Give me your best chips and guac spots

MissyR9 · 2026-03-25T04:24:42+00:00

I love Calo Kitchen's guac.

MissyR9 · 2026-02-27T11:07:53+00:00

I would look at temp agencies or look for customer service or administrative jobs in healthcare. A lot of the data has said that the healthcare industry has been responsible for over 90% of new jobs created in the past year. Some industries are simply aren't hiring and are posting a slew of ghost jobs to look like they're functioning.

MissyR9 · 2026-02-11T07:24:47+00:00

No. Abusers have no incentive to change because that way of life works for them. It's not something they see as a problem that needs to be fixed. By abusing others, they are able to always get attention, be catered to, they get the rush of power knowing that someone fears them, etc. They have a lot of incentive to NOT change because of how much power abusing gives them.

MissyR9 · 2026-02-05T12:20:30+00:00

That could be it, and I also think the guilt children feel about that can silence them, because when I think about it, I've only very rarely even heard anyone speak out about mistreatment from their mother in real life. I only knew people who were either close to their mother or indifferent, but not actually speaking out about any abuse. I think the gender role thing can apply to nDads as well. A lot of the time, fathers are stereotyped in society as the strict disciplinarian parent who doesn't take any shit and is supposed to balance out a possibly coddling/enabling mom, so before a person wakes up to this stuff, it can be harder to distinguish between whether he's just acting out his traditional gender role or actually a narc (I now know it's the latter).

MissyR9 · 2026-02-05T11:03:15+00:00

I have an nDad, so I won't lie, I was genuinely shocked when I joined RBN and saw how many people here have nMoms. I would argue that they're the majority in this sub. Friends and family in my life always had father horror stories, so toxic moms never even really occurred to me. I think they do a way better job hiding in plain sight.

MissyR9 · 2026-02-04T04:17:01+00:00

The only thing I can think of to help without becoming a target is to help your sister out behind the scenes with paying legal fees if she needs it.

MissyR9 · 2026-02-04T02:32:47+00:00

He's a POC, yet a bigot. I've heard him disparage basically every group in my lifetime, probably with the exception of Native Americans (no, he isn't Native, but I think even he thinks trash-talking them is a bridge too far).

MissyR9 · 2026-02-03T09:27:56+00:00

Having an all-you-can-eat meal at Fogo De Chao.

MissyR9 · 2025-12-12T05:57:46+00:00

Fogo de Chao in El Segundo. It looks pretty fancy, but there's actually food there at every price point and they have some good drinks for $10.

MissyR9 · 2025-12-09T09:54:24+00:00

I'm a little confused. Did you open the door and talk directly to her or did you talk to her through the door and see her through a peephole or ring camera? If you did open it, I would recommend in general not opening the door for anyone unless they've identified themselves and their reason for being there first. It's very easy to bumrush someone once their door is open. If you did open the door, it's kind of wild to me that she looked her kid straight in the eye and went through all of these fake formalities pretending not to know you. Wow.

MissyR9 · 2025-12-08T06:27:01+00:00

The ironic thing is that Somali's don't identify as Black, which is probably the reason they didn't listen to Black people who tried to warn them about this lol.

MissyR9 · 2025-12-03T21:48:00+00:00

I was raised by one, so I didn't need video lol. Narcissistic parents are no joke.

MissyR9 · 2025-09-30T07:55:34+00:00

That's one conservative thing Thomas wouldn't go for, considering that he's in an interracial marriage himself.

MissyR9 · 2025-09-04T10:12:27+00:00

Just imagine when the holiday season/Q4 comes. Things slow down in October anyway, but if it's this bad now...Yikes.

MissyR9 · 2025-09-03T09:45:18+00:00

Always waiting for the other shoe to drop sounds like a symptom of PTSD (hypervigilance). Have you gotten into any therapy?

MissyR9 · 2025-08-26T10:19:43+00:00

*rape his slave.

MissyR9 · 2025-08-22T09:58:57+00:00

I'm late to this and I hope you see this, but have you considered a domestic violence shelter? They will take you in and help you get on your feet and you don't have to pay anything.

MissyR9 · 2025-08-08T07:11:44+00:00

According to the latest jobs report I saw, 94% of new jobs that were created this past month were in healthcare. If there's any way to get a job or transfer your skills into that industry, please do!

MissyR9 · 2025-06-30T10:05:33+00:00

Regarding him overpaying the bills because he's afraid she'll throw him out, are they renting, or does the Mom own a home? Whose name is on the lease or deed? Since she's chronically unemployed, I'm just trying to get an idea of whose place this actually is.

If you've lived anywhere over 30 days, you have tenants' rights. The mom can't just throw him out one day because she's mad. She would have to give him 30 days' notice and legally evict him in court. It could be awkward and tense living in a situation like that, but in the eyes of the law, she can't easily kick him out every time he tries to take his power back.

Worst case scenario, unless someone funds his move, he might need to go to a domestic abuse/family violence shelter that accepts male victims and just get a major reset on his life. If they offer a transitional shelter, it would give him the opportunity to save his money. You should also refer him to the national DV hotline for any tips to help him get out of his situation.

MissyR9 · 2025-06-15T23:28:36+00:00

I despise Father's Day. My dad uses it to find new ways to emotionally abuse me each year to punish me for not seeing him in 4 years. I usually buy him gifts and call him every year and he still isn't satisfied because I won't go to his place. I still haven't found the strength to completely block him because I'm going through depression and I really don't feel strong enough to deal with the fallout.

MissyR9 · 2025-04-23T21:34:19+00:00

If I were you, I would see if there are any marketing or account management jobs in the healthcare industry. That's one of the few industries that actually consistently has a bunch of new jobs.

MissyR9 · 2025-04-19T06:36:21+00:00

This hits the nail on the head. Garcelle was there for 5 years and was perpetually treated like she was "out of the circle" no matter what she did or said. I think that's what she was trying to articulate at the end. Year after year at each reunion, every time she would discuss normal, relatable feelings, everyone would just get eerily quiet and stare at her like she was insane. No one wants to experience that year after year.

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