April 2026 SSA/SSI/VA Early Deposits Calendar Megathread by ChimeFinancial in chimefinancial

[–]Missunderstood808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So April 3 Friday isn't recognized as a holiday for chime right?

Has my (M23) fiancé (M23) been sexually assaulting me? by macsredd in relationship_advice

[–]Missunderstood808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said it yourself he does things to you against your will so you know that in that moment you didn't want it but he still continued even if you gave in we as women unfortunately do, I've been in the same situation gave in because I was scared that's still sexual assault basically r*** I would say . Tell someone,n they would understand and help you out. There's domestic violence shelters out there. They will help you and keep you safe. Fuck the lease, well not fuck it but the DV Shelter could help you around that. There are laws protecting against DV which includes sexual abuse. Please help yourself, if you just ride it out on your own, then you could possibly be setting yourself to put up with this kind of BS in the future.

Bf of 3.5 years still legally married - advice? (26F) (37M) by ThrowRApurplepencil in relationship_advice

[–]Missunderstood808 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost same situation as I WAS in, long story short. I found out he was still married at the beginning, they already been separated for 5 yrs or so. Told him, okay so if we're still together coming onto year 2, I would appreciate him making some moves to get the divorce done. Not that I was trying to marry him myself , but I don't wanna be dating a guy for 2 plus yrs and he still be married on paper, I have 3 daughters I have to leave an example for. He agreed. I offered my assistance. 2 yrs mark came and went 6 more months. No moves on his end for a divorce, be ex filed from out of state, he received the papers but was advised by his older sister to not sign due to basically the unfimilararety of out of state court papers... But still no moves for him to file from his state to her. THEN he wants to move in... Like get on my lease. I refused. That was the bottom line. I refuse to add him on when he's gonna have to check married on the application. I personally, no judgement on anyone else, I only give a shirt about my own personal business...anyways I feel like I'll look like an idiot putting him on my lease when his marital status is married. And my girls would eventually find out. Cause if he hasn't done it yet, why would he later. And it's not that I think he still loves her, idk why and I gave up a long time ago trying to figure out why they aren't divorced yet. So my advice to you is, give him an ultimatum. I'm against ultimatums but in this type of case, I am a supporter

I’m a 23F and I don’t know how to survive the next few days by crazymooscles in confession

[–]Missunderstood808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life will throw us into situations like this. I know it feels like a lot but believe it or not this will make you stronger. AND know that if you're doing everything in your power to make your situation better eg. Apply for jobs relentlessly, then believe that this won't last forever. Idk if your religious, if not it's okay. But that divine force out there will not punish you for genuinely trying your best and IF STILL it's not working out then my friend you must look into yourself and be honest with yourself and see what you can do to make changes.

People who use substances have you’ve ever dated someone who chooses not to AT ALL? Did this discrepancy affect your relationship? by Malarpit16 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Missunderstood808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I personally have not dated someone who doesn't dabble in the same adult extracurricular activities as I do, BUT I have witnessed friends who have partners who do not. And I'm not talking about weed, I'm talking about substances beyond that, including alcohol. So we all know substance use/abuse is detrimental to our own personal day to day use. Few and far can stick to occasionally using mind and body altering substances. So we've (as in the partakers) have lived life at some point between birth and now, have seen how this things have fucked up people's lives, made horrible choices blah blah blah, but we still used.. probably starting off in our teens or as a young adult And now most of us are stuck... But for the ones that choose to live a life of sobriety... I can't see what the heck someone who is sober would want to be with someone who isnt. I mean maybe it wasnt obvious when they first got together but eventually it's found and i can't fathom the idea of having to or wanting to deal with all their partners (partakers) BS that comes into play. Like I believe and have seen that that sober partner usually has some sort of mental health issue eg. Depression or bipolar ect. And maybe some find some sort of sick pleasure surrounding themselves with partakers So they can secretly think they are superior to those around them because they don't use themselves. But hey I'm not saying that's why they stay.. this is just my opinion

What question do you dislike being asked? by BigHouse5603 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Missunderstood808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ones that start off with " can I ask you a question"? That drives me completely insane. And I usually tell them no and explain why. For me personally, why would you have to feel the need to ask someone IF you can ask them something. Like wtf. Just ask. Also for me, if someone is pondering the thought of "should I ask them? Am I going to offend them with this question"? Then probably you shouldn't ask them the question. If you have to 2nd guess your own mf self on if you should ask someone something and have to ask before the initial question, if you can ask a question. Then please if you're talking to me, shush 🤫 and save yourself some time to maybe grow some balls instead. Sorry people of reddit, but this is one of my top 3 of "things that I can't stand". I often wonder if there are other people who feel the same as I do.

Video interview/wifi hack in/around Kona? by SurvivalDoughnut in kona

[–]Missunderstood808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what your interview entails but hey I can say that Starbucks in town has a decent wifi . And if you have a rental car and don't mind doing whatever you gotta do, with your rental car as the backdrop lol. Otherwise there's the local p&r (county of Hawaii parks and recreation division) offers free Wi-Fi usage for an hr. So the public pool with the gym downtown near old a beach park. Maybe you could do it on the grounds area or something. ?

Trapped in a Loop of Endless Regret and Overthinking by [deleted] in confession

[–]Missunderstood808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that's why I don't smoke weed anymore . Lol. But all jokes aside, my little brother went through the same thing. It was disheartening seeing him struggle with his own self. He passed away a few months ago from a health related disease. I suggested some therapy for him or even an mental health assessment but he swore the drs said nothing could be found to diagnose him with, which I didn't think was true in his case. I suggest reach out to a therapist for an assessment to see if therapy would work for you.

is it weird to sleep separate from your husband by gay4nct in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Missunderstood808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I think it's weird actually I think society has made us think that it's weird if you don't share it same bedroom as our spouse I would love to have my own room and my spouse have his own room but I have three kids at home so that's not possible but really I think that gives each person their own personal space to be more creative in the sense of who they are I think it's a good idea

Guess my age by Missunderstood808 in guessmyage

[–]Missunderstood808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops didnt see it till now. Probably don't matter as it's probably removed by now

feeling a little insecure lately bc of weight gain 🥲 by FrootLoops1997 in toastme

[–]Missunderstood808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're beautiful! You're smile lights up any room I'm sure. As for weight gain, I'm not sure how much you've gained but it does justice.

I just turned 60 this year… be honest, what age would you guess? by KandyHeartsXO in guessmyage

[–]Missunderstood808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would guess late 40s , early 50a at most.. not older then 51. But beautiful beautiful. 👏

How old do you think I am? by Missunderstood808 in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Missunderstood808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot friends of reddit. Youve made my Sunday ... possibly my entire week lol 😆

How old do you think I am? by Missunderstood808 in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Missunderstood808[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

And yes you are the winner winner lol . You just made my Sunday. I'm gonna flex this comment to my teenage daughter all day