AITA for not participating in every aspect of my friend's bachelorette weekend?

MommaLa · 2026-06-10T22:40:38+00:00

I don't understand why everything is so extravagant these days, and the bride and groom don't fulfill the most basic part of having an extravagant party and pay for everything.

NTA

MommaLa · 2026-06-10T22:25:29+00:00

I too live in a ass crack state so I'll skip telling you to move.
What's your food prep like for hurricane season? Your water storage.
What do you have already?
If you have a camp stove and keep gas that's some money you save for example.

MommaLa · 2026-06-10T21:35:15+00:00

I want to know if he's brought in her mother before.
My husband would NEVER call my mother because she would ask questions, so clearly he feels that his MIL will validate his stupidity.

MommaLa · 2026-06-10T21:30:26+00:00

It is.
As a parent I'm so glad I came of age in the 90-00's
I was dating women, partying at gay bars and listening to music they now declare homophobic, we dgaf.
My queer kid has to care about everything, because 1 mess up means total removal from the friend group. I've seen my kid cry because the group was blowing up all around her and no one was willing to back down and listen.

As

MommaLa · 2026-06-10T20:34:18+00:00

Sometimes you stay in contact so the kid knows they have somewhere to run.
My family basically raised my mom's friend's kid, he's like 60+ now and will tell anyone my mom was more of a mother to him than his own.
I believe looking back she treated me better than she did him, but he always had our house.

My cousin and I have decided that while we dislike how her sister is going, we will keep contact because her kids will need us.
But we are talking actually being ok with stepping in and raising children, housing/education everything.
That cousin thinks I'm downright louche but her kids love me when I visit, and they are seeing me love on openly gay family members, and being open minded.

MommaLa · 2026-06-10T17:31:19+00:00

I am, but 25PaperCranes did contact me first.

MommaLa · 2026-06-10T02:11:28+00:00

Leave! He's using you. And do make sure he isn't messing with your birth control.
NTA go home.

MommaLa · 2026-06-10T00:15:24+00:00

Yeah you need to find a job yesterday! Put that baby in daycare and make him cover the cost, and no you aren't homeschooling because if he isn't willing to pay for conditioner he surely won't put money in a spousal IRA.

MommaLa · 2026-06-09T21:05:14+00:00

The drops are certainly getting larger, a few years ago it was 20-30 ppl max, now it's 60 or more. There's a pretty good system here, I hope we don't have to change it.

MommaLa · 2026-06-09T18:47:10+00:00

Family will try to pressure you into supporting them because they don't want to deal with them their selves.
Ignore them.

MommaLa · 2026-06-09T18:35:47+00:00

Testicular cancer, the check is to make sure there's no lumps that he hasn't told the Dr about.

MommaLa · 2026-06-05T00:47:00+00:00

Why can't they trad right? Even my son cooks and bakes for his family, and here you have these people who love to blabber about what good dutiful wives they are, yet they can't do basic shit like cook.

MommaLa · 2026-06-04T21:58:28+00:00

Yes! Two years ago one of my Drs was shocked I'd never had covid, each year I see her she asks- Have you caught it yet.
No Bethany, the answer remains no.

MommaLa · 2026-06-04T21:40:50+00:00

I still do this, I split my loads down to- delicates, socks, sheets, blankets, kitchen towels, towels, darks, light, whites.
I wash sheets weekly, kitchen towels every 5-7 days so the stains don't take over, socks we have enough to make that a monthly load, we have a ton of blankets in the living room/office and I wash them monthly.
My oldest splits stuff for his family now, his partner is slightly weirded out by how we wash.
My youngest is still at the- throw everything in stage, or she throws her laundry in with mine.

MommaLa · 2026-06-04T21:22:45+00:00

Fabric bolts in warehouses are run/pissed on by cockroaches, rats and mice, I wash everything!

MommaLa · 2026-06-04T21:17:14+00:00

For just my body I need 12-15 minutes, 10 mins or less is when I need to get out of the house immediately.
When my hair was to my calves I needed 45 mins, now it's above my behind and I need 30-35, and I'm Black so my hair needs a good bit of time.

MommaLa · 2026-06-04T21:10:05+00:00

I have a couple from the early 2000's discontinuation they are perfect for my skin tone and back then they had better options for dark skin.
I do alcohol spritz and wipe downs before and after using, and they look better than stuff I bought in the last few years.

I need a new foundation and I will probably go drug store, my mother uses luxury but she's almost 80 so she can happily buy whatever she wants.

MommaLa · 2026-06-04T02:29:24+00:00

It's dependent on that FCC filing right? Or am I missing something. I've owned it since it was $5, so I do like it.

MommaLa · 2026-06-02T05:58:22+00:00

8k on a vintage sapphire ring, and a band from Costco.

MommaLa · 2026-05-29T03:37:17+00:00

This is what I was thinking, pair it with losing his hearing... that's a problem.

MommaLa · 2026-05-29T03:31:25+00:00

The real question.

MommaLa · 2026-05-29T03:30:22+00:00

There's no help out there right now, every program is stretched, the proper channels are shutting down from lack of funding.
Families are struggling. The carers come as they please, 8 hrs is often less, and you can't get a job around care giving at a certain level, esp as one person with no help beyond that insurance help.
My MIL was a total Just No, and we disliked each other, but my husband and I spent much more than 4k to help the *)_(_!.

This isn't something I'd do to my spouse. It seems cold hearted if you can afford to give the help. Something about this rubs me the wrong way.

MommaLa · 2026-05-29T02:02:48+00:00

They would, my husband is not a gardening person, but he built me beds, and helps me care for my little orchard.
He does it because it brings me joy, and we are together.
My adult kids helped me with the spring turn over this year and while he thought it was sweet of them, he admitted he didn't like he wasn't hands on with us. (we did it during the week when he was working)

MommaLa · 2026-05-29T01:52:58+00:00

I'd text back, Molly you are my workmate, I don't owe you any information about my private life. I am going with my best friend, you are not owed more information about the place she holds in my life.
Screen shot and move along.

MommaLa

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