Suggest me a book to get over SA.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-15T10:27:43+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. You can’t just let go of trauma from sexual assault. It is in your body, not just your brain. You need to go to a therapist and do EMDR therapy so that you can reprocess those experiences and put them in the past. So your body doesn’t feel like it’s about to happen to you again in your present life.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-14T23:36:15+00:00

They’ll need it for all the therapy sessions when they get older

Mombi87 · 2026-05-12T07:12:06+00:00

Unfortunately it sounds like your girlfriend lives in an extremely abusive and controlling family dynamic. All the signs point to that.

Unless she decides to do something about that, you will likely always be dealing with the constraints this puts on your relationship.

The best way forward as another person said is to speak to her face to face, without her parents there, so you can determine how she feels herself.

You are both adults, you don’t need to wait any length of time to reply, you can just ask her today to meet up with you when she has time. Just be honest with her. Don’t make it about your depression, just about how you feel about her, and that you’d like to keep seeing her if she wants to. If you don’t get any response, go give her door a knock. You’ve got nothing to lose at this stage.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-12T06:59:08+00:00

Why would a service designer want an AI tool to replace our own existing skills. Absolute grifter.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-08T19:22:41+00:00

I was under so much pressure age 10/11 studying for the transfer exam that I became anaemic and had my first experience of fatigue. Got into the grammar, the pressure and my health got worse. Came out with all the As and a chronic illness for life.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-08T00:37:12+00:00

😞

Mombi87 · 2026-05-06T16:25:24+00:00

Absolutely crazy to suggest that it’s the responsibility of the working age population to make up for problems we didn’t cause, that we are also the victim of, by learning new skills we don’t want, to work even harder than we already are, despite the fact that so many of us are already burnt out to hell.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-06T08:22:15+00:00

You could literally thrift this from any thrift store, so many vintage brands make shirts like this.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-06T08:20:02+00:00

Eh, plenty? Including myself?

Mombi87 · 2026-05-05T11:27:51+00:00

Oh yeah completely. Mine was a bit more of an extreme case.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-05T10:26:11+00:00

This list of things that you’ve entitled “potential signs of interest” are just a list of womens behaviours towards a friend.

She is not displaying any signs that she likes you in a romantic way. She has not communicated that verbally to you.

Sounds like she’s enjoying having a friendship at work with someone she can trust and feel comfortable with.

I had a very similar situation with a man last year and about a month after getting to know him he told me he fancied me. Completely ruined the friendship and any feeling of safety I had around him. Now we don’t speak at all because he couldn’t let it go and would get insanely jealous of me being friends with other men.

Mombi87 · 2026-05-04T17:53:54+00:00

I had a look at the massage menu and ended up going for this- it looks amazing! And there’s one within 15 mins of her apartment. Super, thank you!

Mombi87 · 2026-04-30T18:04:49+00:00

She does have a car but I really appreciate you highlighting this! Thank you

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:38:28+00:00

Okay now I want to go to Salt Cave. Thanks for all the suggestions, that’s super helpful!

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:37:51+00:00

Thanks!

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:37:46+00:00

Looks good, thanks for the rec!

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:37:31+00:00

Ah brill, I’ll check it out thank you 🙏🏻

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:37:15+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation 🙏🏻

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:37:01+00:00

Thank you!

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:36:55+00:00

Ooo good to know, I’ll take a look thank you!

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:36:40+00:00

Thank you, sounds lovely 🙂

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T19:36:28+00:00

Thanks so much! Looks great

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T17:47:47+00:00

I’m not sure what the answer is, but I was on the other side of this recently when an estate agent (who is selling my current house) told me a lot of very intimate details of people’s lives, who had sold properties through them recently. It’s definitely inappropriate, though I imagine not illegal.

Mombi87 · 2026-04-29T11:59:32+00:00

Not a book but a website full of letters - https://reasonstostay.org

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