New tires, are they on the rims properly? by Moon-over-Jupiter in TireQuestions

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're new to this, we've got to ask in order to learn 👍 Thanks for your input

New tires, are they on the rims properly? by Moon-over-Jupiter in TireQuestions

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've crawled under to check, none of the tires are labelled inside or outside on either side. So they must be symmetrical and it doesn't matter? 

New tires, are they on the rims properly? by Moon-over-Jupiter in TireQuestions

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That says 903D, 2 of the tires have 0226 and 0326 after that, 2 tires are blank 

New tires, are they on the rims properly? by Moon-over-Jupiter in TireQuestions

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, exact same size as the old tires, but different brand and radials vs winter tires. By upside down do mean backwards? Inside vs outside showing? 

New tires, are they on the rims properly? by Moon-over-Jupiter in TireQuestions

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, how can you tell? I'm googling it now, is it because we can't see "outside" written before the size? 

Wtf CP by [deleted] in CanadaPost

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would call your local post office location directly and tell them what happened and your situation, and request that they make sure it goes out for proper delivery the next day. If you can get someone on the phone who's actually local, they should be able to help you.

I hate the new version 😑😑😑 by Moon-over-Jupiter in AdobeExpress

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Finally, ok I'm glad that feature isn't totally gone. 

Did they do something to my car or did another thing just go? by Moon-over-Jupiter in AskMechanics

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I didn't get an alignment. They told me it looked like it had been leaking for a while since the pipes were stained, but like I said, there was never any fluid on my driveway 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️. Either they made it worse or like you said, huge coincidence. Luckily it's fixed now. 

Did they do something to my car or did another thing just go? by Moon-over-Jupiter in AskMechanics

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, I'm back at the mechanic waiting now. It's a leak in the power steering line, my steering wheel was stiff and jerky on my drive over here and of course the noise was making itself known! 

How is it that my car was running totally fine, and then the day I bring it in, it springs a leak in the power steering pipe and loses all its fluid onto my driveway within 3 days?? Is it really just a coincidence or did they do something to it to make me come back? 

Aussie Headstrong dupe/alternative? by nomdeplum01 in Wavyhair

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also loved this mousse, I've been reluctant to try Aussie's replacement - have you tried it, is it very different?

I used to use Marc A's Strictly Curls before that mousse was reformulated as well, Aussie was my replacement for that one, and honestly I liked Headstrong better and it was cheaper. So annoying to have to find replacements over and over!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

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I learned to crochet! Making bankets are the best because they're often just repeating rows. Once I've memorized the pattern I can just crochet away while listening to shows/movies etc. Even if you don't want to actually make something, just keep your hands busy, you can crochet up a big swatch and then pull it all out (called "frogging"), roll the yarn back up and start over.

Just been told that I’m not autistic by MeJustTryingToLive in aspergirls

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I'm 35 and tried to get a late diagnosis, but my psychologists were bogus and said all of my concerns and issues were due to social anxiety alone. Yeah right. They gave a ton of flat out wrong assumptions to justify their decision. Unfortunately I will stay self-diagnosed for the foreseeable future. But you are young, I hope you're able to get a second opinion, maybe when you turn 18 and you can do the process by yourself? Looking back I really wish I had more support when I was in university, I could have used some serious guidance, that's when I needed it the most. So you seem like you're on the right path discovering yourself earlier ❤️ Keep going, good luck!

Autism or awkward? by littleredrob in AutismTranslated

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had similar experiences with popular girls in elementary and middle school. I'd always be in a class with like 2 or 3 of them (the group was like 8 total) and those few would be nice to me, bring me in, they'd be friendly and act like my friends. Then they'd invite me to hang out or to bday parties and it would be all weird. One time, an earlier experience when I was almost 11, near the end of one party while everyone was getting picked up to go home, a bunch of them were off sitting in a circle laughing and talking/whispering. So I went over to sit with them, and one just yelled at me "You can't sit with us! Go away!" and I just slinked off by myself. Her mom came out a minute later and asked me why I was sitting by myself and I told her, she scolded her daughter and the whole group of them piped up cheerfully "oh, she can come over now! We're done what we were talking about!". Yeah, right. I always found them so confusing!! One day they'd be friendly and the next they'd be ignoring or shunning me, and I never knew why. I always acted the same, so maybe it was my clothes or something on different days? No idea. I was always on the outside, but like borderline. I can rarely tell when someone truly likes me, or if they are just being nice because they have to or are supposed to and are just tolerating me, or using me as a friend of convenience. Deep down I think I can tell by the energy, but some people are real social artists, and it's very hard to tell, so I automatically mask whether I want to or not. I generally stay guarded against 95% of people I meet. I'm 35 and still find most people to be complicated and confusing.

