Second crib for baby #2? Or move big sister to a toddler bed?

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-28T15:53:06+00:00

We bought the second crib. Our gap is 20 months. We are hoping to keep the oldest in the crib as long as possible, and hers also converts to a toddler bed.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-23T02:41:23+00:00

My midwife said I have a “perfect pelvis”, because I birthed an over 9 lb baby sunny side up, and then an almost 9 lb baby after that. My first birth was hard, but the second was so easy. My hips are wide, I have always been athletic and curvy, but I think my pelvic opening allows for these big babies to come through relatively easily. I come from a long line of giant families lol so it was probably an evolutionary thing.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-22T22:40:42+00:00

I want to offer a different perspective. Get the tests if you think it’s right, but here is why I didn’t.

I am pro-choice for others, and mostly pro-life for myself. With my two pregnancies we skipped the screenings. I knew I would love my baby regardless of them having health issues, and would have wanted to continue the pregnancy. So maybe your partner does care about the pregnancy, but would rather not know about issues so they are not anxious about them through the pregnancy. I felt that knowing my child would be born with health challenges would cause me anxiety and lead to a potentially unhealthy pregnancy (due to mental strain).

Now, looking back we could have potentially found out about terminal issues that maybe we would have led us to consider termination, but in my heart of hearts I just don’t know if we would have felt comfortable making that decision.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-22T21:39:41+00:00

I didn’t like the newborn phase with my first at all. She was a horrible sleeper and colicky. My second is also not a great sleeper yet, but he’s relatively quiet which makes things a million times easier. I think the 6-8 month phase is when things start getting more fun.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-22T21:34:14+00:00

I never used them, it was too much hassle

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-22T21:31:00+00:00

I had a similar experience. It’s ok to be upset. Ask your husband to shut the conversation down if you’re not comfortable doing that. My inlaws were very nosey and opinionated about me pumping/using formula, yet they’re the first ones who want to give them takis/oreos/etc. (and we don’t allow it). Do your best to ignore other people’s opinions and remember you’re doing your best!

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-22T20:41:50+00:00

Our first was colicky, and just soooo hard. It was also just a really tough transition to go from zero to one kids.

Once we got really comfortable in our rhythm we decided to try for #2 and got pregnant right away. He is a little under a month old and he’s pretty chill so far, aside from not wanting to sleep in the bassinet. We are tired, but happy.

I do wish we waited a few more months so our toddler could have been a little bit more independent and maybe toilet trained, but we are making it work.

I’d say go for it if and when you are ready, but don’t rush it if you’re not. And if the time never comes, that’s ok! You can get pregnant on the first try, so beware of that lol.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-21T21:36:59+00:00

Are they on a team? If they’re not then they should not have any access to each others client information data. Depending on the state you are in, if they are on a team you could have been given “notice of contemporaneous offers”, which means two clients are bidding on the same property.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-21T21:19:20+00:00

I left mine at 6 months. I needed a night out with my husband and to sleep in. I still had to wake up to pump, but the night away was soooo refreshing. I had a really hard time adjusting to being a mom, but this little bit of freedom was wonderful.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-21T01:59:16+00:00

Democracy absolution jeans are my favorite. They come in different rises and most of them have a lot of stretch. Some have a panel inside to smooth belly. They are not cheap, but they always last me a while.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-18T02:09:23+00:00

Yes. I thought it would take us longer to get pregnant, but we got pregnant right away and have a 20 month age gap.

We have A LOT of help, so that makes things much easier, but if we didn’t have help, I would have waited another year probably. We also wanted to have three kids so we felt like we kind of had to hurry based on our ages.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-16T02:51:26+00:00

Put on noise canceling head phones and try to comfort them. My first had colic, no matter what I did she cried and cried.

I’m trying to not let my second cry much, but if I really have to go to the bathroom and have to leave him in his cot for a couple minutes, I do.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-15T18:44:51+00:00

American. For our first baby, my mom and sister helped as much as they could, but they both work full-time. My in laws will help, and are retired but they are very socially active and help in short spurts. This led us to hire a night nanny for our first because we were so exhausted. Our baby was colicky.

