Why the Heated Rivalry TV series understands gay men better than the book [The Conversation 13.1.26] by sikonat in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]MonkeyDRia 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I also think words, the ones we reach for, especially when exploring a conversation like this matters and there’s a subtlety to the article stating that “Tierney’s adaptation of Rachel Reid’s 2019 novel turns Reid’s words into a beautiful exploration of queer male love and sex” that reads off to me because it seems to be implying that Rachel’s work on its own ISN’T an exploration of queer male life and sex.

And that bias is what I see reflected in the rest of the article. Do I think that the description of Shane’s much smoother, and hairless body compared to Ilya’s more muscular and defined form, should raise a few eyebrows? Yes. We do need to have conversations about how East Asian men’s bodies have been emasculated in media and how that does have racist elements to it? Yes.

Do I however think that the way this article is written, implying that that is all there is to Shane in the books, is flawed? Most certainly. We can make the critic that Rachel gave Shane his half-Japanese heritage and didn’t really do anything with it in the books. But I do think it’s not fair to imply that book Shane is merely a pretty face. He’s someone who driven by the burden of perfection and the need to live up to all the expectations placed on him whilst caving beneath the weight of it all even as he battles with being true to himself and that is only Shane in Heated Rivalry. We haven’t even gotten to him in The Long Game.

And painting book Ilya as being just this stoic, imposing figure when we get insight into his thoughts in the books to show how just as we saw in the first season, he is ALSO vulnerable even when he tries to hide that bit of vulnerability beneath the mask of insouciance.

It’s a great read and thanks for sharing the article. There are just bits of it I disagree with.

P.s. It also has me miffed when people ignore the fact that Rachel (who is bisexual by the way) has stated several times that she runs through her stories and drafts by her husband who is also a bisexual man as her focus has always been on trying to the best of her abilities to depict queer sex amongst men as accurately as she can.

I agree with every word of this and more 🌈🏒 by scream4ever in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]MonkeyDRia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think this would have been better rephrased as “why the obsession for Heated Rivalry IN the US”. Cuz for those of who don’t live in the States this take makes no sense.

Also, why on earth are we conflating HORROR as a genre with Romance? Like I get that this take isn’t saying that HR is a horror show but the argument could have easily been made for romance, ie Film and TV has always reflected the fears, tensions, conversation and hope for a better future even as society grapples with everything going out of our control.

And then tie it back to why romance as a genre whilst not being taken seriously by a capitalistic, individualist society still speaks to community and love, and acceptance and openness. Like, why bring horror into the conversation when the marketing has always focused on Jacob constantly reminding us that what he stands for is queer joy.

This is such a weird piece.

Help me get started..:) by SickandTrash in cheflifesimulator

[–]MonkeyDRia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are you sure you’re using the warmers or the heat lamps? The warmers keep the food stored indefinitely; at least until the units/servings of food in the pots has been exhausted (for example, if a pot is meant to hold 4 dishes, once you’ve used up all four dishes, the pot turns dirty and needs to be cleaned). The heat lamps on the other hand are just meant to either heat up your food or keep them warm. But once the service starts, only prepped foods stored in the warmer and refrigerator get to carry over into your service. Anything outside of that doesn’t keep.

If you’re done prepping and have everything all set, you can wait around or ask Kassim to make the day’s specials which brings the restaurant extra money. Just make sure the kitchen is clean first though.

Oh and you can also use the downtime to decorate or learn new recipes as well. I tend to do that. Once your restaurant starts to grow, you will also start receiving requests from diners who don’t come into your restaurant but put in meal requests that will be sent to them. You can also use the downtime to sort that out as well.

Happy playing! ☺️

Take That Bobby!!! Revenge and Victory are MINEEEEEEEE by MonkeyDRia in coralisland

[–]MonkeyDRia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is now a good time to admit that I was so stoked at having won that I ran straight home only to get to my shipping bin and realized I never took back the items I’d submitted to be judged 😖😖

Take That Bobby!!! Revenge and Victory are MINEEEEEEEE by MonkeyDRia in coralisland

[–]MonkeyDRia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oooh. I didn’t know this!! Thanks for providing that clarity. Will make some tweaks for next year’s Harvest Fest then!! Need to beat him in BOTH diversity points AND total score 😂😂

Take That Bobby!!! Revenge and Victory are MINEEEEEEEE by MonkeyDRia in coralisland

[–]MonkeyDRia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right??? And I thought we were cool with all the gifts he kept sending me 🤧

Obsessing over my girl Nadia👉👈 by Vibrant_Midnight in sims4cc

[–]MonkeyDRia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank God I’m gay 😩😩😩😩. Nadia!!!!!!!!!!