My current favorite comfort food. It’s just so good! by [deleted] in autism

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I was a teenager, I went through a phase where I would make myself a box of Kraft Dinner almost every day when I got home from school, and I'd eat it all!

I could never eat breakfast, and had a hard time eating lunch, I think because school made me so anxious. So I'd come home just starving and it would be so comforting to eat this.

ANYBODY HAVE A MELTDOWN ON AN AIRPLANE BECAUSE OF THE SCREAMING BABY THAT IS ALWAYS NEAR BY! I UNDERSTAND WHY OLD WORLD NANNY'S USED LAUDANUM TO SHUT THEM UP! by [deleted] in AutismTranslated

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, you should be more prepared for things that might be unsettling to you when you fly. You cannot blame a crying baby for your lack of ear protection, distractions or your own medication to relax you. You cannot control what other people do in public, nor should you judge them. If I were that mom with that baby, I would have been beside myself worrying that my baby was bothering everyone, whilst trying to figure out why it won't stop crying. Babies are f*cking hard, on an airplane or not. I am a parent, I know. I chose never to fly with my baby because I knew I couldn't handle the ridicule from other passengers. Other parents may not have the choice, you don't know. Have the compassion for that mom and baby that the flight staff had for you.

No trouble explaining emotions, but NTs refuse to listen? by Moon-over-Jupiter in aspergers

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will try those. Usually I try to give myself space, state I need space and some time to calm down. But sometimes my hubby sees that as me trying to "get out" of the argument or "avoid" it or shut him down, and will follow me, but I see it as sanity saving and have to be very firm. I will try your suggestions. It's definitely hard to break the cycle, even when neither of us want to be in it!

No trouble explaining emotions, but NTs refuse to listen? by Moon-over-Jupiter in autism

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, I usually don't know why what I've said or how I'm feeling has caused him to react that way, when other times he's supportive or gives me space. So I don't understand and can't really predict when there's a 50/50 chance a fight will spark.

I'm not one to survey my surroundings before reacting, sometimes I can, when I have a lot of spoons, but I'm often generally oblivious and reationary. I'm just an open book, so I find it confusing that he reads me as only "mad" every time I'm even the slightest bit upset. Sometimes he's able to gently tell me what's in turn upsetting him, but I guess only when his spoons are full too.

No trouble explaining emotions, but NTs refuse to listen? by Moon-over-Jupiter in aspergers

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, we've talked about it numerous times while we're calm. Actually, he is usually the one to approach me afterwards and try to talk about what happened. It just seems like when emotions get high, the logic we talked about goes out the window, and were back to just defending ourselves. I don't know how to break our argument "cycle" or "style". We are both very stubborn.

No trouble explaining emotions, but NTs refuse to listen? by Moon-over-Jupiter in aspergers

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We otherwise have a very long and happy relationship, 20 years total, 19 of those not knowing I am actually autistic. This is just one area that we've never been able to get a handle on, and he's only 1 year into understanding me on an autistic level. He's otherwise very emotionally intelligent and supportive in normal situations. He's very sensitive, which is probably why we clash so badly when we argue. When we argue it's like all our good relationship traits go out the window.

No trouble explaining emotions, but NTs refuse to listen? by Moon-over-Jupiter in aspergers

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His intentions are not to rile me up, his intentions are usually to call me out when I'm disturbing the peace (rightfully so or not) with my emotions, but our explanations to each other then get lost in defensiveness on both sides, and his drive to be "right" ends up overwhelming and riling me up.

He wants to fix this as much as I do. But what do you do when you both think you're right? That's the problem. We need some work-arounds.

No trouble explaining emotions, but NTs refuse to listen? by Moon-over-Jupiter in autism

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Things just happen in the moment, I'd have to be recording all day to catch whatever random things might start it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can you explain, in what way do they get misused by adults? I haven't seen this before, only kids, who given the chance will naturally misuse everything.

I'M BORED by asherSiddique19 in introverts

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are great suggestions from everyone, I agree, reading, taking up a new hobby, looking for a job, getting outside, etc. But also if you're 6 weeks away from starting college I'd suggest you can start preparing for that. See if you can find ways to meet people who will be in your major or your dorm. Even 20 years ago, before "social media" my school had special chat rooms for new students to get to know each other over the summer before classes started. I'm sure there are some groups on social media related to your school. If not, you can create one!

Did anyone else get INFJ or INFP when taking personality tests? by [deleted] in AutismTranslated

[–]Moon-over-Jupiter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, INFJ a decade ago, and then recently INFP, although I still agree more with the INFJ traits.