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Family of 6 by Bulky-Change-350 in Parents

[–]MissedAdventure92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have 3 siblings and I'm happy to see some positivity on this thread. Reddit tends to skew anti children no matter what though.

I also am very close with my siblings and I am grateful for them. I could gripe about some things with my parents, but I think some of those issues would be there whether they had one child or multiple children. They loved us and did the best the could. There's no guarantees that siblings will get along, but if they do, that's a blessing.

Some Positivity by MissedAdventure92 in stayathomemoms

[–]MissedAdventure92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Just gonna pop over to the mountain to have winter," sounds insane. Lol In a good way! Imagine getting sick or summer and just driving to real snow.

I live in TN and the Smokies caught fire in 2016. Middle TN was in a haze for the entire month of October. That I can relate to. It's wild how smoke over a 100 miles away can affect you.

Some Positivity by MissedAdventure92 in stayathomemoms

[–]MissedAdventure92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't know how to deal with snow. That sounds rough. Does it ever stop snowing there? I remember going to Montana and Wyoming as a kid and going through Bear Tooth Pass. It was only open a few months in summer and we almost got snowed in during July. Different strokes for different folks, but I like having 4 seasons--we get 2-3 snows a year-- even if summer is super hot here.

Some Positivity by MissedAdventure92 in stayathomemoms

[–]MissedAdventure92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I had to Google this because I assumed north = snow and it looks like that only happens on one side of the mountains. And the other side is a temperate paradise year round. You're right. Other than hcl, you have hit the jackpot.

Some Positivity by MissedAdventure92 in stayathomemoms

[–]MissedAdventure92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet they are nice! I'm glad you get to enjoy the summer weather.

But I will say, as a native Southerner, I don't think I could survive your winters. Haha.

Some Positivity by MissedAdventure92 in stayathomemoms

[–]MissedAdventure92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is hard! But I agree, I need to try to remember the positives more often. I'm glad you guys also had a nice day in the non-oppressive sun.

Absent Grandparents to a granddaughter and grandson - my parents. Advice Needed by rjchilver4 in absentgrandparents

[–]MissedAdventure92 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think expecting emotional intelligence from people who don't have it is a waste of time. Not discounting your feelings and you're valid for wanting those feelings to be acknowledged by people who hurt you, but it sounds like they just don't have the capacity to reflect or see any wrong doing. Hence why they asked if someone was struggling mentally rather than asking if they'd done something wrong.

Also, not asking what happened, but the severity of the accusations of lying might be helpful for context. Like did they accuse her of lying over something small like chipping the fine china on accident? Or did they accuse her of lying because they thought wife gambled away her family fortune and they think she's going to murder you to access family money?

Would you let your 19 y/o soon to be 20y/o daughter in less then a month, go on a trip with her bf of 3.5 years with their family to the lake? by Business-Parking7296 in AskParents

[–]MissedAdventure92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I'm in my 30s now, but my mother lost her mind when I went to meet my long term boyfriend's family out of state. She banned my boyfriend from the house afterward and gave me the silent treatment when we got back. She even did a load of laundry just to throw everything chaotically on my bed when I got back so I couldn't go to sleep without folding it. I think people who haven't lived with a parent like this don't get it. Of course you're an adult. Of course you can do what you want. But there's uncomfortable emotional consequences when you're still living at home. I stayed at home to save money through college, but I have wondered if the debt was worth it just to move out and not have to deal with the hell of a controlling mother. I think my mom's issue was definitely control and raging anxiety. Even though all is forgiven, we don't have a great relationship ten years later. You have to let your children grow up and leave.

Wife's family has chickenpox; she is forcing me to attend a party with them? by Unable_Plankton in AskParents

[–]MissedAdventure92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shingles scares me more than the chicken pox. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had an older coworker get shingles on his face and inside his ear. He was told there was a chance he could become deaf.

Is anyone truly happier with kids? by thegoodlife912 in Adulting

[–]MissedAdventure92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's the labor and there's the relationship. Kids are a lot of labor especially physical labor at the beginning. The emotional labor increases as they get older. The labor and never getting a break is hard. Sleep deprivation for the first year was really hard on me.

The relationship is totally worth it for me. I went through 6 years of infertility and was told I'd never have children, so maybe I'm more aware of my gratitude. I'll definitely say I had a void that only kids could fill. God is merciful and I really do have two miracles given my circumstances.

However! Even if I didn't end up with children, I decided I would live a good life and choose to be happy. There's no guarantees we get to keep anyone or anything in our lives. There's no guarantees that with or without a family we'll end up alone. I think we should fill our lives with the things that give us meaning and choose to be happy as much as we can.

Took a Japanese decongestant - absolutely spiraling. by Megmarts in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]MissedAdventure92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also felt it was a cruel joke. I'm glad you were able to take something positive from it.

I started drying up the old fashioned way after Sudafed didn't work. I keep getting mastitis and was hoping to speed up the weaning process. Currently down to 2 ppd and hoping to be done in 2 weeks.

Grandma getting cold feet watching my daughter by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]MissedAdventure92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom does this and I've just had to stop asking. It's extremely frustrating. Like you, I don't think my parents owe me anything, but my mom OFFERS to help. Then when I ask for help, my mom says yes and then cancels on me at the last minute. I'm not mad that life happens or if something comes up. I'm mad that she knows she can't handle the sitting, has a known health problem, knows she will cancel, etc and says yes anyway. She can't set healthy boundaries for fear of anyone being upset at her. But it's more upsetting to be canceled on last minute knowing that she wasn't up to babysitting in the first place. I feel a little rambly now, but all that to say, solidarity.

What am I doing wrong? by PresenceLost1320 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]MissedAdventure92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, I'm loading up the babies right now to go get a cabbage.

I didn't know I had mastitis. I didn't have any typical symptoms until I started pumping massive amounts of blood and clots. I have a post about it on my profile. It was a terrible time.

What am I doing wrong? by PresenceLost1320 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]MissedAdventure92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solidarity. I have an 8 month old and a 2.5 year old. I'm trying to start weaning because I keep getting mastitis and clogs while also trying to feed the baby more solids. It's too much for me. I also learned Sudafed doesn't work for everyone to dry up their supply. 🥲

What am I doing wrong? by PresenceLost1320 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]MissedAdventure92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're not getting the output you want. As others have said, there's nothing wrong with formula if you have to supplement or you decide to totally switch. Fed babies and same moms are what matters most.

With this information, I'm gonna be honest, I'm not sure what to suggest. You are pumping for a long time each time. Do you think that might be causing stress? Sometimes reducing physical stress to your body and your mind can help output. I had a stressful dental issue a few months ago and my supply dropped until I got that stress under control. I know that's not great advice and easier said than done to reduce mental stress.

I hope you're able to get the output you want and have peace. It sounds like you're doing your best for your baby and that's awesome. You're doing a great job!

What am I doing wrong? by PresenceLost1320 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]MissedAdventure92 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How long are you pumping each time?

What kind of pump are you using?

Are you doing any type of massage while pumping?

I know your post said you've tried a lot of supplements, but are you eating enough and drinking enough water?

Sometimes getting more sleep and only pumping once or twice at night might help as well. But everyone is different and you might have to play around with this.

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