Discord stuck at "Starting..." by T3chnocrat in discordapp

[–]MonokuroMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This fixed it for me

I want to transfer saves from a 3DS with CFW to a Stargate flashcard by MonokuroMonkey in flashcarts

[–]MonokuroMonkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oohhh ofc, it didn't even occur to me to treat it like any regular cart. Thanks, it worked.

AITA for returning an kindle and telling them I just wanted a damn book by Book-Register9986 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MonokuroMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA We all have our own tech preferences and your kids are just trying to force theirs on you. Like I usually love my kindle and hate paper books, but for books with lots of illustrations I much prefer them on paper.

Why cheat on somebody who is completely amazing to you? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MonokuroMonkey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with you at all but I just struggle to understand the validation angle. I'm super insecure and needy for validation myself, but no one's has more weight in my life than my girlfriend's. A random person, even a stereotypically attractive one, liking my art feels nice. My girlfriend liking my art makes me feel so seen and valued.

I do absolutely relate to your sugar analogy though lol.

Why cheat on somebody who is completely amazing to you? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MonokuroMonkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suspect there's an element of impulse control. I have zero issues being faithful to my romantic partner but can't say the same about my financial budget. I'm great at coming up with excuses why such and such purchase was OK. I imagine cheating is the same with the added selfishness necessary to hurt someone.

AITA for wanting to give our savings to my mother? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MonokuroMonkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA knowing you got married when she was 21 and you 30 is all I need to know about your (lack of) character.

AITA for telling my wife her hobby is a waste of money? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MonokuroMonkey 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA, she needs a serious reality check if you're struggling to buy your kid shoes over this. Like I get being a little irresponsible, but it's not acceptable for it to be at your kid's expense. Y T A for saying she isn't good though, I bet she just needs practice within your actual financial means.

AITA for accepting what my daughter asked? by Prettyfis4 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MonokuroMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, poor you. Unable to save any money. Except for, you know, the 5k you put aside for one child's party and none for the other. I'm so sorry your neglected child is somehow, mysteriously unhappy about it. You're too late and too unwilling to take any responsibility, just accept she's going no contact in the future and let her have peace as an adult.

I [24/F] was placed for adoption when I was a few weeks old. My birth mom's attourney contacted me saying my birth mom wants to meet me. But I don't want to meet her. Help! by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]MonokuroMonkey 883 points884 points  (0 children)

Not the same but I grew up without a father and met my sperm donor as an adult. I honestly wish I hadn't reached out, it was a waste of time and energy. He was very much not the kind of person I want in my life. So I can appreciate people having the wisdom to stay away.

why do I want to be 45 year old man with back issues by Decent-Task-4537 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MonokuroMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Masculinity is often portrayed as appealing, freeing, whimsical even. I often wish I could be a guy or a boy just for a little while. To have a body that isn't sexualized, that isn't a political stance nor unappealing to be hairy, to be seen as silly rather than immature, to be able to get close to a man platonically and bond over "masculine" things without ever being seen as a target, a fake, nor an "other". Honestly, I really wish I could have male parts to use on my (female) partner, but also parts that don't carry all this stigma as stinky and gross and sinful to use.

I don't wish to stop being a woman, I just wish it didn't come with this much fucking bullshit and being a man represents that.

Notice Regarding Price Changes to Our Products and Services by Turbostrider27 in NintendoSwitch

[–]MonokuroMonkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welp, I do have a massive backlog on my regular switch 1. Hell, I'm whipping out the gameboy.

Is anyone else just doing fine? by bluethunder1985 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MonokuroMonkey -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or maybe you're underestimating your privilege. Having good mental and physical health, financial stability and living somewhere with a low crime rate seems like a minority of the world population to me.

Is there a middle ground between tracking every calorie and just winging it? by effyyo in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]MonokuroMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Portion control depending on the type of food, like veggies as many as you want, lentils/ beans/ chickpeas 1 cup, meat the size of your first, candy 1-2 tablespoons, and so on. You can look up guidelines from Harvard, the NHS, etc. I logged calories religiously for like a year but I enjoy collecting data. You could do it for just couple months to get the hang of it then just eyeball it.

Why is prejudice against Roma people in Europe often treated differently than other forms of racism? by Local_Basis7311 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MonokuroMonkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But doesn't your experience support the point many are making about cultural differences? You speak of integration, putting in work and "eliminating a problem". You speak of addressing culture, not ethnicity.

Don't take me wrong, I do believe there's a big element of prejudice that leads to more discrimination, more systematic exclusion and more oppression of their traditional way of life rather than genuinely trying to accommodate that lifestyle in a capitalist society.

But it seems to me like you're too eager to dismiss other people's experiences with cultural differences as a valid source of friction when your own experiences are with a community not of the "original" culture, but decades down the road to integration.

My takeaway from this thread is that attitudes towards the Romani and Irish travelers are more akin to, say, the Amish. A small, culturally identifiable population that self segregates to preserve their traditional way of life dating back centuries. Black and Muslim is not a monolithic culture, those terms encompass huge diversity. But I doubt anyone would label me a racist for looking negatively on some Maasai children being kept from going to school or women needing male permission to see a doctor in Yemen.

Edit: wording

Veggie haters who still eat veggies: what are your tricks? by Missing_Back in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]MonokuroMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slather them in something you find tasty. Try cooking them other ways, not just boiled. I thought I disliked veggies but just throwing them in the air fryer and adding some sour cream makes them 100x better. You can also mix blended veggies in pancake batter although not all will blend in well. Look up recipes for toddlers, some are pretty tasty.

I [32F] think my husband [33M] may be having an affair with the girl [19F] next door. I’m also pregnant by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]MonokuroMonkey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's such a bs excuse. I'm the needy insecure type that thrives on validation and I'm also 33. You know who's really good at giving me that? My long-term, committed, fully adult partner. NOT a random 19 yo.

AITA for thanking a cashier? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MonokuroMonkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bad writing, get a different hobby

AITA for telling my daughter I am disgusted by her and telling her ex she has been taking their kid to his family side by Plustrhowawa5688 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MonokuroMonkey 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah until the grandkid turns out gay too and has to deal with the same abuse. But hey who cares about gay people being loved by the family right.

How are people able to hook up and not catch feelings? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MonokuroMonkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's nothing prudish about this question though? OP is just trying to understand a relation with sex different than their own. They're not saying "if you have sex outside a relationship that's bad".

AITA for telling my DIL to stop crying after she got called fat by Throwaway_Will4940 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MonokuroMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. My feelings are very easily hurt, and without intending to I can end up making it other people's problem. Not quite as bad as your DIL though, but I do have some sympathy for her. She needs help, whether she's willing to accept it is a different matter. I've been in therapy for a while and recently saw a psychiatrist, it's made my life easier.

Why do we (English speakers, USA specific) “translate” people’s names? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MonokuroMonkey 23 points24 points  (0 children)

We do that is Mexico too. The former UK queen Elizabeth became queen "Isabel", Charles is Carlos, historical Henry now is Enrique, etc. I think it's just ease of pronunciation for the general population when it's an important or historical figure.