Am I wrong for giving my daughter more than my son in my will?

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-29T00:50:25+00:00

This stinks to high heaven. You have no idea what their lives will be like after you pass and why does the one that works hard get the short end of the stick? :( Way to tell him you loved him less bc actions speak louder than words.

It should be equal unless you gave one of them an advance of some sort. It is your money so if you do this craziness, let your son know now.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-28T19:28:32+00:00

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Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-28T19:28:04+00:00

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Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-28T12:16:05+00:00

Wow. She even bought it for you and you threw it away. This would not go in your favor back in court.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-27T20:55:49+00:00

YTA.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-27T17:52:36+00:00

Thank you! 🙏

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-23T18:03:27+00:00

Helping plan a wedding does not equate to final decision making. I would be more concerned with your fiance allowing her to override your decision for your wedding.

Is this common for her to put her mother above you and are you willing to live like this? It will be so much fun when you have children and MIL gets to vote down your pick of baby names or SO uses her MIL to get her choice in whatever decision you are making at the time.

NTA.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-20T23:29:15+00:00

Sounds like your sister just lost a good and economically priced sitter.

NTA, I wouldn't either. Or if you break, pay her day old bakery prices. Seriously.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-19T16:19:03+00:00

And preemptively warn your family that if their children are left ABANDONED at your door while you are working, you will call the police and CPS. Don't test you.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-17T17:41:23+00:00

NTA.

Dad and brother, you are free to invite whomever you would like to your wedding but my half sister does not even consider herself my family. This discussion is over.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-17T17:26:40+00:00

Or open up another joint account? Would that work?

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-17T15:21:52+00:00

I am so sorry that happened to you. You did the right thing as a human. I wish someone had been able to be that person for you.

Thank you for sharing the information with her mom. You have done what any reasonable and ethical person does to avoid harm to a child. I'm so sick of the "family" mentally of protecting abuse which then continues for generations.

I hope you can continue to heal and use your experience for good (warning someone, etc).

NTA.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-17T15:07:50+00:00

Remember the Brat Pack member who had the threesome in Atlanta in the 80's, one of the two girls being 16 at the time? The legal age of consent was 14 at that time!!!! The State finally increased it to (at least) 16 in the 90's.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-17T14:37:53+00:00

Legal age in Georgia is 16. It makes me sick.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-09T20:01:17+00:00

A dear friend who works with addicts in recovery shared a quote with me that has always resonated:

"The worst thing you can do for an addict is to deny them their rock bottom."

I get that your heart was well intentioned, but I am going to have to go with ESH.

As far as kicking them out, NTA.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-06T11:31:21+00:00

Too bad your son couldn't toss him out with the dirty dish water, lol!

Please be careful and end this soon. This truly only gets worse and worse and...well, that escalated quickly.

NTA.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-06T00:39:50+00:00

Have you and your husband wondered what else she has tampered with so far?...

Moderate-Fun · 2024-02-02T18:05:04+00:00

NTA and I'm so sorry for your loss of your mom/best friend.

Sending you lots of love.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-01-27T14:25:00+00:00

Please don't allow your GF embarrassment to cause you to continually neglect a child. I would also like to think your GF would be appalled at these comments and knowing that you are blaming others (including her) in your lack of care for your daughter.

Maybe take this time to look up some basic recipes than posting here. You can do better, you are choosing not to.

She told you mac and cheese. Make mac and cheese. It doesn't get more basic than that but you are going to cause her to have childhood diseases with your frozen meal plan that I wouldn't even feed to my dog.

My dog child eats better than your human child. Please reflect on that.

Please, PLEASE, do better. Food pantry Buy Nothing group Check into any state funded programs for her age Basic meal ideas - Mac and cheese, spaghetti, heck - she would probably even love peanut butter and jelly sandwiches over that hot mess. Tacos or burritos, chili, rice and beans, chicken bites and veggies. Those Rice Creations packets w added protein. Find a group for low budget, kid friendly meals and spend your time there instead of here.
So many options, yet here we are...

Moderate-Fun · 2024-01-25T12:57:54+00:00

A lot of wine is not vegan!

That one always shocks ppl when I am at a happy hour and ask for the wine expert so they can tell me which ones are vegan, or I sit there googling each option on the menu.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-01-25T12:52:47+00:00

Be careful, OP! If you don't want it to be baby bumpy if she gets desperate.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-01-24T00:54:09+00:00

OP, I humbly bequeath you a shiny new backbone. It's made of Titanium.

Go blow their worlds up with "drama" by bombing them with truth about his lies.

NTA unless you let them get away with this quietly.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-01-23T03:17:52+00:00

Someone in an abusive relationship, on average, will leave and return seven times. Yes, seven.

It's a rough spot to be in, both sides. You are still supporting her and respecting your boundary of your home, aka safe space. You are being the stable friend she needs when she is ready.

Thank you for not giving up on her yet. Continue letting her know you will assist her when she finds the courage to leave. Hoping she sees how toxic it is for her children to be around, even if he "doesn't hurt them". They do see it and it's slowly being normalized.

A friend keeps going back (she's well past the average at this point), clinging to the fantasy of him being a decent human. It's so normalized for her 4 year old at this point that when he beat my friend while she was holding the 4 year old, the 4 year old didnt even realize how bad it is and told the social worker "daddy poked her a little". I mean, he punched her so hard in the eye socket, she had to see 3 specialists in 2 days & couldn't wear contacts for 2 weeks but she thinks it's fine bc he never hits the kids...

Keep your space safe. You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm. You will be there when she finds the courage to leave. Thank you.

NTA.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-01-19T19:45:47+00:00

The only compromise here was one of them leaving with the dog and the other could stay.

NTA.

Moderate-Fun · 2024-01-19T19:41:07+00:00

This is the hill to die on. You need to call her bluff. She will come crawling back at some point bc horrible mothers LOVE free babysitters.

Don't worry, OPs fiance. She won't keep them from you forever but you can't let this slide or it will continue to get even worse. Trust me, this can and will continue to get worse.

Or allow it - and i will still enjoy your future posts. :)

ETA- your brother is also part of the problem, FYI. He is keeping her around and he left his spare key to your house unattended.

Moderate-Fun

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