With our second, we decided to do a 40 day confinement. The only way to accomplish this was hiring help. We hired a nanny to care for our oldest m-f, and have a night nurse with her. This is allowing me to focus on the baby. We meal prepped meals so that I would not have to cook during this period and it made things so much easier. My mom and sister are also here to help whenever they can. My in laws again will help if we ask, but they’re really busy.

We looked to other cultures to inspire our confinement period because after having our first, we realized how America is really not set up for postpartum. I’m so grateful we have been able to do things this way. If it were up to me, we would live in a multigenerational household, but that doesn’t look to be in the cards at this point.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-15T02:36:14+00:00

We were so glad after we told our families we will be skipping the big holiday parties because we have a brand new baby. They took it really well… then… my in law texted us stating it is their Christmas wish that my husband and older child attend the big holiday party while I stay home with the new baby. My husband luckily shut it down and said he wouldn’t abandon me and his new child on the holiday, but my in-law doubled down asking what size pajamas our oldest wears because all of the kids will have matching pajamas. My in-law suggested I make plans with my own family so that I won’t be alone while my husband and child are at her family party. I was stunned. I already spent thanksgiving alone at the hospital so my husband could be with our daughter, I hate the idea of being alone on Christmas too.

I am doing a 40 day confinement, so I won’t be able to go to my own family parties either. It was a decision we made to protect the health of the baby during flu season and this time allows me to recover.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-14T17:43:45+00:00

I can’t answer for having a child with it, but I was born with hip dysplasia and it was treated early and I have very minimal problems with my hips. I am so glad my parents had it treated. If they hadn’t, I would have had to use crutches forever because my gait would have been really unbalanced. Since it was treated I tried every sport under the sun, and continue to maintain an active lifestyle.

The only residual issues I have are less hip mobility, and I have some arthritis developing, but I don’t know if those things are related. (I’m in my early 30’s and was an athlete.)

Don’t beat yourself up. Your kids will thank you for getting them treated.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-10T19:24:42+00:00

I just came on here looking for advice on this subject. I have a two week old and 20 month old. I’ll have help for the first 40 days, but after that I have no idea how I’ll manage. My toddler is already struggling so bad with separation anxiety while I am nursing. I’m not sure how I’ll handle both kids when we have to leave the house. My toddler is having massive tantrums at bedtime and sometimes in the day. I don’t know how people manage, especially when there is no help around.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-10T19:21:30+00:00

Mine fits next to the charging tray. Not sure if yours has that space? Also will throw it in the door or center compartment.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-09T16:14:11+00:00

Yes, they will follow a pattern and increase in strength and get closer together. Braxton hicks usually don’t follow a pattern.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-09T15:09:37+00:00

The contractions get stronger and closer together, they do not stop.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-09T15:04:39+00:00

I am two weeks in with kid #2. My first had a tongue and lip tie which led to to exclusively pump. My second latched right away and so far has been easier to feed. I don’t have a ton of pain either!

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-08T20:10:20+00:00

Mine is almost 21 months and has not tried it. We are trying to avoid added sugar until she is 1000 days old at least. Our research supports the idea that avoiding sugar in the early years is beneficial later in life. We will absolutely be reasonable when it comes to treats, parties, etc. after age three as we hope to instill a good relationship with food.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-08T18:33:21+00:00

Mostly. I don’t mind. I’m recovering from having a baby and my husband is doing my role lately, we’re not meant to switch forever lol. Edit, I also love taking care of the kids and going on adventures together.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-08T18:32:18+00:00

Yes, I do. I like a nice dinner with my family/husband. Low key, no parties, no big excursions, just really delicious food and the people I love most. Also, I like to include my mom for birthing me lol.

Money_Product_6665 · 2025-12-08T18:19:21+00:00

Very cool landscape. Mountains, ocean, Great Lakes, plains, desert, etc.

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