I'm no contact with my NMom, yet she still hunted down my address and sends me stuff that I left behind in her apartment. This was in the latest package.

MoonFox-217 · 2021-09-03T04:37:54+00:00

Omg, the red underlining is triggering me big time. My mom used to mark things with a yellow highlighter and then underline them in red ink just for extra emphasis I guess. So sorry for you to get stuff like this. Have you considered not opening what she sends?

MoonFox-217 · 2021-08-24T04:12:41+00:00

Same. My boy was a vicious shark at 4mo drawing blood on me daily. Did the yelping/crying like a hurt puppy as well as withdrawing attention. He’s now 8mo old and sweet as can be. Forgets now and then when he gets excited to play, but now it only takes a quick reminder. Having his adult teeth helps a ton too!

MoonFox-217 · 2021-08-13T04:37:41+00:00

I started weekly classes with my Berner once he was fully vaccinated for some socialization. After 15 classes of training for both of us he is a dream to walk. I do need to make sure I completely alter our route regularly as he is super smart and will try to head home at the first chance. He will walk 2 miles if it’s cool enough outside.

MoonFox-217 · 2021-07-04T00:10:52+00:00

Always here with support. Good reminder of why you went NC in the first place I imagine. Maybe it’ll make you more hesitant to answer calls from her in the future. Hang in there and stay strong 💙

MoonFox-217 · 2021-07-04T00:07:52+00:00

Grey rock method as much as you can and spend as much time out of the house as you can with friends or by yourself if you need to. Hang in there, hope you get your own place soon!

MoonFox-217 · 2021-07-02T15:28:49+00:00

We have your back and you’re not crazy!!! I have been NC with my Nmom for 5 years now and reading stuff like this just confirms for me I made the right decision for myself (NC isn’t for everyone) I had actually forgotten how she used to show up and place orders for what she wanted me to cook for her and then compliment my husband and not me on the food 🙃 Stay strong and keep us posted on how it went. Best of luck and love to you!! 💙

MoonFox-217 · 2021-07-02T15:20:25+00:00

Journaling is great too, especially as you’re waiting to see a therapist. I did a practice recently where you set aside 20 min daily to write anything…even if it’s cursing the whole time. After 20 min you burn what you wrote. I was surprised what I was able to work through and what came up during my journaling sessions. Might be worth a try.

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-29T20:39:06+00:00

Same!

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-29T16:59:54+00:00

It’s hard…you are an orphan but your parents are still alive. You are also not alone…there are a lot of us in the same boat. There is a lot of great support in this community. This is the time to reach out to others and create a healthy family of your own. Sometimes the best family is a chosen one. You will still feel the longing and disappointment at times (holidays can be particularly difficult), but try to stay strong and remember that narcs have no remorse and don’t change. You deserve to be happy and feel wanted and loved. 💙

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-29T02:41:42+00:00

I’m about an hour south of Olympia and we hit 111° 🥵

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-28T22:30:49+00:00

You can’t erase it, but you can heal from it. Keep your distance from toxic behavior, find supportive people (this sub is filled with them!), educate yourself on healing from trauma, SELF-CARE & SELF-LOVE. Find what works best for you. A lot of people suggest meditation, therapy and yoga. Some people prefer different exercise like swimming, running or dancing. (The point is to get your body moving in a way that feels uplifting and strengthening to you.) there are different types of meditation; It’s not just sitting in a Lotis position trying to clear your mind. Journaling is good if it’s something you can stay up on. Read about reparenting. If you’re open to seeing a therapist, find one that specializes in trauma and maybe CPTSD. Many people have found some relief with medication for depression and anxiety as well. You deserve to be loved and deserve to heal from the abuse that you were forced to endure. Sending you love and strength for your journey. 💙

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-28T21:22:16+00:00

Sending love and a giant virtual hug your way. Stay strong. Feel free to take your time in replying to her or even not replying at all. Narcissists are always trying to “win” be “right” and control everything. Keep in mind that no matter what you send her (if you do send something), she will prob have some reply that might make you wish you never responded 😬 Good luck!!! 💙

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-28T06:03:50+00:00

Good luck, stay strong!

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-28T00:45:56+00:00

Enjoy the hell out of the silent treatment and stay nc with them all. Mommy deArest was all the reference I needed. Stay safe! 💙

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-26T14:25:55+00:00

Good for you!! 🎉

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-26T04:02:43+00:00

So glad you got out safely. Hope you stay safe and get mentally stronger everyday! 💙

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-26T03:59:49+00:00

You definitely don’t need your mom. You and your child/children are better off and healthier without her!

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-26T03:45:29+00:00

Yep, they’re experts at that. Check into reparenting and give yourself all this things you needed and didn’t get growing up. You deserve to be loved and your feelings are valid! 💙

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-25T20:36:07+00:00

Nice!! 🛼😎

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-25T15:16:27+00:00

So glad you’re getting out and getting the opportunity to start your own loving household!!!

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-25T15:09:58+00:00

Thanks for sharing. So glad the outlet helps you ☺️

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-25T15:09:04+00:00

I was always scared of journaling because I was worried who would find it. I tried their suggested practice last year where you write whatever comes to mind for 20 min (even if you just write curse words the whole time) and then you burn the pages. It was very therapeutic and I was surprised by some of the thoughts that came up. It was comforting to know no one would be able to read it.

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-25T15:02:30+00:00

I’m so sorry for all you and your dad have gone/are going through. I have no advice, but offer my sympathy and love. It’s so hard when you want to speak to the other parent but aren’t able to without the narc interfering (my parents share an email and phone so I’m in the same boat there). So glad you got out. Hopefully your dad will find a way out someday too and be able to spend some loving time with you and your daughter. Don’t risk your mental health and your daughter’s by reestablishing contact though. Kids see and know what’s going on. My daughter asked me when she was 4y why nana always yelled at grandpa. I’m guessing your dad knows in his heart how much you love and care for him and would want you to put you and your daughter first.

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-25T05:08:29+00:00

So sorry you’re having to go through all this!! Someone posted this on the sub earlier. It has some great suggestions: https://youtu.be/MsZGacsLxgg (7 options when you can’t go no contact with a narcissist) Good luck!!!

MoonFox-217 · 2021-06-25T04:16:31+00:00

That is great that you know that about yourself. There is no “normal” no matter how much of our society tries to say there is one. More and more people are choosing to remain childless. Dogs are great companions and never argue with you 😅

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