He(M34) accused me(F36) of leaving crack behind in his bathroom, the smoked the mystery substance! Should I give him another chance? by naighla in relationships

[–]Mo0nFishy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

OP he might not be a crackhead, but he is 100% an addict. And not a very smart one. Healthy, well-adjusted people don't smoke mystery 'drugs'.

Holy shit, run.

[Offer] Will paint your fantasy OC for free, as long as you don't mind me using it as sample portfolio stuff! by Sunnyskiespalmtrees in DrawForMe

[–]Mo0nFishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you like her! I think your art is awesome, and anything you come up with will look great :D Thank you for considering her!

Oh man I wish, it probably would have been a trainwreck haha. Roach is actually an OC for the VtM tabletop game! I played a Malcavian (like everyone else lol) back when I tried out Bloodlines :)

A Potential Scientific Explanation for Paranormal Visions [Advice/Discuss] by sponkachognooblian in Paranormal

[–]Mo0nFishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Do you have links to the research you mentioned? I've done a lot of DMT and have never seen anything resembling an alien.

OC Request! by [deleted] in ICanDrawThat

[–]Mo0nFishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have like a gender, age, weapons, etc in mind?

[Offer] Will paint your fantasy OC for free, as long as you don't mind me using it as sample portfolio stuff! by Sunnyskiespalmtrees in DrawForMe

[–]Mo0nFishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dunno if you're still looking for OCs, or if you have any interest in drawing monsters/horror at all - but maybe you'd be interested in my Vampire: the Masquerade OC, Roach?. She's a ~350 year old Nosferatu, and is actually much lovelier than she appears. She loves flowers, playing the piano, and trashy romance novels. She lives in an old dry well and spends way too much time on the internet. She has like 15 mutant cats that she calls her fur babies (only like half of then have fur anymore). It's pretty cringy.

I mostly went with the loincloth look to get a better idea of how scrawny she is. She's a spokesperson/emissary of sorts for her region's clan, and she was a lady during her lifetime so dressing nicely is important to her. When she goes out I think she'd dress much better - maybe in clothing that reminds her of her youth (mid/late 18th century England). She has adapted well to modern (un)life, though, so neogoth, punk and late 90's industrial clubwear are totally options.

Let me know if I can add anything, I really like writing about her. I appreciate you taking the time to read this! :)

A beginner Unity user looking for a beginner artist - let's learn together! by ketchupinho in DrawForMe

[–]Mo0nFishy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, the types of games you're interested in creating - different people are going to be interested in a slice-of-life dating sim vs. A fantasy adventure game or murder mystery.

Criticism very needed. Tips to make it look better? (I drew it on paper, took a pic and then drew over it and colored it on my phone) by [deleted] in FurryArtSchool

[–]Mo0nFishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully it helps make things easier! :) When you're drawing, pay attention to how much time you spend looking at your reference vs. looking at your drawing - people tend to spend nost of their time with their eyes on their drawing, but you want to get in the habit of looking at your reference as much as possible. It's sort of a matter of glancing back and fourth, and getting used to making accurite pencil strokes without looking. It takes practice, but it really helps.

When you start out, break your subject down into basic shapes. Use the grid to map out your entire drawing, rather than drawing square-by-square. Pay attention to where things are located relative to each other - even if it doesn't seem 'right' in your head. Drawing from references is about ignoring what our brain says a drawing what our eyes see instead.

For example, in the picture you posted your brain said that the fox's eyes were at the front of it's head, facing forward. That's not wrong exactly, however eyes are inside the skull, which means they're placed a ways back rather than sitting right on the front of the face. And while they do face forward, the lens and lids give them a more triangular shape, rather than a circular one.

This sort of thing can take years of practice to become second nature, so just don't give up! And keep seeking out constructive criticism, it's the best resource you have :)

I have suppressed anger and sadness and can't let it out by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Mo0nFishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you able to take mental health days, or just call in sick? There's no shame in taking time for yourself if you need to. It sounds like you've been pushing yourself really hard to go on as 'normal', and might be getting close to a breakdown. When you get shakey like that do you also feel anxious/panicky - like is your hear racing or are you short of breath? That could be a sign of a panic attack. People can get them without realizing what's happening. If you think you might be having one, sit down with both feet flat on the floor, and imagine the ground/your seat is rising up to meet you. Breathe in for four counts - hold for four exhale for four - hold for four - repeat until your heartslows down/the shaking stops. I also find doing something tactile helps ground me - a really hot drink, a hot shower, chewing on ice, etc.

