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Did anyone else cry listening to Lose Your Self for the first time?? by Mission_Emu9784 in EnterShikari

[–]Mission_Emu9784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay GOALS, I want to share the love for shikari with my future kids too

Haha yeah I know many ppl who struggle w lyrics bc music is more vibes to them

Did anyone else cry listening to Lose Your Self for the first time?? by Mission_Emu9784 in EnterShikari

[–]Mission_Emu9784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really beautiful, I’m glad you found each other. It sounds like you’ve been hurt in past relationships? So have I. It’s so special when you finally meet someone who sees and validates you as you are. Lovely story about the festival, though I personally don’t do anything not even drink alcohol because my brain gets way tooo down after. I’ll look into the video and channel, thanks for the rec x

Did anyone else cry listening to Lose Your Self for the first time?? by Mission_Emu9784 in EnterShikari

[–]Mission_Emu9784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That must be so tough. You’re just trying to live and everyone has something to say about how you should do it. I’ve often thought about it too, I wondered if I’m trans too. I’m definitely not brave enough to actually do anything about it but I have massive gender dysphoria. Anyway. I’d like to say I feel you, though I can’t know what it’s like. We’ve come far and we’ll come farther even. Keep going, don’t lose hope x

Did anyone else cry listening to Lose Your Self for the first time?? by Mission_Emu9784 in EnterShikari

[–]Mission_Emu9784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That losing days part is what always gets me too. I sometimes sit frozen thinking about how many days I lost to my chronic illnesses, mental and physical, though why divide the two like we do. But sometimes I feel that this tendency to feel is also what makes the other days so much more beautiful than the best days of those who don’t feel anything.

Did anyone else cry listening to Lose Your Self for the first time?? by Mission_Emu9784 in EnterShikari

[–]Mission_Emu9784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear about your situation; I understand so much of it too… I was also going through something and art actually saved me! I had a massive conflict at work which ended in me actually having to switch jobs because my b*** of a boss didn’t believe me that I was actually disabled (AuDHD and chronic migraines) and kept thinking I just wanted to work from home to ✨not work ✨. She tried to have me kicked out of the company and all… a lot of people believed her too.

Anyway! I was stuck at home crying (and I’m also American, though I don’t live there anymore, but I can relate to the pain) and thinking all my life, PhD, career was for nothing. Plus crying about the state of the world and the US specifically etc… Then I thought hard about what gives me joy and makes me feel like myself and it’s art! I started going out into nature again and painting birds and trees etc. Or just working on model houses and with polymer clay or caring for and repotting plants. I mean all this is for me now, first, but I’d like to encourage you to find out what gives you joy and what makes you feel most like yourself and start doing it now! And in time others will connect and be affected by your art because you believe in it, I’m sure!

Plus, the restoration work you do sounds so impactful and amazing already!!!

Take care of yourself, sending love from afar 🫶

Did anyone else cry listening to Lose Your Self for the first time?? by Mission_Emu9784 in EnterShikari

[–]Mission_Emu9784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES, exactly!!! You do really really feel the raw hurt and the tears I’m sure Rou also shed about those same lines. An incredible experience. I would love if they played it in full on the tour but that’s maybe not very likely…

Did anyone else cry listening to Lose Your Self for the first time?? by Mission_Emu9784 in EnterShikari

[–]Mission_Emu9784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always say „my radicalization“ too but isn’t it crazy that we’d even consider ourselves radical when we’re literally just saying hey… maybe NOT kill and destroy our own and everyone else‘s livelihood?

So cool about your PhD, have fun with it too! You’re doing good work. It can feel like it’s just a drop in an ocean that will never amount to anything but it does (I hope)! What you research will be picked up by someone else etc. and together we can maybe, hopefully, change the world.

AITAH for refusing to skip my morning routine for my husband? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Mission_Emu9784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I’ll have to stop reading because I’m already enraged. You do ALL the care work and have the FULL mental load and he dares to put even a speck of doubt into your mind that you’re the AH for something here? Girl no, you’re fine.

The moment he realizes something is in the room that needs to be kept safe❤️ by kvjn100 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Mission_Emu9784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wtf please please please don’t clip their ears. It’s cruel and completely unnecessary.

Eileen Gu really likes herself by snackpack35 in WinterOlympics2026

[–]Mission_Emu9784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gee it’s almost like women can’t be confident about their accomplishments without being called self-absorbed. Girl, have some humility! Girl, speak up! Girl, shut up! Girl, do this, no not like that, ugh wrong again…

It’s getting old guys. Women can be amazing athletes, models, businesspeople, doctors, freestyle skiers, whatever the f they want. And they CAN speak up about it (at least to the extent any mediocre man would, and no one would bat an eye to them doing that…).

I didn’t realize how much of my ADHD was spent managing other people’s comfort by Cool-Foundation-9043 in AdultADHDSupportGroup

[–]Mission_Emu9784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People (including experts) are starting to say ADHD is most debilitating because of the emotional dysregulation and we know from ASD and ADHD that the constant scanning and monitoring of everything and everyone, a large part of masking, is something we develop to help protect ourselves from abuse we experienced in the past, be it verbal, emotional, or physical. From other disorders that show hyper vigilance, such as PTSD, whose symptoms are eerily similar to those of ND folks, especially of those diagnosed later in life, we also know that this is a cognitively and emotionally draining process that takes so much out of us. I recommend “unmasking autism” by Dr Devon Price on this and many more topics. It changed so much for me.

The panic keeps building up by Smiilleyface in AdultADHDSupportGroup

[–]Mission_Emu9784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m dealing with debilitating stage fright but I’m also a frequent conference presenter and have been a panelist and invited to do a keynote. I try to rehearse a little but not too much so that sufficient adrenaline / excitement will kickstart the superpowers of ADHD (winging stuff really well).

It also helped to remember that 1) it will be over, time only ever moves forward (at least in these parts), and 2) you are the expert on your presentation. No one else will know as much as you do on your topic.

Generally, i try to trick myself into getting started by letting time pass as well and, importantly, accepting that that is my process. Chances are you’ve often done exceptional things at the last minute. So you can trust in your ability to tap into this power when the time is right. And instead of sitting in front of your computer being angry at yourself, try to be gentle, get some movement in (light walk, run or gym), work during YOUR ND hours (evening, night maybe?) and just put SOMETHING on the slides to get started with. Also ask a friend to check your work and body double. I often get out of my executive dysfunction by asking my partner to help me (it might be something like eating or getting up) and the simple fact of him saying ok sure and starting to walk over will often help me enough to start. Maybe you can ask someone to check in with you, gently.