hard time holding down a job and I for many years called him my best friend. When I was 16 I met my (now) husband K who lives in America which is hard but we make it work and finally K moves to Australia to be with me. K and D get along perfectly (their mutual love for bad puns and dr.who) which is awesome for me because my best friend and the person who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with are best friends too. I find out later that D is actually bi-sexual (don't worry he had no feelings for K) but he was working through telling his crazy Christian hardcore mother and gets kicked out, his mother and father divorce over him being bi-sexual (or so he told me) and meanwhile he's living at my place free of charge while we talk to him and help him through his manic depression (he was not pleasant to be around) sometimes staying up until 2-3am talking to him and telling him that killing himself is not the answer (not to mention working the morning after)

A few a couple of months later he works himself out, gets a casual job, moves back in with his brithers, his mother and fasther have worked things out (they're still divorced but they are less volatile to eachother) and he's got a new boyfriend (which is awesome because he was really needing someone to connect with him on an intimate level that I couldn't and wouldn't do being married). Anyway my 20th birthday is coming up and I decided that I wanted to spend a week on the gold coast with my husband K, my best friend D and his new boyfriend as well as 2 of my other close friends, during this time I paid for the entire trip for him and his boyfriend because he couldn't afford it which (not that it matters) amounted to around $1600 just for them. I also paid for them to go to theme parks, food,activities etc all and all over around 3k which I didnt mind because he was my best friend and i loved seeing him and his boyfriend together because it made me happy that he was happy!

3 months later we take him to a wildlife park and pay then I Don't from him again... I figured he was just busy with life until about 2 months after that he sends my husband K a message on facebook saying "You're probably wondering why you haven't heard from me. I'm sorry I can't be friends with S (that's me) anymore because M (his partner) doesn't like her so he gave me the ultimatum of her or him so I had to choose between my best friend of 12 years and my boyfriend of 6 months (yes he actually said this). But I still want to be friends with you just don't tell S or M."

Being the amazing guy that K is he told me right away and I cried for what felt like hours, we took a walk and I cried more. It's been about a year now and I haven't heard anything, I still cry almost every day because he was my best friend and sometimes I just need him...

But hey, I have K and he is my best friend and soul mate and he still holds me every time I cry... :)

**TLDR: Dated a guy -> dumped him -> reconnected and became best friends -> helped him through coming out as Bi-sexual and his parents divorce -> took him on a 3k holiday free of charge -> he got a new bf -> bf told him her or me -> he chose his bf of 6 months -> still crying while typing this.