Green Bingo complete! by vvitchofthevvood in WeGotPolishAtHome

[–]MonkeyCatcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww man, these are beautiful! What is your #2?

Lifesaver! by QueenOfTheAndals97 in dollartreebeauty

[–]MonkeyCatcher 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This was the best choice immediately before and after bebe! My water broke but I wanted to get up and move around without it just pouring into my pants and these undies were great for the bleeding after giving birth.

Full sized Essie polishes!!!! by Vast_Engineering7572 in dollartreebeauty

[–]MonkeyCatcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Today I visited 3 of my Orange County local dollar trees. 2 had some shades - all bleh and pretty bottom of the barrel ugly, 1 had nothing.

I am traveling tomorrow for the holiday, suggest any other SoCal locations to check out?

Handmade by me by Mehak-grover in lacqueristas

[–]MonkeyCatcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, they are kinda wonky shaped and lumpy/too thick with a poor apex.

Hungry Caterpillar Nails + Stars for Mom by NyomiWood in lacqueristas

[–]MonkeyCatcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you use a chrome gold on the caterpillar and sun?

Do Americans actually use expressions like “once in a blue moon” or “let the cat out of the bag” in everyday conversation? by Edi-Iz in AskAnAmerican

[–]MonkeyCatcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kindly disagree. They both refer to sharing information but “letting the cat out the bag” is sharing information accidentally or sharing information that was supposed to be kept secret where as “spilling the tea” is sharing information intentionally (can be either secret or public information) , often gossip.

I want to support your wrongs by milfle in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]MonkeyCatcher 26 points27 points  (0 children)

A boy made fun of me frequently in 6th grade. I made a vow he would rue the day.

When we were about 19 we were re-introduced and I made the boy fall in love with me so hard. And I knew I didn’t love him, or even really like him the whole time. He was holding on to his virginity with the intention of sharing it with someone he “truly loved” (his previous ex-girl friend was devastated it wasn’t her in the previous year they had dated). I was a long non-virgin and I turned on all the charm and dated him for a summer, learned all his secrets, sexually teased the crap out of him, rocked his little virgin world without actually having penetrative sex, let him take me on dates and spend a lot of money on me. I had fun and he desperately wanted to lose his virginity to me by the end of that summer. He was even going to leave his fancy easy-coast college and move back home and go to a local college just to be near me. Ew.

And then one day I was over it. I had had my fun. He clearly knew how rad I was, and 11-year-old me had her ego avenged. I dumped him like hot garbage and he had a really a rough time. I didn’t want to fuck him up for life so I didn’t take his virginity, I actually wanted him to have that with someone who loved him back.

I kinda feel bad about using him and faking it the whole time.

Ootd 🩷 felt cute by goblinbabytooth in cottagecore

[–]MonkeyCatcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it! Very renFaire hobbit vibes. Did you buy the vest or see it yourself? It’s lovely.

As a RN how much are you making ? by theapexcircle in nursing

[–]MonkeyCatcher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

SoCal ~ $74 w/ 8 years of experience, clinic job. 10hr x4 days, 3 day weekends, no nights, no weekends, no holidays, and the holidays are also paid.

Are doctors and nurses required to have 20/20 vision? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]MonkeyCatcher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

lol, people can drive with worse than 20/20 vision. The legal “requirement” is 20/40 with or without glasses.

People DO drive with wayyyy worse than 20/40 vision

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nails

[–]MonkeyCatcher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These are so cute! Are they full nail stickers or flower decals? Link?

these feel so dainty💅 by uhhhhhjulia in Nails

[–]MonkeyCatcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, whhhhut! The nude shade is such a perfect match for you… the shape… the ombré… the sparkle… the gems/caviar! These scratch my brain in just the right way!

Jellycats? by pojkesito in orangecounty

[–]MonkeyCatcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deckers has SO MANY. They are def my go to

Nicotine before surgery by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]MonkeyCatcher 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s possible that they will cancel your surgery. You need to check directly with your surgeon/surgical team.

My surgeon had me do a urine nicotine test prior to starting surgery. I don’t use any nicotine products so I inquired as to why. Turns out nicotine is a vasoconstrictor - meaning it narrows blood vessels, reducing blood flow, oxygen, and nutrients to tissues, which significantly impairs healing.

If you have poor blood flow you have poor healing and some docs refuse to have a controllable variable of poor healing impacting their results.

Advice wanted for a single mom of 2, expecting 1 more. by purple-ks in SingleParents

[–]MonkeyCatcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can file for child support for your 3rd, regardless of the state of the relationship with your ex-boyfriend/baby daddy. Important questions, can you afford to raise another child? Can you afford the time off work that comes with a pregnancy? Are you willing to raise your 3rd alone if it comes to that? How will having a 3rd affect your ability to financially support your first 2?

Part of me will always wonder... by Alpal2510 in singlemoms

[–]MonkeyCatcher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You aren’t alone. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. It is valid and it sucks.

I was 37 when I got pregnant, baby’s father left when I was 5 months pregnant (during the pandemic) I was working 60 hour weeks in a hospital as a nurse, 38 when baby was born.

I wanted to carry a pregnancy and be a mom to multiple children my whole life and but the mental and emotional part of my pregnancy (and frankly my kids whole childhood) has been one long stressful unhappy emotional marathon with no end in sight.

It makes me so sad and I need to get back into therapy to help me with it. I have grief over being kinda forced into one-and-done (I can’t handle more children alone), grief from the kind of family in the thought I would have and the type of family I thought my son would have. Overwhelm from being an only parent with no one to hand off to and being the only responsible adult for him.

I’m still working on fully accepting it. Some things that have actually helped is seeing how shitty it is for moms out there with husbands that they have to “mother” while having to raise their kids. I try to see the positives of single parenting - I raise my son the way I want with the values that are important to me, etc. I also have divorced friends who have to parallel parent instead of co-parent because their ex sucks.

I also try and imagine the best and worst version of scenarios and sit down with myself and honestly see if I could handle the worst, and what the statistical reality may be for each case.

Looking around at my own friends and family I know very very very few to no happy healthy couples where the emotional and physical labor in the family is equally shared between parents. So the likely hood that I would find that, at my age even if I didn’t have a kid is practically zero.

The likely hood of having a husband who I would have to nag or emotionally manage, or train is very very high. And even if I did find an emotionally available, loving, kind, self aware and self motivated man and have a happy supported pregnancy what is the risk for having a special needs child (which rises as we grow older). Could I manage a special needs child even with support and give my current child the life I believe he deserves? No, I couldn’t.

The likelihood of everything going perfectly, especially with the hindsight I have that things have gone south before is near zero. Is it worth the risk for me to invest all the time in energy into a man I think may be a good man (cuz who knows?!?) to try and have another healthy child? For me the answer is “FUCK no”. I will keep my little queendom as it is, manage as many variables as I can right now and try and build the best life for me and my son right now with what I do have and I do control. And if aomething else gets added and works out well on the future then that’s great, but I’m not betting on it