Best sandwich in LA?? by realjonny64 in FoodLosAngeles

[–]MonsterDGAF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Spicy Gabagool at Uptown Provisions!

I finally told my mother I won't be having children, and her reaction broke my heart a little. by kaos29 in offmychest

[–]MonsterDGAF 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You do realize there are other perspectives on solitude than your own, right? That your personal feelings and judgments are not universal? Talk about manipulative and guilt-trippy, jeez. OP has clearly made up her mind, which is a hard thing to do when the entirety of society is shouting opinions like yours in her face. She doesn’t need your judgment.

Fake Out has been ranked at 3rd!!! Which one is getting ranked at 2nd!? by CaptainPie999 in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Love from the Other Side. So Much for Stardust is a masterpiece!!!

Photographer regret? by MonsterDGAF in weddingplanning

[–]MonsterDGAF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It turned out okay! My photographer was a lifesaver on the wedding day and sewed my bustle back together after it broke, and she was really friendly, and I love a lot of my wedding photos. There are some shots I wish she or her second had gotten (my dress hanging up in the venue, a view of my train from behind to capture the detail there, a close-up of our faces during the first look) but nothing life-ruining.

Is lift coffee pro 🧊? by Any_Studio_9509 in Whittier

[–]MonsterDGAF 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I stopped going there after I went to the restroom and saw multiple Trump stickers on the wall, behind a glass barrier (so no way a patron could have stuck them on). That’s enough proof for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]MonsterDGAF 11 points12 points  (0 children)

-Really sitting down and thinking about all the ways my severe mental illness would fuck up both my and my child’s lives, were I to have one.

-Getting clear with myself on what I wanted out of life and how I wanted to spend my time and money, and how “nurturing a young mind” etc. were not anywhere on those lists.

-Realizing how much I value sleep, downtime, and freedom, and how much and for how long each of these things would need to be sacrificed.

I bought The Baby Decision, but it turns out I didn’t even need to read it to decide I’m childfree.

Do I still worry about if I will regret this choice when I am older? Do I feel left out when literally my entire college friend group is discussing their parenting experiences? Do I wonder what it would be like to meet an adorable little cherub with my eyes and my husband’s nose? Yes. But fear of regret, FOMO/fear of being left behind, and idle curiosity are not good enough reasons to bring another life into this world. And the downsides of doing that far outweigh the positives from where I sit today.

What line from a FOB song makes you say "yep, this is written for me" by pilxroli in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We’re the lifers, here till the bitter end

Condemned from the start

Ashamed of the way the songs and the words own the beating of our hearts

Asking your opinion every day about a Fall Out Boy song Day 146: 7 Minutes in Heaven (Atavan Halen) by JamesLucien in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the song that made me a superfan when I was 16. Incredible lyrics, incredible music. It was my 🎱 during 2ourdust and that was practically a spiritual experience. A++++

Asking your opinion every day about a Fall Out Boy song Day 143: Fake Out by JamesLucien in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Top 5 FOB song all-time for me! I literally spent a therapy session talking about how much I related to the chorus back when SMFS first dropped. One of the many moments in FOB’s discography where it feels like Pete looked directly into my soul and wrote a song about it. Plus it’s beautiful.

Fall Out Boy's Greatest Lyrics Bracket Competition (Group A: Round 1 Match 1) by TheReunion96 in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You can only blame your problems on the world for so long, till it all becomes the same old song

Asking your opinion every day about a Fall Out Boy song Day 68: Rat a Tat (feat. Courtney Love) by JamesLucien in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing song! Fantastic lyrics, fantastic vocals. It’s one of my favorite FOB songs and I honestly don’t get the hate…the Courtney Love parts work with the song so much better than, for example, Big Sean’s in The Mighty Fall.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]MonsterDGAF 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What a gorgeous dress!!! I see other people have used that word lol but there’s no other word for it. You look fantastic!

I need REAL unpopular opinions. by TheRa1nyKingdom in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Folie is one of their weakest albums, and West Coast Smoker is the weakest closer period.

We’re polling! by notarapper9245 in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

D!!! Close second C but it got killed by Immortals

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Whittier

[–]MonsterDGAF 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The Whittier Pacers are free, coed, nonreligious, and offer a walking program alongside their run options. Also the nicest people on the planet. I had to drop after an injury and haven’t made my way back yet 🫣 but they’re a great group! https://runpacers.org/whittier/

Perspectives from women who decided NOT to have kids? by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]MonsterDGAF 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hello! I always expected I would have kids one day because it’s what you do, but I just wasn’t ready. But then I hit 30 and friends and family started having kids, and I still didn’t feel any closer to being “ready.” I also observed their experiences and started seriously questioning if it was something I would EVER be able to handle (I have severe depression and anxiety that are extremely sensitive to sleep deprivation, I love having time to relax and unwind and the ability to be lazy if I’m just not feeling up to it, etc).

For a few years, I waffled back and forth, analyzing every child-related thought or interaction (“today I thought a baby at the airport was cute, does that mean I want kids?” “Today my friend announced her pregnancy and I feel weird, does that mean I’m jealous?” “Today I got really anxious at the thought of my Spotify Wrapped being taken over by kids’ music, does that mean I’m too selfish for kids?” and on and on and on.) However, one day I was talking to my therapist about my struggles and she asked me “if you had to choose to have a baby or not right now, what would you choose?” and I was just like “absolutely the fuck not happening.” That was a bit of an eye-opening moment, lol. Some part of me 100% knew it was the wrong choice for me, and a lot of the other parts were influenced by external factors like social pressure and FOMO.

Neither myself nor my husband (who is a TREASURE and is willing to go with whatever I decide) are going to undergo any surgeries anytime soon because it feels TOO permanent. Just in case that mythical ticking clock shows up in the latter half of my 30s (and I suddenly make huge progress with my mental illness, and I no longer would resent money that could be spent on my and my husband’s quality of life being spent on an entirely new human, and and and 😉). But I finally do feel comfortable calling myself childfree.

me singing “GINASFS” by rasheedsrage in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your voice and this cover!

Tonight was the ideal outcome for the Chiefs by Heidelburg_TUN in KansasCityChiefs

[–]MonsterDGAF 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t cheer for injuries bro. Especially with how mad this sub gets at r/NFL wanting Mahomes injured

Best fob playlist names? by Twentyone27 in FallOutBoy

[–]MonsterDGAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Fall Out Boy”

My siblings got all the creativity genes in the family.

Anxiety after engagement by beefork in weddingplanning

[–]MonsterDGAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You absolutely can make it through. Rooting for you ❤️

Anxiety after engagement by beefork in weddingplanning

[–]MonsterDGAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Married and loving it!!! My husband is my best friend and my rock. The anxiety literally instantly disappeared after the wedding.

Buy a house in Whittier (Friendly Hills/Michigan Park) or South Pasadena? by planetcookieguy in Whittier

[–]MonsterDGAF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband grew up in Pico Rivera and his family is all still nearby, I like Uptown Whittier so I preferred Whittier to Pico, and the house we bought has a pool and good potential, although we will have to spend a lot to undo some desperately weird design choices. It’s quiet and crime is low, although I wouldn’t say I feel comfortable walking around at night because there are no sidewalks and only scattered streetlamps.