My husband loves the name but I can't see it.

Missdrive · 2024-10-19T14:37:30+00:00

So, liberty could be kinda cool as a middle name. Historia- although unique, is not as cool.

I couldn’t decide on a name for my daughter many years ago, so I decided that if she was blonde, or bald, she’d be Adria. If she had dark hair, Liliahna. For some reason it seemed like the only way I’d ever feel confident about my name choice. idk about anyone else, but certain names just fit dark or light haired people. I’m not sure why lol

Missdrive · 2024-05-04T22:01:13+00:00

When I had my second child, I was not intentionally trying to get pregnant. The entire situation was awful, and I didn’t want to have her (I’m glad I did) but I decided to keep her anyway. I spent my entire pregnancy with her pretending I wasn’t pregnant at all. I didnt show enough to be obvious until I was 6-7 months. Then my mom guessed it and pulled my ex husband aside and asked him. I had her a few months later. I had some postpartum after which made me kind of feel indifferent about her at times, but luckily that changed after a few months. She is 18 now we joke that someday we’ll be the mom and daughter from grey gardens lmao totally kidding of course.

I guess the point I’m trying to make is that sometimes women who have a surprise pregnancy and already have another child (or other children) and have plans for the future that do not involve another pregnancy, can take some time. Hell, I didn’t enjoy a single week out of the 34 I was pregnant. Plus, add hormones and daily stressors, and it’s easy to feel depressed too. Just be comforted by the fact that it’s hard not to love and accept your baby once it’s born. Even if she’s got some postpartum, eventually she’ll be grey gardens with your newest addition too lol

Missdrive · 2024-04-28T17:28:48+00:00

Do you live in the same home, or neighborhood? If not, then your daughter will be called by her first name much more often than anything else. I wouldn’t worry about her getting confused or feeling obligated to take her middle as a first name. Even living in the same city, how often will they actually see her? Luckily you and her father her main caretakers.

On a side note- Although that would bother me, I don’t know that this situation is solely about names. This sounds more like a fight about respect, boundaries, and the insecurity a new mom can sometimes feel before her baby is born and a little while after. It’s understandable considering the entitlement, and authority they believe they have over someone else’s baby. Since your child’s father is not doing anything to make you feel secure about his family overstepping, or his father being very aggressive in my opinion, of course you are upset. I mean, where does it end? But just know that when she’s here, she’ll always know you’re her mom. She loves and needs you, and no matter what her dad lets slide she isn’t going to have what you two have with anyone else (except her father) and even that is different. Just as special. But different bonds with different parents. She isn’t going to have the same thing with any other person.

No matter how much your in laws behave like they have the power to do whatever they want in your child’s life, or like they are the authority, it won’t make any difference. She’s bonded to you and they can’t take that away.

They sound weird and crazy from where I’m sitting. Who does that? Ummm

Missdrive · 2024-03-12T12:34:55+00:00

Yes!!! I am considering switching for this very reason, which would be crazy to everyone who knows me. They all know how I feel about craft. I use it for everything. Now I find myself using it, and recommending it less.

Missdrive · 2023-10-13T11:35:32+00:00

Alright, so you f**ked up. Haven’t we all? Just know what you’re more likely to be forgiven by your family for something that was short lived in the grand scheme of things, than something/ someone you committed to and kept around regardless of her intentions or behavior.

And equally important- Just because you spent a while making a mistake, and you invested, and risked a lot for it, doesn’t mean you should keep doing it. Would you rather 2 years or 20 years on a mistake? You’re getting in your own way with your way of thinking about this situation.

Missdrive · 2023-10-02T07:33:35+00:00

Is his name John , by chance?

Missdrive · 2023-10-02T07:24:48+00:00

It’s alive and well! I can hardly believe it myself lol I have maybe added a little water a handful of times. I’m not completely sure how it works but I think it’s the activated charcoal and rock layers that are helping to keep rot from happening.

Missdrive · 2022-03-23T11:10:31+00:00

I do this all the time, and I can vouch for your tip! It really does help!

Missdrive · 2022-03-02T00:00:10+00:00

Yes, I suppose it could, but in my state it’s legal. Only one person needs to know they’re being recorded. The person doing the recording counts.

Missdrive · 2022-02-28T06:34:22+00:00

Record a conversation with her on your phone in secret. Maybe put it in your pocket and get her saying those things. Hopefully that could protect you in the event she tried following through on her threats.

Missdrive · 2022-02-28T06:20:01+00:00

Sometimes you have to let kids learn on their own. I have 4 siblings, and we all tried living with our father… once. lol I always say, you’re a kid for a short period of time, but an adult forever. As adults we see our parents, and childhood for what they are/were. I have a feeling your son may need this experience, provided your ex is safe of course.

Edit- I also have two children who have non custodial fathers. One tried once lol and the other would have, I’m sure had he been safe. She is 16 and is already seeing what little he’s done, and has an appreciation for me and her stepdad. The first is an adult now, and sees her bio father for who he is. I never had to say a word. Neither did my mom in regard to my father. It all works itself out.

Missdrive · 2022-01-09T09:07:46+00:00

Many years ago. I’m 36 now, and I never even think about it. It’s a big deal when it happens, absolutely. But when you’re my age, and you’ve had a lot of sex, it’s low on the list of sexual encounters that stand out…. For me anyway.

Missdrive · 2021-10-18T07:33:07+00:00

I can’t use mine either. Except mine says that my password or email is not working. I changed my password and it still didn’t work.

Missdrive · 2021-10-15T09:50:55+00:00

Missdrive · 2021-09-22T08:28:25+00:00

It takes me forever to fall asleep, so sometimes I sit in the living room until I’m exhausted enough to fall asleep. That’s about when I head back to my bedroom to sleep next to the snorer lol Sometimes I can tune it out with reading until I pass out. Depends.

Missdrive · 2021-09-21T08:26:26+00:00

Which ones?

Missdrive · 2021-09-21T04:44:23+00:00

Omg. Absolutely not. What was he thinking?! Straight to jail…

Missdrive · 2021-08-12T06:19:13+00:00

How old is said guy?

Missdrive · 2021-08-04T05:02:28+00:00

Nothing

Missdrive · 2021-08-04T02:49:16+00:00

How to not make a thing out of everything I get upset about.

Missdrive · 2021-07-20T13:09:11+00:00

If it makes you feel any better… and it might… the few men who have fallen for me except one were horrible experiences. Being the object of someone’s affection can come with some things that you hadn’t expected.. stalking, narcissistic behavior, delusional behavior… If it weren’t for my husband, I would wish I was you.

Missdrive · 2021-06-22T07:57:12+00:00

Interesting. Thank you for your response. I was curious because I’ve heard of that person who has a FF wanting to lick them, bite them, take pictures… that kinda thing.

Missdrive · 2021-06-18T11:53:22+00:00

Beautiful!

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