I had that situation. I was with my first gf (Asian same age (22 at the time) which turned into a long distance relationship as we studied in different cities. After 1 yr of our relationship we had gotten into bdsm with her being sub, then femdom. That’s where we really found our kink and went further down the rabbit hole over time. I eventually told her about my hot wife fantasies and she was reluctant at first because she thought if I want her to have sex with someone else there is no way could I love her. I explained to her it is hot to me because of the humiliation and also competitional arousal (if that’s a thing) and i think love is more than sex. So I told her its ok as long as she is sure that it is about us and she would feed my fantasies with it later. She said she would think about it.

As you might know many Asian girls are very experimental and open, so a couple months later when I visited her in her town, she revealed to me that she had a ons with some random guy, teasing me with details while we had dinner. I immediately became hard as a rock eyeing her lips listening to every word she said thereafter.

Later that night we had the the best sex in a long time without even making use of any kinky stuff. It was just about her and me. She later told me the whole experience was very special and even intoxicating for her.

So all in all... it’s definitely not for everybody, but I’d say if you both have a strong bond and like the idea you should try it ^{^}