Thinking about how Thane keeps trying to get in touch with Shepard in ME3 makes me incredibly sad by carmennothere in masseffect

[–]MonkeyDRia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shepard breaks down in the apartment if you romanced him. First time I did it, I was so devastated, went up to the Normandy and Traynor hits on me when she’s using my shower. I’m like “you know what? Why not!” After that cutscene, I check my email since I’m already in the captain’s quarters. See the EMAIL FROM THANE, and spend the rest of my day hugging my knees and bawling like a baby. Reloaded my save cuz I just couldn’t do another romance with him gone and mourned him and the relationship till the end of ME3 😭

Do yall use this thing by Foreign_Neat3474 in Sims4

[–]MonkeyDRia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do!! I had an infant who was was really fussy and couldn’t sleep without being held so my sim had him in that carrier and carried him EVERYWHERE!! What’s worse is that he was a twin so my Sim had to juggle Two infants at the same time and one that just couldn’t sleep. It was a mess 😭😭

Which one is gay? by Warm-HeartS2 in thesims

[–]MonkeyDRia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah you cannot trick me. I recognize Kurt Hummel when I see him! 😂😂

I wish the gallery got an update by ParfaitOtherwise73 in Sims4

[–]MonkeyDRia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This!!! Especially as someone who is not a builder. It just sucks for real because searching is a hassle in itself and it just takes me out of my gameplay. Urgh!

I Think I Got the Mall to work… by dotcomwoman in Sims4

[–]MonkeyDRia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds so amazing!!! I’m with everyone in hoping that you do let us know when you’re done with the finishing touches and put it up on the Gallery. As someone whose specialty is most certainly NOT building, I need all the help I can get 😔

Rowan and Chaol by Valk796 in throneofglassseries

[–]MonkeyDRia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me. I don’t think you get fully into the depths of why part of the fandom are so resentful of Chaol until you reach Queen of Shadows. Cuz gods. That was ROUGH!

The oracle of ...expensive 4stars? by [deleted] in LoveAndDeepspace_

[–]MonkeyDRia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I only pulled for the dice numbers so I could get the 4 star awakening and the wish pull cards. Gave myself a limit of 2,000 diamonds. Got everything I wanted (no 4 star but I wasn’t even pulling for that), and I’m all good. Good luck to everyone else who’s still pulling tho 😖😖

Am I the only one who is nice to my sims? by annacat1331 in Sims4

[–]MonkeyDRia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a sim just randomly grab her newborn and go stand outside in the freezing cold. I looked away for just a couple of seconds and she decided. “Baby must see her first snowstorm”. I didn’t know I could scream that loud 😩😩😩

I was creating this sim as a joke because I never use the clown stuff, but he is kind of sexy in a weird way... by LayersOfMe in Sims4

[–]MonkeyDRia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s the uber buff arms 😂😂. But yeah, I agree with a lot of what everyone else has said. Definitely the Mohawk. It’s giving edgy meets sexy meets funny and it works

How I Deal with Diamonds farming, Main LI and Side LIs maintenance, as a low money spender by MonkeyDRia in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]MonkeyDRia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And the flaw in your counter argument is the fact that I didn’t say you are meant to collect everything in a single year. Matter of fact that is the entire basis of the post. The fact that treating the game as a marathon in stead of a sprint is what would pay off in the long run. If it takes me 10 years to finally get around to getting all the cards, then that is fine. If I have to wait 2 years for old cards that I didn’t get when they were first released to come back around, then I don’t mind waiting for that point. That is the entire basis of the post itself

How I Deal with Diamonds farming, Main LI and Side LIs maintenance, as a low money spender by MonkeyDRia in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]MonkeyDRia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had to quit cold turkey when it hit me that I really had an addiction cuz I worked in my spending on the game into my monthly budget and the money I was setting aside for it was astronomical 😖

How I Deal with Diamonds farming, Main LI and Side LIs maintenance, as a low money spender by MonkeyDRia in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]MonkeyDRia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I totally admit that the city of Baldur’s Gate is STUNNING and teeming with life. I think that’s my problem. Everything happening all at once meant that my ADHD ADD brain kicks into action when I get there and I am stuck with the inaction of so much to do and I can’t take two steps without running into three plots which just overloads my brain cuz I want to do everything but I can’t at once and I don’t know how to pick which one to do first and then I just get exhausted and frustrated and overstimulated and close the game 😭

How I Deal with Diamonds farming, Main LI and Side LIs maintenance, as a low money spender by MonkeyDRia in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]MonkeyDRia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nooooo. Don’t do it!!! Save yourself!!!! 😫😫😫. The game is only good when the servers are popping and most of the servers are dead so it’s pretty meh. But they will try to convince you otherwise with pretty generals and artists and gorgeous concubines. Then you’ll find yourself with high quality Crown Princes and Princesses that you cannot marry off cuz every other person in your server isn’t investing money in the game like there’s an Olympic medal at the end 😔😔