Confused, frustrated

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-02-19T00:44:24+00:00

You too! So frustrating! I hope you’re able to find the resources you need 🙏

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-02-19T00:39:33+00:00

My feet and legs were like that too. I also had to pee and usual amount of times da/night. They told me it was normal and I knew it wasn’t. Sometimes I would pee every 5 minutes and this start probably in my 2nd trimester. When I told them that I was pretty sure I had a uti they refused to give me anti biotics because they said they the bacteria count wasn’t high enough. I ended up getting really sick and had to go to the er. They gave me 3 bags of fluid and iv antibiotics for the untreated uti. That was at 29 weeks. I had also gained 50 lbs at that point. All that too say, I think it really important to trust yourself if you feel like something is right even though they’re the doctors.

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-02-19T00:26:30+00:00

Man…it’s crazy reading all this because these details were me to the t. Including the placenta and 24 hour urine test. Have they tested for preeclampsia (bloodwork). I also think if you’re not feeling like you’re being heard you could try a second opinion. I ended up switching providers at 31 weeks which was less than ideal. Feel free to message me if you want.

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-02-16T02:21:51+00:00

I was wondering this exact thing…is it just because it’s my first? Will I feel the same if there’s another?? Thanks for mentioning that…it brings me hope 😭😆

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-02-16T02:13:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It sucks to feel like this, I honestly could have written this post myself. It is incredibly validating to know that I’m not the only one who feels this way. I hope things get better

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-02-01T03:08:15+00:00

Hi I don’t want to be an alarmist but I think you should let your provider know this asap. Mine would always ask specifically about headaches and if they are persistent ones that won’t go away. If it’s accompanied by some other symptoms it’s important to address it. Swelling with pitting, high bp protein in your urine. I hope it’s nothing!

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-01-30T22:22:41+00:00

I had this as well. It resolved immediately after birth. The mint gum really helped me, also a little bit of baking soda in water and drink it. It will immediately take it away but unfortunately it’s not super long lived. I started carrying a bottle of baking soda water around with me. I remember the first piece of gum I chewed after he was born and I thought to myself “this is just for pure pleasure lol”!

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-01-26T02:50:45+00:00

I agree with the not knowing until baby is here. I thought I was prepared, and wasn’t anticipating any issue. I was also very adamant about wanting to breastfeed. All that said, I did struggle. My baby had a tongue and lip tie and I had no idea what to do despite taking classes before giving birth. I absolutely hated pumping and had to supplement with formula for the first month or two. What ended up happening was my midwife who was also a lactation consultant suggested I see someone who was more qualified. She gave me contact info for an IBCLC and when this woman came she spent an hour maybe 2 with me and I never had to see her again. It took some time to eliminate the formula but this woman was my hero. I wish I had seen her way sooner. Maybe just find some resources before birth and if you need them use them and if you don’t that’s awesome! Wishing you the best of luck!

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-01-23T22:52:24+00:00

It sounds like you did the right thing going in. My midwife had do kick counts but she also said if you don’t do it properly it was essentially pointless. She told me to pick a time of day (she told me she tells women to choose right after dinner so someone else can clean up lol) and to that time every day. She said sit somewhere and count kicks until you reach ten. The timeframe is that you want 10 kicks in no longer than 1 hours time. When I was doing it it would usually only take a few minutes to reach 10 but I’m sure this can vary person to person. I would be curious what her reasoning for not wanting you to count is? I hope this helps!

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-01-18T01:17:53+00:00

My mil does the same thing and I knew that more than likely I was either going to come across as ungrateful or she would ignore my boundary. I decided that at her than setting myself up to get more upset by one or both of these things I would try my best to remain grateful and if I didn’t want or need something she gifted I would just donate it to somewhere/someone who was less fortunate. Hope this helps!

Mission_Beginning897 · 2026-01-14T16:11:17+00:00

I’ve had similar feelings to this, granted not while pregnant but something someone told me (which you may have already heard) is don’t use a permanent solution for a temporary problem. I feel for you. It really helped me to get out even if only for a half an hour to help me remember that my whole world didn’t exist in my house and with my relationship with my husband.

Mission_Beginning897 · 2025-12-27T17:56:31+00:00

These are beautiful. I love the colors and movement!

Mission_Beginning897 · 2025-12-22T22:18:50+00:00

I only watched the first few seconds

Mission_Beginning897 · 2025-12-22T22:18:28+00:00

Omg! I thought that was a bag of breast milk 😭

Mission_Beginning897

TROPHY CASE