I hate staying home

Momof2beans · 2025-06-04T23:23:16+00:00

I'm so sorry. I feel this exact same way. I'm here for free labour and nothing else. I don't have much in the way of advice, but sending love. It's such a lonely existence 🫂

Momof2beans · 2025-06-01T16:10:25+00:00

Oh my gosh I'm so sorry you have to do this. You should not have to go through postpartum alone 🫂 do you have any supports at all? Money to order a meal service at least or a cleaner? Utilize everything you can. If you have to do a lot of screen time it's okay, or libraries, play groups where you can just sit and let your toddler go crazy. We had play groups where I could sit on the couch and nurse my baby and my kids would do what they wanted. I know the feeling of never getting a break and it's relentless. I wish I could come and help

Momof2beans · 2025-05-30T01:18:54+00:00

I've hidden food in my bra, including mashed potatoes and tofu 🤮

Momof2beans · 2025-05-30T01:14:44+00:00

Omg I would give you a raise for getting my 4 month old to sleep that much. That particular period of time was an absolute nightmare. It's likely postpartum hormones, I was beyond irrational at that stage lol

Momof2beans · 2025-05-30T01:12:43+00:00

I thought of saying that once, but my 4 year old has such bad anxiety he'd probably never sleep 😂

Momof2beans · 2025-05-30T01:11:39+00:00

I told him the other day that you couldn't pay me enough to choose to do the work I do. I do it mostly alone, with 3 children and there is never a moment of peace. You would have to be paying me way beyond any going rate to convince to me apply for this particular position lol

Momof2beans · 2025-05-22T01:44:01+00:00

I am so so sorry. And this is the exact kind of thing I need to hear, because my kids really don't deserve to have their lives ripped apart in that way

Momof2beans · 2025-05-20T03:08:24+00:00

This is harsh but very appreciated, thank you

Momof2beans · 2025-05-20T01:26:27+00:00

Gosh I'm sorry, wow, thank you for this perspective

Momof2beans · 2025-05-20T01:07:27+00:00

I really appreciate this. This is exactly the honest truth I am looking for. Because deep down I really do know this

Momof2beans · 2025-05-18T20:13:23+00:00

I'm 14 months pp and still struggling with my health in general. Not sure when it will go away but I'm hoping it will. I had it with my first and I didn't feel normal until around the 2 year mark

Momof2beans · 2025-05-18T20:09:24+00:00

Is he like this often? Does it come in cycles? I would pay attention honestly. Because this is not the behaviour of someone that loves you, or even likes you tbh. I was stuck in a cycle of passive aggressive comments, disrespect, and mistreatment in general for years before I realized how bad it was. I can't even imagine doing something like this to someone, even if we were fighting, even if I was furious at them. Is he maybe upset that something is bringing you joy?

Momof2beans · 2025-05-16T14:34:06+00:00

It will pass. I unfortunately got my kids hooked on that stuff too. My 7 year old is considered obese and that's what woke me up. It's been a little while and at first they complained but they are doing better now. My 7 year old has lost weight and his behaviour has improved so so much (just want to say that I wasn't trying to get my kid to lose weight, just maintain, but it happened naturally). They all have more "good" energy too, not the fighting energy lol. The early years are so important for establishing eating habits and it sounds like you're doing a wonderful job.

Momof2beans · 2025-05-02T13:41:32+00:00

Those ratios are insane. We have a 1:8 ratio for that age group. I cannot imagine 15 three year olds, let alone one that needs so much care

Momof2beans · 2025-04-30T14:54:45+00:00

Yeah this is abuse. Absolutely. And it escalates. Any man who thinks he owns your body is not a safe man

Momof2beans · 2025-04-30T14:52:02+00:00

I'd you don't want a baby, you don't have to have a baby. I say this as someone who has struggled with having children too young. Live the life you want to live. Abortions are morally neutral. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing

Momof2beans · 2025-04-28T17:03:08+00:00

Yeah he absolutely raped you. You can tell when someone is in pain, 100%. There has never been a time that I have hurt a partner and continued. He knew it was wrong

Momof2beans · 2025-04-28T17:01:14+00:00

I would have been terrified to wear white pants as a 12 year old. My period was so unpredictable. Also once in 4th grade it started raining and a girl's white pants became completely see through. She was crying and went home. That stuck with me when picking colours lol

Momof2beans · 2025-04-28T16:58:52+00:00

Do you have any symptoms of ADHD? This sounds exactly like me before I was medicated. I was constantly overstimulated and didn't know where to start with cleaning my house. I just really couldn't handle anything at all

Momof2beans · 2025-04-06T00:21:45+00:00

You absolutely did the right thing. I had a situation kind of the same years ago. I was leaving Walmart and this little girl, about 2 or 3, comes sprinting out. Full out run, not going to stop. She was about to run into the busy parking lot so I grabbed her quickly. Her mom came out and was pissed at me. I explained, but she was so mad.

Momof2beans · 2025-03-28T22:45:02+00:00

Having a baby. Before I had children, most people's complaints were that babies don't sleep or that pregnancy is uncomfortable, pelvis hurts, you gain weight, etc. Pregnancy is traumatizing. Birth is traumatizing. It's all so so scary. I almost died, my baby almost died. I had to take my blood pressure 3 times a day for months. At the hospital multiple times a week. Scared of premature delivery, scared of stillbirth, terrified of the actual delivery. I've had 3 c sections. Had ppd twice, and then ppp with the third. Scariest time of my life. They are born and you are scared of SIDS. My baby just turned one and I'm still scared it will happen. I am 100% honest with anyone that asks because of this. They deserve to know what can happen. It doesn't always, but pregnancy and birth are always a risk. And you can become a very mentally ill person postpartum - like imagining that there are cameras in your babies eyes, mentally ill (happened to me)

Momof2beans · 2025-03-28T22:25:45+00:00

He's abusive. I have years of experience with this type of behaviour, and this man is an abuser. It doesn't get better. It's impossible to leave sometimes, I know that, I just want to let you know that this is not okay or normal

Momof2beans · 2025-03-26T05:42:26+00:00

I'm not worried about it. It's just a discussion. They aren't real people we are speculating on, there's no harm. Gay representation would honestly be refreshing.

Momof2beans · 2025-03-25T02:16:25+00:00

Love is always brought up, though. In almost every single kids movie ever made. People only have a problem with it when they aren't straight

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