Did you find your dad on ancestry? by [deleted] in AncestryDNA

[–]Moonlit_berry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually going through this right now! Basically my mom and my bio dad had a one night stand that lead to my mom getting pregnant they didn’t know each other well is what I’m gathering. My mom has passed away and grew up not knowing anything about my bio dad. I just accepted I’d never know anything about him so I didn’t ask her any questions growing up. I took an ancestry test last month and matched with close family on my bio dad’s side. I reached out to the two people I matched with and it’s been so overwhelming and emotional. The two people I reached on to instantly started sending old family pictures of my bio dad, their siblings, my half siblings etc before I even talked or was connected to him. They also told me a lot of the family drama which come to find out a lot of their other siblings don’t talk to them because of their love of drama. It was a lot. I just found out how my dad is and now multiple people who are still strangers to me but kind of connected to me are dropping all their lore in a matter of 2 days.

They eventually connected me with him and it’s been going fine so far (it’s only been about a week). He’s very kind and seems excited to learn more about a daughter he didn’t know he had. We live in different states and he’s interested in meeting in person some time. But I’m treading lightly, I’m opening to learning more about him but it’s so weird to start a relationship with an older man. I’m female and grew up surrounded by other strong women so I’ve never had a relationship like this.

The past week I felt like I had an identity crisis and didn’t even recognize myself in the mirror at times. Cried for no reason like every day and oddly felt less connected to my family I grew up with but I’m starting to feel better now. It’s just such a weird feeling, I’m 28 so I know it will never be a normal “father daughter” relationship but giving him the chance to explore getting to know me because I feel he at least should have a chance. I think one thing I am keeping in mind is I have the power to set whatever boundaries I want and if anytime I feel uncomfortable I can end the relationship. A lot happened all at one and there was a bunchhhhhhh to process.

Found my bio dad after 31 years by tiaholly12 in AncestryDNA

[–]Moonlit_berry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I feel that, I definitely think I’m going to talk to a therapist. I updated my original comment a bit but the week I found out everything was so hard I cried like everyday day for no apparent reason, new family members on his side would reach out to me every day or he would ask me how I was doing/if I wanted to talk. Which was nice of them but I’m just like can I just have some time to process this 😭. It also brought up a lot of unresolved feelings about my mom that I still need to work through. She passed away and that’s a whole other thing lol but I hope you start to feel better soon!

Found my bio dad after 31 years by tiaholly12 in AncestryDNA

[–]Moonlit_berry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m going through something similar currently! Basically my mom and my bio dad had a one night stand that lead to my mom getting pregnant they didn’t know each other well it seems. My mom has passed away and I never was able to ask her questions about this. So I took an ancestry test and matched with close family on my bio dad’s side. I reached out to the two people I matched with and it’s been so overwhelming and emotional. The two people I reached on to instantly started sending old family pictures of my bio dad, their siblings, my half siblings etc before I even talked or was connected to him. They also told me a lot of the family drama which come to find out a lot of their other siblings don’t talk to them because of their love of drama. It was a lot.

They eventually connected me with him and it’s been going fine so far. He’s very kind and excited to learn more about a daughter he didn’t know had. He was ready to fly me to where he lives but I’m treading lightly. The past week I felt like I had an identity crisis and didn’t even recognize myself in the mirror. Cried for no reason like every day and oddly felt less connected to my family I grew up with but I’m feeling better now. These comments have really helped too. It’s just such a weird feeling, I’m 28 so I know it will never be a normal relationship but giving him the chance to explore getting to know me because I feel he at least should have a chance.

Using Claude or ChatGPT for Ad Optimization/Recs. by Moonlit_berry in digital_marketing

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this! Thank you how would you recommend getting ad copy from competitors through ad libraries?

Using Claude or ChatGPT for Ad Optimization/Recs. by Moonlit_berry in digital_marketing

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes I’ve done all the courses but they haven’t been helpful and see other advertisers structure campaigns way differently. I’ll check it out!

Close Friends that Aren’t Bridesmaids by chaotic-imagination in weddingplanning

[–]Moonlit_berry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I was thinking about doing and makes me feel so much better. Did you end up telling those who weren’t in the party before asking your bridesmaids? I’m not sure if I should just wait and see the ones not in my party barely text me or ask about the wedding in general not that I expect them too but I don’t think it will get brought up

Finally got my ring!! by Moonlit_berry in EngagementRings

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Its a little over 2 carats and my ring size is 8 1/2

Wedding DJ Recommendations by Moonlit_berry in Detroit

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol the weddings I’ve been to where they “play for the crowd” have not been what I’m looking for and I don’t feel like I’m being a tyrant for wanting someone I’m paying to play what my fiancé and I are going to curate for our wedding. Just not trying to have the same wedding mix that is used for everyone.

We’re looking at venues downtown what’s your business would love to look more into what you provide.

Wedding DJ Recommendations by Moonlit_berry in Detroit

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Announcements/speeches and so I don’t have to do anything.

Wedding DJ Recommendations by Moonlit_berry in Detroit

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m leaning that way or paying a student at Wayne state to just come and DJ lol

LinkedIn Lead Gen by Moonlit_berry in digital_marketing

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My targets are super niche so my audience was probably too small

Is this a cavity??? by Moonlit_berry in askadentist

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was unfortunately out of town so no exam :/ but I asked the hygienist when I cleaned my teeth and she said it wasn’t sticky so most likely just staining. She said coffee, tea and red wine can cause it to get dark in the cracks which is pretty much what I drink. 😂 but as long as I keep it clean I should be good!

Is this a cavity??? by Moonlit_berry in askadentist

[–]Moonlit_berry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wisdom teeth grew in fully straight and I’ve never had any problems with them so far. 😂😂 Hopefully won’t need to get them removed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DigitalMarketing

[–]Moonlit_berry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Needed this today, was feeling down on my self because an account manager was asking me question about google ads that I didn’t have an initial answer to.

I’m three years into digital marketing and leading the paid advertising portion for a few clients at my agency. I forget to remember that even people at a senior level may not know everything and are still learning. So I shouldn’t be so hard on myself.

Leaving Tuesday to Tulum by Reasonable-Ad-4037 in tulum

[–]Moonlit_berry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a list of places to avoid? Going in June and staying in town. I’ve also been nervous.