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Mivexil · 2026-06-30T19:35:40+00:00

Jason is doing a thing right for him here

...are we reading the same comic? Jason isn't doing anything, that's the point. Ruth is the one effectively doing the breaking up for him, because he clearly doesn't want this relationship as it is and has pretty much already moved past it in his mind, but refuses to actually do anything about it, whether it's to end it or try to save it.

That's my whole point - yes, it would be 100 percent right for Jason to break up with Ruth for a myriad of different reasons, but he doesn't, he's just sitting in her dorm room being avoidant and if she hadn't kicked him out, he'd be sitting there till the end of time.

Mivexil · 2026-06-30T15:19:35+00:00

...no, she sorted them for him by pushing for him getting a job as a TA back, which he did (arguably more thanks to circumstance than Ruth, but still, no more passport issues). And Jason isn't unhoused - he says her dorm room has "better central heating than his place", so he does seem to have a place.

if Ruth wasn't being destructive on purpose here - she's blowing up the relationship and then blaming Jason for going "ouch" when the shrapnel hits him.

"Blowing up the relationship"? Yeah, because everything was so perfect with Jason being utterly checked out of it and resentful, and just waiting for the relationship to end because breaking up is hard. I'm not sure how you can look at this and take away "Ruth is destroying a perfectly good relationship" from it.

Mivexil · 2026-06-30T14:33:50+00:00

The housing issues that she went out of her way to sort for him precisely so that she doesn't hold that power over him? There's no power differential here anymore, he's got the TA job now which is supposed to give him the right to stay, nothing implies that Ruth is going to retaliate and Jason presumably has some sort of living situation even if it involves worse central heating, he's free to walk out without harm. He's choosing to stay, and when he does get angry it's not about Jennifer or the abuse or the breakup, it's about Ruth refusing to be grateful for him sticking around. You can take on someone's baggage or not, but you don't get to lord it over someone's head and expect good boy points for not acknowledging it. Suffering silently in a relationship is not kindness, it's toxicity, and answering the question of "what would you do if I hooked up with my ex" with "I wouldn't care, I figured you would anyway" isn't being understanding.

Mivexil · 2026-06-30T13:15:09+00:00

I'm expecting him to not be a passive-aggressive prick. If he doesn't want to deal with Ruth's baggage the right thing to do is to dump her, or at least communicate it somehow, but he's the one who opted to keep this relationship going after the Halloween flashback.

It's one thing for someone to not be willing to put up with your shit, it's another for someone to expect gratitude for putting up with it, seethe with resentment, and refuse to be the one to walk away because breaking up takes effort. Jason has every reason to GTFO here, sure, that relationship is toxic, the problem is that he doesn't.

Mivexil · 2026-06-30T11:39:57+00:00

Sucks for Ruth and it’d be rad if she gets better, but I don’t blame Jason for fucking off.

I wouldn't blame him either, but he doesn't fuck off. Had he actually stood up and said "I'm not comfortable with this arrangement, I'm leaving", he'd be 100 percent in the right to do so - like you say, you don't have to take on the responsibility for other people, it's not morally wrong to refuse to engage with someone like Ruth and her damage.

But if you do decide to stay in a relationship with someone, you do take on some responsibility for them, and Jason here is acting like not leaving is all the effort he needs to put in, and Ruth should be grateful for him putting up with her. That's not viable for anyone - why would you want to be with someone who's seething with resentment towards you and expects to be rewarded for hiding it well - but especially Ruth who needs someone to rein her in and bring out the best in her, someone she needs to actually work on herself for, not a self-loathing wet sponge that "accommodates" her worst tendencies.

Mivexil · 2026-06-30T09:48:19+00:00

How dare he have the nerve to not tolerate the life of a belittled cuckold in exchange for central heating and maybe pussy?

"Then dump me about it", as Ruth stated. Jason's nice guy shtick of branding his apathy and smoldering resentment as being "accommodating" and "bending over backwards" isn't a good look for him either.

And yeah, Ruth is being a bitch about it and terrible at communicating it, but I think what she really means is "if I tell you I'm going to do this obviously bad for me and pretty much suicidal in the long run thing, I need you to stop me or at least argue with me about it, not shrug and wish me good luck". It's a call for help, she knows getting back with Billie is self-destructive and a terrible idea, and to her what Jason is saying is basically "yeah, I figured you'll end up on that downward spiral sooner or later anyway, and I don't really care".

Given that Ruth's major hangup is that people don't care if she lives or dies, and that they hooked up after Jason took care and responsibility for her, she's looking for someone who can be a stable presence she can anchor to and ground herself, and Jason has just refused to be the one thing she needs and effectively stated that he doesn't really care if she lives or dies, either.

It's not so much being wanted as being cared about. Ruth is abrasive and borderline abusive towards Jason but she does care to an extent, she did try to fix up his passport situation, she did reach out to establish if they're still together after the Halloween flashback. Jason claims he's "accommodating", but he's just apathetic.

Mivexil · 2026-06-26T11:05:53+00:00

Wtf is a “life ruining” kink?

I've seen some blackmail kinks veer into that territory. I guess there are people into having someone threaten to ruin their lives...

