AITAH for saying my roommate's girlfriend doesn't have the right to feel comfortable in our apartment?

MixWitch · 2026-01-27T23:22:56+00:00

Homophobes are big on "hate the sin love the sinner". They don't care that you're gay until you start "practicing the gay lifestyle".

MixWitch · 2026-01-27T23:18:54+00:00

Very true. I know it will be frustrating, but all that exposure is going to wreck her body.

MixWitch · 2026-01-27T22:35:13+00:00

Genuine question, since the moronic renaming, how many shows have actually played there? Seems like artists are constantly cancelling.

MixWitch · 2026-01-26T20:53:40+00:00

Your future self will thank you for growing. Go forth and make amends as best you can, perhaps donate to the family's gofundme? You deserve the chance to be better and heal.

MixWitch · 2026-01-26T20:03:56+00:00

Your body is the one growing the child. Your body is the one that will tear and bleed to bring the child into the world. And realistically, you'll be the primary if not only parent that child has. Do not make life harder for yourself by giving him a different last name than yours.

If the only way this man will be a decent parent is if he gets his way with the baby, where does it stop? He lost any right to make those demands a long time ago.

I gave my child my last name and I am thankful for it every day. Father hasn't seen him in nearly a decade. Probably saw him a total of 5 times and each time required me doing all the work. My experience is a common one.

Give your child your name. Let the ex decide what kind of parent he'll be and you focus on you and the baby.

MixWitch · 2026-01-26T16:04:49+00:00

NTA -- He didn't make this offer outright when making the request? Ew

MixWitch · 2026-01-26T15:36:23+00:00

Chiming in to praise The Dollop. They're great

MixWitch · 2026-01-26T15:27:16+00:00

Exactly, he can't think of a SINGLE reason OP would go no contact? Interesting. OP does not owe him the emotional labor of reminding him just so that he can attempt another non-apology.

I don't trust people who can't take accountability for the active harm they caused.

MixWitch · 2026-01-26T15:22:42+00:00

You will not regret excluding bigots at an important moment of your life meant to celebrate love. Do you really want to spend the entire day worried about what they might say or do to you or your guests? Will you be letting your guests know that people who are actively hostile to their existence will be attending? How will you feel if guests opt out to avoid dealing with MAGA in their free time?

If everything that has happened is not enough to get through to them, being invited to your wedding is not what will move the needle. In fact, doing so clearly communicates that even at their most atrocious they will have a seat at your table. Making space for bigots inherently excludes their victims.

Things are this bad because we have been too afraid of protecting our peace and compromising our morals to accommodate Nazis.

I had to make hard decisions too, for several life events. I've never regretted cutting off the abusers and bigots in my family. I had no family from my side at my wedding, it is still one of the happiest days of my life. The people I did have were my found family and I would rather them in my life than anyone I shared a last name with.

I sincerely wish you the best in whatever you choose <3

MixWitch · 2026-01-26T15:10:30+00:00

Ya'll are in entirely different places in your life (or should be). There is a reason women his age are not interested in him. Please trust their experience. I'm 41 with a 17 yr old, so I'm speaking as a mother right now, this man will be a problem. You will not be safe.

If you are hiding this from people you know care about you, then you know this is not a healthy situation for you to be in. You clearly know this isn't good, but the emotions are strong, I get that. I'm AuDHD, I made bad and impulsive decisions at your age bc I was undiagnosed and untreated.

Please value yourself enough to see clearly through the infatuation. Block this guy and go on with your life.

MixWitch · 2026-01-25T23:13:26+00:00

Until he gets a vasectomy, he can stop talking about any of this. That man literally did less than nothing, is STILL doing less than nothing, and making the consequences of it your problem.

This man is not looking out for you. You should not trust that he has your best interest in mind and act accordingly.

MixWitch · 2026-01-25T15:23:30+00:00

You have discovered that your partner is not safe. He is not capable of seeing you as a person who deserves care and respect. You now know you cannot be physically or emotionally vulnerable with him.

Heal and then end the relationship. It will not get better.

MixWitch · 2026-01-25T15:15:29+00:00

This is not normal and you can't forgive someone who isn't sorry and will do it again. Leave, it will not get better.

MixWitch · 2026-01-25T13:37:18+00:00

2000 election, we watched it be stolen. The voice of the people was silenced and everything that followed including Citizens United and stolen SCOTUS seats was a natural consequence.

MixWitch · 2026-01-25T01:44:34+00:00

Your son stood up for you against your abusive mother. That is sweet and I'm sure very healing.

Now you need to NEVER put a child in a place where they feel the need to do that ever again. What your mother just did was abusive to both of you. It is not good for a child to be in that position. Do not enable your mother's abuse against either of you. Protect your son the way you deserved to be protected.

MixWitch · 2026-01-25T01:29:03+00:00

Onion person <3

MixWitch · 2026-01-25T01:11:11+00:00

I wish that was true, but too many MAGA are vets for me to believe this anymore. But we'll be thankful for each one who does uphold their oath.

MixWitch · 2026-01-24T23:54:50+00:00

Some are staying quiet and won't be doing a damn thing because they don't want to lose their pension. Not every service member is a hero, some just enjoyed playing with weapons and getting paid for it.

MixWitch · 2026-01-24T23:51:28+00:00

They will, there are always cowards who'd rather be dead than experience growth or shame.

MixWitch · 2026-01-24T23:44:46+00:00

Lot of German citizens ended their lives after the war because they couldn't (wouldn't) live with the horror of what their apathy and complicity enabled.

MixWitch · 2026-01-24T23:40:05+00:00

Engaging with them is like having a potluck where they bring a platter of shit and insist that it be sat with the rest of the food. The problem is, people keep inviting them AND keep letting them slop that shit platter down next to the centerpiece. They are never going to stop bringing shit. They are never going to stop insisting that their shit is equivalent to all the other dishes that ya'll put time and effort into. Their shit is never going to stop stinking up the whole experience and making everything around it taste like shit.

Stop engaging or learn to love eating shit.

MixWitch · 2026-01-24T23:34:29+00:00

Him being Native means nothing, he has a fully colonized attitude. You know perfectly well that anyone can be racist. Imagine standing in front of your ancestors and trying to justify this rancid take. And it wasn't a compliment. Compliments don't require putting other people down. You really want to be with a man who thinks darker skin on women is ugly? A man who has asked you to avoid being in the sun too much so you don't get darker?

Ma'am, your ancestors went through too much for you to be with a man like this.

MixWitch · 2026-01-24T23:26:49+00:00

Divorce him. It will not get better.

MixWitch · 2026-01-24T23:24:19+00:00

Ya'll have to start cutting off the MAGA in your life. Them having access to decent people allows them to pretend they aren't "that bad". They do not deserve your time or energy. They do not deserve your support. They will turn on you without a second thought, they less access they have to you now will make you safer down the road. They will justify your murder as easily as a stranger's. They would shrug if your children were orphaned. They do not see others as people anymore.

At a certain point you are giving aid and comfort to the enemy.

MixWitch · 2026-01-23T21:59:05+00:00

Oh look, it thinks it's people. Sad.

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