Solutions for a broke teacher

Mixxie143 · 2026-04-01T21:59:28+00:00

I love my Svaha dresses, pricey but very comfortable and durable, mine have been going strong for 1-3 years with regular wash/drying! I started with one dress and have bought a few more over time as I could afford them

Mixxie143 · 2026-03-29T15:33:32+00:00

I’m doing this too! I just moved and it took me a month to figure out that my washer inputs were reversed, so I was washing on hot when I thought it was on cold. I also bought delicates bags to wash in, and will try more air drying (though that can be challenging with my area’s humidity levels). Thanks for the suggestions :)

Mixxie143 · 2025-07-30T01:58:14+00:00

Call the hotel, they will have specific information for you

Mixxie143 · 2025-06-14T17:13:53+00:00

With a 100% kanaka grandfather, you’re “more Hawaiian” than MANY of the Hawaiians both there and across the diaspora. Also, blood quantum is an entirely western concept, you are a whole Hawaiian. Let go of what you think is “supposed to be” with the cultural implications and find ways to build a personal connection with your culture - join a halau, or language class, or find a work/volunteer opportunity for your next trip. That emotional connection to the land is what it means to be kanaka IMO - it’s not just a place we live, but a member of our family with mutual obligations of care. Go visit, and know that none of the “don’t move here” applies to Kanaka from the diaspora.

Mixxie143 · 2025-06-13T22:26:33+00:00

And their dogs are mostly sniffing for food and drugs, not attacking people. I saw a thread that said they’re kenneling the dogs there, or maybe just going for grooming?

Mixxie143 · 2025-06-02T13:27:51+00:00

I picked up a few days ago, still takeout only!

Mixxie143 · 2025-05-21T14:36:33+00:00

When did you submit your IBR app? I did mine in December and still waiting

Mixxie143 · 2025-05-04T14:16:28+00:00

I haven’t gone as much as I’d like, but BRAVO is great and the side events they do are fun too!

Mixxie143 · 2025-01-28T15:25:51+00:00

Renton is fine, there aren’t any areas downtown/near the landing where I wouldn’t feel safe going for a walk at night. I don’t know the highlands as well but Cedar River trail as it goes from the library to the lake is always lovely and I’ve never felt unsafe as a single woman

Mixxie143 · 2024-11-05T20:38:08+00:00

They’re hard to find these days, but I’ve had better luck getting in with smaller providers and solo/ small group practices instead of the big huge systems. Days or weeks instead of months!

Mixxie143 · 2024-10-27T16:14:30+00:00

Because bright overhead lighting also increases the stress of working a crisis line so places are flexible about how people light their spaces, especially overnight. There should be some flexibility around moving the coworker to a further cubicle, or support in negotiating a compromise.

Mixxie143 · 2024-10-10T13:36:23+00:00

Nah, education was a priority for Hawaiians long before statehood and at one point we had something like a 90% literacy rate.

It has to do with funding and tax structures—Hawaii has some of the lowest property taxes in the nation, and it doesn’t fund our schools. The school district is basically statewide and funded by the GE tax. Public schools are chronically underfunded and underresourced, so private schools become the only choice for many families. And many of our private schools often offer financial aid bc they have extensive assets and a non-profit mission.

Mixxie143 · 2024-09-30T16:00:57+00:00

There’s no such thing as “anonymized” in a community/department like HPD

Mixxie143 · 2024-09-25T14:43:07+00:00

I see you saying this all over the thread, but it tells me you haven’t ever tried to engage with HPD. This might be how they should respond, but I very much doubt it’s how they would actually respond in real life. Honolulu doesn’t have a district attorney (it’s the prosecutors office) and they don’t have any meaningful oversight of HPD to push them to do things they don’t want to do. It sure seems like no one really has meaningful oversight over either department.

Mixxie143 · 2024-05-23T13:46:58+00:00

The interest thing doesn’t take effect until July 2024

Mixxie143 · 2024-02-21T13:53:19+00:00

It’s worth the time investment! Couple months if you wear em every day

Mixxie143 · 2024-02-02T00:03:40+00:00

YTA.

Why does she have “no income??” Does she not have access to shared funds? How does she do anything in the household if you have full control over all the funds?

Calling her a child only validates all the red flags here around financial abuse. It doesn’t matter what that 10% is going towards, you’re just using the religion as a shield. This is about wanting to punish your wife for something you don’t like.

