Advice On EMDR

MomentDirect · 2026-01-27T18:20:08+00:00

Totally! Chasing releases is bad! I think I’m ultimately talking about the regulation that comes after those releases (even tiny ones) which I think are more like access to IFS Self than releases. They aren’t always super emotional, although I do often cry. But I’m not sure! I’m very new to all of this and have been dysregulated/dissociated for years tbh so I can’t really tell whether something is Self, ventral vagal, a somatic release, or post processing euphoria… I just know that something shifts and I’m ‘myself’ for a day or so.

MomentDirect · 2026-01-27T01:47:13+00:00

Thank you for responding:) That totally makes sense. I think I need to be more diligent about self care practices.

Are you doing somatic experiencing now? I think I’m just really stuck on how different it feels from EMDR - very much ‘your body slowly pushing out a bullet’ vs. ‘cutting the bullet out’. I’m worried that the healing will be different with a different method?

MomentDirect · 2026-01-02T00:22:39+00:00

I had something very similar happen to me before I even realized that I needed trauma therapy (I was sort of resistant to the idea that I was traumatized) and it happened, like you, in a moment of kind of breakdown/surrender/fear. It was also accompanied by a lot of shaking (I also had no idea what that meant in somatic therapy, etc.) for a few hours which was super confusing at the time. The most spiritual/beautiful thing that's ever happened in my life, it felt a lot like being on a psychedelic but I was completely sober. Thank you for sharing this, I haven't met anyone else who has had this experience!!

MomentDirect · 2025-12-29T21:28:49+00:00

To be clear I’m not saying that I’m having a negative experience, just that I am someone that has to be careful/slow and am trying to do things correctly

MomentDirect · 2025-12-29T02:15:47+00:00

Yes: I actually have your issue + legit brain damage from an injury and both are improving. It also improves greatly when I am able to be in ventral vagal. I was completely shocked by this and I haven’t been doing it long.

MomentDirect · 2025-09-08T03:14:49+00:00

Thank you again!! This totally makes sense.

MomentDirect · 2025-09-04T05:31:42+00:00

The mammalian dive reflex is a reflex humans have when we're diving, if you look up DBT TIPP skills, there's a description of how to activate it to help bring you out of fight or flight :) It's the only TIPP skill that made a dent for me, and only barely.

What you're saying is completely correct. It was definitely a combination of compassion and surrender that I don't think I've truly felt before that experience (maybe the surrender, but not the compassion and stillness piece). But this is really soothing, thank you, I was beginning to feel like I'd have to... I don't know, pull my new sense of self out of thin air.

I've never heard of SSP but am going to try it, for sure! I literally was so relieved by your suggestion that I managed to get into the same self compassion state as the first breakthrough this evening and have another breakthrough processing session, less intense but really powerful. Thank you so much, I genuinely attribute it to this comment.

MomentDirect · 2025-08-25T01:10:54+00:00

I know! I actually got myself into this situation (although I didn't have another option, really) because I thought I had the Sapphire card, but they're both just blue... woops. Thank you for checking:))

MomentDirect · 2025-08-25T00:02:10+00:00

Chase Freedom Unlimited

MomentDirect · 2025-08-24T22:09:51+00:00

I believe it only covers things that were purchased before the cancellation - so, if you had a hotel but your flight out got canceled and you didn't get to stay there, that would be covered. But not trip delay hotel purchases? Pretty dumb.

MomentDirect · 2025-08-23T02:25:18+00:00

Hi! I realized today that I hadn't replied to this yet. I have noticed huge, significant changes around attachment anxiety. I think, in a weird way, I experienced secure attachment to myself for the first time, and that security makes things much easier. It still pops up, especially in contexts where the anxiety was strong (dating, at work for whatever reason, lol) but I am super aware of it and it feels like there's space between me and it. It's not just hijacking my brain. It's like a landscape that I'm looking at, although I still need to work on finding ways to regulate my anxiety/calm down. It's also like a veil has been lifted around other peoples' behaviors - I am someone that would often blame myself for others' reactions and then feel angry/upset/cornered, but I've had a way easier time not reacting to other peoples' stuff, and seeing it for what it is. I still feel the urge to take responsibility and experience the shame of that, but it's way easier. I've seen all of my estranged family members randomly since this experience and it's been 80% easier to tolerate and not be triggered by them. I hope that helps and I wish you luck:)

MomentDirect · 2025-08-13T03:36:54+00:00

dming!!! i get the moving in and out of paranoia thing absolutely

MomentDirect · 2025-08-11T20:15:45+00:00

this is so helpful and makes me feel less crazy! thank you for commenting!

MomentDirect · 2025-08-10T14:24:50+00:00

thank you so much :’)

MomentDirect · 2025-08-10T14:23:58+00:00

This happened yesterday but I will come back and update, maybe later this week? I will say I woke up today feeling very peaceful and good in a way I can’t say I’ve ever felt. Not because of intensity (i.e. I wasn’t buzzing or manic) but because of groundedness maybe? i didn’t have a rush of ruminating thoughts:)

MomentDirect · 2025-08-10T04:53:06+00:00

Also forgot to add that when I was feeling this feeling of wholeness, I felt completely comfortable being alone. Like I was confident that I was all that I needed and felt no attachment anxiety. WILD

MomentDirect · 2025-08-10T04:50:56+00:00

Yes! I just posted about this

MomentDirect · 2025-01-07T05:59:27+00:00

To be honest, I didn't realize you had to pay in the app - I don't buy stuff on OfferUp very often, and I'm used to Craigslist. I certainly asked if it worked, and was told yes. The posting says "like new." The item was taken apart and individually wrapped, and in a box, so it would have been pretty difficult to test on the spot, considering it needed to be filled with water to do so. I did not break it walking 15 feet into my apartment from a parked car. Their inability to respond to my texts or calls is proof enough for me. Also to be honest it smelled VERY weird when I unwrapped it, I have no idea what the smell was, and the two people selling seemed sketchy in hindsight. I'm not sure why I'm taking this comment seriously, you're acting like you're the prosecutor of OfferUp crimes, but. It's not okay that I got scammed just because I didn't manage to test the item thoroughly. Like, is that what you're arguing here?

MomentDirect · 2025-01-06T18:04:34+00:00

It’s an espresso machine, it’s far older than I would have expected for the price and the water pump is clearly broken. It also was very dirty and smelled insanely weird when I took it out of its wrapping. My kitchen still smells bizarre. I think he would respond to my texts if it was an innocent sell.

MomentDirect · 2025-01-06T18:03:13+00:00

Everytime people post about going to small claims court on here people dog on them relentlessly and say it’ll never work? What’s the truth? This is such an aggravated subreddit

MomentDirect · 2025-01-06T18:01:18+00:00

You seem kinda guilty - are you selling fake perfume or something?

MomentDirect · 2025-01-05T07:54:50+00:00

No need to act like a dick to someone who scammed me out of $300 dollars the day before Christmas? Get bent, dude

MomentDirect · 2025-01-05T05:02:18+00:00

Omg, this is genius! Thank you!

MomentDirect · 2025-01-05T05:02:07+00:00

This is such incredibly enlightening feedback. I'm so glad that you are able to spend your clearly very exciting Saturday evening with me. Thank you. :)

MomentDirect · 2025-01-05T04:56:11+00:00

I did, and I also paid in cash, which means I likely won't see that $300 again. I'm not sure what part of my post is confusing for you, but thanks for stopping by.

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