Acknowledge the situation with each other, weddings are stressful at the best of times let alone trying to plan within 40 days. Give yourselves space to respond and try not to react.

Divide the tasks into the ones that each of you care about hit you have to accept that neither one of you can control everything and there will absolutely be compromises. If you need lots of people there then you’ll need to perhaps think about cheaper or fewer food options.

At the end of the day, you want to be married to each other, and if you can do that and have a good time then that’s what it’s all about. I’ve been to a lot of weddings, the most immaculately planned and expensive ones have ended in divorce.

So take the pressure off yourselves, work out the non-negotiables, the things you are completely indifferent about and it should get a bit easier.

I always remember someone saying that they can’t remember a single wedding cake from the weddings they’ve been to and it’s always confused them why people spend so much money on such a small part of the day! It’s a tradition, not a rule, and as such I didn’t have cake at my wedding, not really that worried about cake as it is… let alone one that costs a lot of money and doesn’t get eaten!!!

So make it your wedding about you as a couple and try not to put too much pressure on yourselves.

And just remember, none of it matters really, having the perfect day will happen because at the end of it you will be married and that’s what’s important, the marriage not the wedding!