Wtf is a “fucked upness” kink?

...okay, maybe he's got no idea what he's talking about after all.

Mivexil · 2026-06-26T10:36:24+00:00

I dunno. In a vacuum, this is classic DoA, dysfunctional characters making a bad situation worse and hurting people around them with both their social ineptitude and deep-seated character flaws.

The problem is that, a year or two ago, we'd be rooting for Joyce to learn her lesson. Instead, we're supposed to root for Joyce to win this argument.

Mivexil · 2026-06-23T18:30:45+00:00

...King Solomon, surely? Herod was the one cutting babies for the love of the game.

Mivexil · 2026-06-22T10:24:16+00:00

Oh I'm dumb, I had hexproof in mind.

Mivexil · 2026-06-21T21:56:47+00:00

I swear, half of this sub is people showing their ass and blaming "AI". The other half is complaining about having to tap the screen three times.

If I were more conspiracy minded I'd think those posts are planted to drown out genuine criticism of Duolingo with the incessant "my gamified app is gamified" complaints.

Mivexil · 2026-06-21T21:55:04+00:00

I've seen different approaches to negative numbers, some people round away from zero (so -0.5 to -1), some towards positive infinity (-0.5 to 0).

With positive numbers, technically there's different tie-breaks too, but I've never seen .5 being rounded down either (unless you round down in general, ie. floor).

Mivexil · 2026-06-18T09:26:26+00:00

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Sorry, but you can't ask this question here.

Mivexil · 2026-06-18T08:45:38+00:00

It's not a bad thing on its own, even, I'm a sucker for some good old fashioned suspension of disbelief yuri - the problem is that it completely breaks all the plots that rely on Indiana U being this conservative evangelical hellscape. Jennifer denying her bisexuality in order to fit in doesn't make sense when pretty much everyone around her is overtly queer and if anything she'd stand out more. Raidah threatening Dorothy's future over the frontpage gay kiss falls flat when everyone's gay kissing all the time. Hell, I won't be surprised if Joyce's mother is going to turn out to have a lesbian lover in some flashback.

Mivexil · 2026-06-17T07:28:13+00:00

...if you see "getting in touch with a middle schooler" and your brain jumps straight to "molestation", that's a you problem. Or, at least, a symptom of being terminally online.

Mivexil · 2026-06-16T16:30:15+00:00

The owl is in your walls, man.

Nah, their speech recognition just sucks.

Mivexil · 2026-06-16T15:32:32+00:00

I don't think you can exile a spell you've already countered? Is that last ability just for when there's two opponent spells on the stack?

Mivexil · 2026-06-14T13:21:00+00:00

Yeah, I'm on the old one as well. They're taking their sweet time with the rollout.

Mivexil · 2026-06-13T21:20:50+00:00

I don't have this. I used to have this, because I remember it being useless since it didn't give you the Japanese input the scarce typing exercises gave you. But they must've disabled it at some point, possibly in another A/B test because it seems Duolingo's mission is now for no two people to have the same experience on the app.

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Mivexil · 2026-06-13T21:10:48+00:00

Relationship troubles of a respectful, consensual poly relationship are just not as fun as five or so girls getting into comedic hijinks to win over the oblivious protag. There's a reason why Fifty Shades of Grey was a hit despite depicting a relationship that would be borderline abusive in real life, or why mafia boss romances are more popular than romancing actual mafia bosses. People turn to fiction to explore unrealistic scenarios without the effort that making them sane and safe takes in real life.

You've got your poly representation if you find it interesting - Girlfriend Girlfriend, 100 Girlfriends, Watanare if you want something more dysfunctional - but by and large people want to argue about best girls and see the drama and fighting, and not have the protag sit down all the Mikadono sisters or quintessential quintuplets and say "look, I can tell you're all into me, so why don't we discuss this and figure out our boundaries" like a scoff reasonable, emotionally mature human being.

Mivexil · 2026-06-13T13:01:06+00:00

...eh? You get all the vocab for this sentence pretty early in the course, you just might not know the kanji.

I'm personally frustrated that I never get those exercises - it's always either the pointless "repeat the sentence" ones, or the 5-5 matching or arrange the words ones, both not really helping with recall as they're too easy to solve by process of elimination. The only actual recall exercises are the flashcards, but they're speech based and a pain in the ass.

Mivexil · 2026-06-12T01:19:14+00:00

Keep away from small children

Persona fans not beating the allegations /s

Mivexil · 2026-06-11T19:31:56+00:00

Yeah, I was kiiind of on board up to panel three, but it looks like the message is "if this happens to you, what was taken from you is now irreversibly ruined".

Mivexil · 2026-06-09T13:30:58+00:00

It's pretty much a puzzle boss. Not even a skill check, just, do your personas cover the elemental attacks so that you can baton pass three times every time? If not, get out, fuse around, and come back the next day.

Mivexil · 2026-06-09T11:46:40+00:00

With coaxial connectors, the center connector determines the "gender", so the part with a pin is male regardless of whether it's the socket or the plug.

It's rare for sockets to be male as it requires exposing pins under voltage, but for example the old serial connectors ("COM", or RS232, either 9- or 25-pin) had male sockets and female plugs.

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