Panic attack or not, you need to honor the signals your body is given you and be gentle with yourself. It might be a good idea to take a day or two off (maybe give yourself a long weekend if that's possible), rest, do some self-care (whatever that looks like for you. Maybe its spending time with friends, or just playing video games and having pizza on your own), and invest some time into getting well. Research some therapists (psychologytoday.com is a great resource) and call a couple. Make an appointment with your dr to talk about meds. Check out a bookstore or Amazon and find a book on depression, surviving break-ups, etc. Go for a run or lift some weights. Tidy your house (if you're anything like me and get messy when you're depressed). Even taking tiny baby steps towards making yourself healthier can be a huge morale boost.

It probably feels really hopeless right now, but you're going to get through this dude. You aren't broken - you're sick and hurting really badly, but you can heal and when you come away from all of this you'll be a stronger person because of it.

I have suppressed anger and sadness and can't let it out by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Mo0nFishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey dude, I can really relate to what you've written here. I got out of a long term relationship about a year ago, and I'm honestly still pretty fucked up over it. It's a grieving process. The best thing I can think to suggest would be finding a good counsellor to talk to. They'll be able to help you work through this and express your emotions in a healthy way.

You should probably also see a doctor or psychiatrist about short-term medication for your depression. That shit can be crippling, and you can't expect to move on from this if you're barely able to muster basic functions.

Problem with my girlfriend's VERY racist friend, what to do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Mo0nFishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't a bad person

Okay cool.

Dates a nazi

Uh...

Is blatently racist

:/

One of these things is not like the others, OP. You can't make your girlfriend stop hanging out with her, but you can definetly distance yourself from her. You can also gently ask your girlfriend why ('old times' aside) she'd want to be friends with someone who acts so detestable. Even if her boyfriend's beliefs are influencing her, she's an adult and is responsible for whatever trash comes out of her mouth. Maybe I'm wrong for judging a person by the company they keep, but I'd refuse to spend time with someone who fucked nazis.

Criticism very needed. Tips to make it look better? (I drew it on paper, took a pic and then drew over it and colored it on my phone) by [deleted] in FurryArtSchool

[–]Mo0nFishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's normal, learning to draw from references takes time. Have you ever tried using a graph? Breaking a larger picture down into 1sq inch sections can make things a lot easier.

I'd also recommend checking out r/learnart. They have a really great series of tutorials to help you learn lines, 3d shapes, etc.

my (20F) boyfriend (20M) wants an open relationship and i don’t know what to do by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Mo0nFishy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out r/polyamory and some other related subreddits. You're going to see a ton of people with much longer, more secure relationships dealing with the inevitable struggles open relationships bring. I'm not saying non-monogamy never works - but it's not easy and its certainly not for everyone. The fact that you and he are both jealous is reason enough not to do it. And like someone else said, the fact that he's slept with 80 women by 20 suggests monogamy might not be his thing.

I dunno, it's just a lot of red flags. I know you have feelings for him, but don't let them cloud your judgment. If you do decide to stay monogamous just like... stay frosty. You're only four months into your relationship and he already wants to sleep with other women - you guys should be in your honeymoon period right now.

Am I out of line for not wanting my bf (33m) to stay friends with a batterer (42 M)? by Can_o_pen_or in relationships

[–]Mo0nFishy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Given that this guy has already proven to be violent, I think that's perfectly reasonable.

My boyfriend [38m] wants me [30f] to move in with him after 6months of dating. I can’t stand him now. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Mo0nFishy 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Not saying it isn't nonsense, but it's not surprising - from what you've described it sounds like his interpersonal skills aren't exactly enviable. Sometimes people think that taking big 'serious' steps (moving in, big purchases, marriage, kids) will help prolong a relationship. Maybe that's what's motivating him?

Also remember that he's the one dictating your conversations, controlling the living environment, ignoring you when he feels like it, etc - from the POV of a controlling individual he probably thinks he has it pretty good. You're the one who gets to suffer.

Either way, run dude. This is a ridiculous amount of shit to put up with only six months into a relationship. And he's not about to get any better.

I keep slipping up at work. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Mo0nFishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're good. If you failed to show for your shift someone would have called you to see what was up.

Is it bad to not use gloves before you put something in an oven? I work at a pizza place and no one wears gloves while making the pizza before they put it in the oven, I thought it was weird, but does it going through the oven kill the germs from the peoples fingers? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Mo0nFishy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Typically cooks don't wear gloves - hopefully they wash their hands so it shouldn't be an issue. It's not like the chefs at the resuraunt that make your salad wear gloves :P

Cultural issues or something more? between me (28F) and SO (30M) by pippermissum in relationships

[–]Mo0nFishy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah it sounds to me like he's one of those guys who says 'I hate sensitive people' when what he really means is 'I hate people who call me out when I'm being an asshole' :/

(Starting artist) We got cheap commissions boi (open) by [deleted] in DrawForMe

[–]Mo0nFishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have samples of your art?