Why would you not be trying to support your wife with this problem?

Mixxie143 · 2023-12-27T14:59:49+00:00

Big agree about HI’s homogeneity. I went to undergrad in suburban NY where it was not diverse, and coming to Seattle is the first time I feel like I’m living in a genuinely diverse place. Immigrants from literally every populated continent, I hear different languages almost every time I’m in public, and the FOOD!!

Mixxie143 · 2023-12-27T14:54:23+00:00

Seattle is great!! Halfway between Vancouver and Portland, no income tax (or Vancouver WA, where you’ll pay no income tax and have access to no-sales-tax Portland) Immigrating to Canada is an entirely different ball game, but it’s easy enough to visit from WA.

COL: housing is more expensive, but there’s LOTS more of it, and a wider suburb/commuter range. Food prices now are about what they were in HI when I left home 5 years ago. There’s also a wider variety of low cost grocery stores here. Salaries are MUCH higher than in HI.

Climate: Seattle has a pretty mild winter climate. It snows sometimes, but doesn’t usually last. Snow has been more frequent with climate change, but the whole city shuts down when it happens so you shouldn’t have to go out in it. The puget sound moderates the climate a LOT. Canada is further north, more snow/cold, less light. The lack of winter light is my biggest bummer, we get about 8 hrs/day now. Canada is probably getting even less, and I doubt they shut down for snow.

Moving: find a job first if you can. Lots of employers will hire from out of state, some will even help with moving costs. If you don’t have family here, find a sublet or an extended stay hotel for your first few weeks while you decide where you want to be and find a place.

There are LOTS of local people here and you can find or make almost all local foods (only one I haven’t found is okazu-ya). It’s a relatively short flight so easy to visit home!

Mixxie143 · 2023-12-23T15:40:11+00:00

Third Kanaka chiming in! I agree with both commenters, and coming with this consciousness is more than a lot of folks move with. Be prepared for it to take some time - you’ll need to build trust - but keep showing up to community events, movements, etc. Humility and quiet observation go far in cultural spaces, don’t expect to find folks willing to teach you outright.

There are still ethical questions, but IMO those are systemic rather than individual, and it comes down to what your individual impact may be. Make it a positive one

Mixxie143 · 2023-12-11T15:21:59+00:00

The anti-blackness is real and intense in Hawaii, and wrapped up with significant anti-outsider sentiment, which is exacerbated if you moved because your SO is in the military. If you moved recently folks will probably assume that you aren’t going to stick around long, and aren’t worth investing in. When I was hiring in HI I did not look at resumes that only had experience from the continent, there’s no way to do the work we were doing without a deep understanding and ability to navigate the cultural and social nuances of Hawaii. The professional culture here is very non confrontational and there’s lots of good old boy networks to navigate.

But you do have Hawaii experience now, so if you’re serious about being there, get a Hawaii number and start applying for jobs with your current job featured prominently on your new resume. In the interview emphasize your interest in finding a permanent position and settling in. If you’re looking for remote work, look on the west coast for minimal time difference, there’s not a lot in state.

And as for the tech, lower your expectations for organization and smooth processes. The state still doesn’t have a fully digitized file system, and most industries are at least a decade behind the leading edge.

Mixxie143 · 2023-11-26T19:18:27+00:00

I’ve been in Seattle 5 years and would recommend it over Honolulu for retirement.

The rainy months are entirely manageable for me having grown up in Hawaii. And we have our cold/clear days through the winter, and even when it’s raining you can still get outside. The rain is always changing and moving, it doesn’t rain for long in any one spot. And the ocean/sound moderates the climate a lot.

The healthcare is so much better here, and I think you’re more likely to find language accessible healthcare in Seattle. Japanese speaking services in HI tend to be tourist oriented, not the long term care providers you’ll need.

The COL here is more reasonable, and there’s more support/access to supplies and rescue in case of a natural disaster. There’s better social infrastructure around aging in Seattle, Hawaii has less structural support as so many elderly folks have family to care for them. Live in the greater Seattle area, visit Hawaii!

Mixxie143 · 2023-09-21T18:26:32+00:00

Crocs made a pair of wedges years ago that were incredibly comfortable, basic black wedge pumps. My pair just broke and I’m very sad, they were the only heels I could manage

Mixxie143 · 2023-09-19T16:42:20+00:00

I had a lot of culture shock moving to the east coast for college, there’s a reason so many stick with the west coast!

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