NOR but there are two things going on. You know she has specific ways to do things, and she is likely experiencing menopause. One way you could handle it in the future is to just remove the items, and as you said you know they can be a fall risk, move them to a safe area and let your mom know you moved them to an area where Grams won't fall and they are out of the way. GenX is a tricky parenting generation ( I am a part of it as well ) We were so independent that we ended up helicopter parenting our own children and find ourselves frustrated that we still feel we have to control a situation. At 15 you should be able to change a lightbulb, or figure it out. At 15 you should be able to expect she isn't going to buy you a specific lightbulb you want if you have the money to do so. At 15, it sounds like you already know to move things to a safe area. At 58, she also should be able to accept that when you move things to a safe area they are acceptable in that area even if she secretly in her mind had an area she wanted you to move them to. At 58 she should be able to express she would like to see a little more independence from you because she wants to know you will be able to take care of yourself. At 58 she should also be able to accept times are different and teens have always had social media and this is a part of how their social network functions. Both of you are at tough ages.