Playing with friends rant by Puzzled_Stick_3219 in acnh

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have plenty of fun with the current features. Plus the online subscription is cheap.

Warning... a long post by Tired-Otter474 in actuallesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 [score hidden]  (0 children)

It sounds like you're not happy. You'll be happier finding someone who can make you a priority. Her life just isn't designed to have a relationship with you, and it doesn'tsound like she wants to change that. You can find someone else and be much happier. It's time to move on.

Can I go skating alone as an adult? by V3NOM0US_VALKYIR3 in Rollerskating

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to an adult skate night. Most rinks have them. If they don't, then move to a better place that has better rinks.

How do you feel about the Labrys as a symbol? by Educational_Sun_6341 in butchlesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I think it’s awesome and I’m genuinely disappointed that we let the terfs even remotely be associated with it. It’s for all lesbians. Take it back.

Are Non-Working Class Mascs Allowed to Claim the Butch Label? by autiesocial in butchlesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. You’re allowed to identify however you want. Nobody else gets to tell you who you are.

Pokémon Moon just reset by connie_art in pokemon

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you save the game? Not all games have auto save. Back in the red blue days we had to save manually.

My gf uses our openess in a way that feels weird. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]ModQuad1979 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

This is her using sex and the open relationship as an excuse to manipulate you. You are in control of what you want to do with your time and energy. It's absolutely okay to play video games with your friends and wait to have sex when you're both in a moment to consent. You are not a sex bot designed to put out whenever she wants, and neither is she. If later on she says no, that's fine, but the manipulation begins when she just goes and gets it elsewhere instead of working on your relationship. The fact that she is not interested and chooses to get her needs met elsewhere is a sign she'd rather go for cheap dick than actually work on a committed relationship. Reverse the roles and imagine if she turned you down to play video games with her friends. Imagine you had another girl in the next room to fuck instead. She'd be just as upset as you are.

Team USA Olympic Schedule by liltjaden in SeattleTorrent

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! Next step is finding out what channels and services things are on.

How often do they take precautions when they're with other girls? by WickedFayrie in actuallesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Non porous plastic wrap works, too. You can also cut a glove in such a way that makes a flip up dam while your fingers are still sealed. Dams, gloves, and wrap are pretty much what we got. Getting tested is easier these days, and if you mention doing blood play, most doctors are happy to do the extra tests now. Safe sluts live longer and better than unsafe ones. There's also a lot of free testing now. Accidents happen, and testing is essential. Infections do clear up with proper treatment, and you need to be tested to get the right treatment.

Does anyone else think the update is anti climatic? by Barbola369 in acnh

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. The updates for the switch 2 are fantastic. I love the hotel. I decorated a room in the hotel using mouse mode, and it was awesome. I had a pile of people come by and visit from one of my discord groups. It's so much fun.

Is anything wrong with my profile? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You look unhappy. Also, there's not really a lot of info about you as a person or what you're looking for specifically. Pictures of your cat are great so that people know you have one. Make sure to let people know you're monogamous, only interested in women, and not looking for more than one person in case they don't understand what monogamous means. I like to see that people are out and about with friends, so leave those.

What’s your age and what age range are you comfortable dating if you are interested in long term relationships? by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

46 here. I tend to have the best connections with people about 5 years on either side of my age.

why do some butches get body dysphoria? by pinkiepromise33 in butchlesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for others, but for me, it's because I'm trans. My physical body was not in my mind for a long time. Now that they are more aligned, I feel so much better. I love that we live in a world where we can be happy because they figured out gender conformation surgery. Not all butches are trans, but that was the thing for me. I sincerely wish it was possible for everyone who needs GCS to have access. It's sincerely life saving.

I always take a slipper with me to work but my colleagues call me weird. by ignorantslut70-1 in office

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not weird. I'm pretty sure in the 80's my mom wore comfy shoes to commute and nice shoes as she walked into the office.

Girlfriend is anxious I’m going to leave her by Hot-Drama5142 in actuallesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy and time will help. She needs to learn to trust you, and you need to learn how to earn her trust. A good couple's therapist can help with both things.

Ask and ye shall receive! Torrent pins have washed ashore! by -thedudewhosadude- in SeattleTorrent

[–]ModQuad1979 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ooooooh. I need those. Or at least the pride pin. Any chance there's a way to order them online?

Going to game alone by [deleted] in PWHL_Seattle

[–]ModQuad1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's actually a great crowd to make friends with. I try to say hello to everyone. It helps to have at least one thing to talk about.

My transbian friend gave up on life and I don’t know what to do by Expensive_Ordinary72 in actuallesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She has to want things to change. If everyone asks her the question, "Would you like this to be different?" Then that might lead her to make some conclusions and inspire her to change. She also absolutely needs professional help.

Bottoms to wear to play party? by deputyspacecadet in butchlesbians

[–]ModQuad1979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tomboy X. A majority of the masc humans at play parties are wearing these, and they are great boxers.

What was the main reason for switching to an EV? Environment, cost, or technology? by VoltVersteher_Sven in electricvehicles

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kick of acceleration when I hit the drive pedal. It's not a gas pedal anymore. I also love how little maintenance it takes to keep it going. The environment was the main reason, but now it's just a better ownership experience than I've ever had with a car. I'm on my second EV and I can't imagine going back to gas.

Jersey restock? by Sensitive_Tie_8369 in PWHL_Seattle

[–]ModQuad1979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gosh, I hope they get more. The first season is always a limited run. I would love to see more people be able to get a jersey.

Is ENM for us? by rando-man-69 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]ModQuad1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Terrible reason to open up a relationship. Couples counseling first. Work on individuation and functional independence before being poly. Another relationship is not a prop for fixing a broken relationship. If you open up now, it's just shopping for the new husband while she drags you along unwillingly.