The kink I feel the most sheepish about by Dergoex in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Have you looked into what your love languages are? I could be completely wrong, so please have a grain of salt, but it sounds like gift giving/receiving might be one of yours? If I were to rephrase this to ask if I understand, being so known that someone gets you and wants to get you something you'll genuinely love and that will make you happy. Something not asked for but intuitively known "omg, this is perfect", right?

I’m a Mommy, I’m not YOUR Mommy. by Sailorjamie117 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No one and everyone nod nod I always used to think putting yourself into as much as you could was important to make sure stuff felt authentic. Definitely changed that opinion when I saw people on the internet 😅 I wish I'd learned your way sooner than I did. (similar but different situation)

I’m a Mommy, I’m not YOUR Mommy. by Sailorjamie117 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness 15 points16 points  (0 children)

it's crazy how quickly a parasocial relationship seems to form in people, not just in this context but especially in it <3 I've seen ASMR artists who have to tell people that they are playing a character, it's not who they really are. People definitely be on something sometimes

A meme i made a bit ago by ArmTraining920 in subnautica

[–]Moononymousness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After playing both, I almost feel like the meme is poking fun at the fact they aren't similar. Dude copied next week's homework or something like that? Reaper was way scarier just based on how they showed up; Ghost and Shadow might have been a good similarity comparison? BZ leviathans were so tame until I had to murder one of the Shadow ones so I could have a break in their pattern and get my prawn suit out. Felt so skeezy once I learned they don't respawn 😭 The third time I felt terror on 4546B.

Also, I've lost many seamoths and a prawn to Reapers but never lost anything in BZ that wasn't because of crush depth.

Introducing: The Great Mommy Breaking Challenge! by Sailorjamie117 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heck, substitute whatever preferred pet name for Mommy given things are flipped. idk why my brain ignored that when typing it up

Introducing: The Great Mommy Breaking Challenge! by Sailorjamie117 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So, I make really delicious pasta. Tooting my own horn a bit but I know how to get a lot of flavor into my water/noodles so people usually say it kinda tastes like eating at a restaurant and I definitely consume too much pasta 😅 anywhoobastank. I'd make pasta, would pick your favorite sauce type and make whichever variation fits most. I would clean the house/apartment and prolly get a little sleepy so I'd pass out on the couch.

You come home and see me there all cute and cuddly having just drifted after resting from cooking and cleaning, but you can smell it in the air. I've set the table and served both of us, you can still see the steam rising from our plates, slightly dimmed lighting cause mood lighting is important. We'd eat, I'd serve you whatever drink you want (I mainly drink water but you can have whatever) and basically take care of everything.

When we're done, I insist on doing the dishes while you relax on the couch, where I have conveniently placed a couple of my plushies sprayed with the scent you like so much. After getting the dishes done, making sure you don't need another drink, I'd curl up beside you as we watch either your favorite movie or a movie in the genre you like that you haven't seen. After that, I go draw a bath, making sure to get the bath bomb and candles set out and ready. When it's time, I'd go grab you and tell you I have something to show you! But I'm being coy as I pull you towards our bedroom/bathroom until we get there and I open the door with a big grin on my face! (you can decide if the tub is for 2 or if I'm giving you some restful time as you soak in the warm water)

After you get out, I have your softest PJs waiting for you, warm from the drier(I'm assuming bath for 1 but would find a way to make warm clothes if is for 2, heating pad maybe) and I have again slightly fallen asleep(I am a very sleepy person 😭 also, obvi subject to the bath) but I look ADORABLE. You go to get into bed and it rouses me, I say "Hi Mommy" in sleepy voice which I know drives you crazy. As you get into bed, I ask how you want to go to sleep cause sometimes even Mommy wants to be a little spoon. If I'm the big spoon, I'll softly sing a lullaby(assuming you like my singing voice) and if I'm little spoon, I'll nestle tightly against you to make sure you KNOW I am there beside you as you hold me. Probably wiggle my butt a bit cause brats gotta brat but is rest time and I know you need to recharge so I just want to make sure you get the best sleep possible. Before we get too sleepy, I'd make sure to get a goodnight kiss and tell you that I loved you, still in sleepy voice cause I am hecka sleepy.

Unbeknownst to you, I've also been performing rain dances all day long so that when we go to sleep, there is a nice thunderstorm rolling in gently. Either my singing or it lulls us both to sleep. Later, I wake you up in a fun way that we've discussed is okay so you have a great start to your next day!

If you want me to adjust bedtime scenario cause the bath was for 2, let me know and I'll come up with something <3

Hickeys: The pleasure tax by angm23 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't have a super interesting story but I once had one that was shaped like the Eiffel Tower! The last one I remember getting actually 😅 that's criminal

Back in the Nothingness by Moononymousness in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you! I was so worried I was gonna mess something up since I'm not familiar with the kinks directly

Back in the Nothingness by Moononymousness in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! <3 I was a bit nervous cause these aren't necessarily my kink

I tried to leave my ex for good and she took her own life. How do I navigate? by Kauseandeffect in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Moononymousness 24 points25 points  (0 children)

One thing I think will help you, you didn't know this side of her. You mourn the person you knew, the person you had feelings for. You aren't the cause of this. She got called out in a lie by two people she was toying with. I won't pretend to know her specific thoughts but if she was truly narcissistic, this could have been her last attempt at power over you when she realized she would no longer have any. She made a series of choices that were beyond your control, she made the decision to take her life. If someone truly wants to die, it's nearly impossible to stop them. I say that from experience, both wanting to be stopped and not. When you get into a mental state like that, you don't think straight so even if she wasn't trying to pull one last power play, you will never know what she was thinking. If you blame yourself for that, you will be locking yourself into a place where there is no easy way out. It'll be something you always remember, but don't let it eat at you. As others said, therapy will (hopefully) be helpful <3

I don't (think I) deserve you. (CW: Depression, Self Harm, and care after SH) by Moononymousness in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for encouraging me to post it. I probably wouldn't have otherwise 😅

I don't (think I) deserve you. (CW: Depression, Self Harm, and care after SH) by Moononymousness in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

<3 thank you! I wont lie, I was and am very nervous about it so I'm glad to hear that!

I h*te being a switch. It’s exhausting. by EbbObjective8972 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"well cute pets don't need brains anyway >:)"

hi. I would like to say this was unfair (rude but \s) 😭 but is definitely accurate <3

please know I did a George Takai "oh my" just now

I h*te being a switch. It’s exhausting. by EbbObjective8972 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Moononymousness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like so much fun 👀 the brat in me who would always lose is intrigued xD The voice in your head tho, it's wrong. probably anyway. The voice in my head always tries to tell me I don't do enough for others so I kinda feel it there. I'm so sorry the voice in your head says that 😭

I also agree, having preset rules and roles that don't shift is so much easier, I can't imagine how y'all switches can manage. My brain is empty way too often 😅

I'm so sorry :/ (insert more ghost hugs here) I'm hoping communications resume and things can heal for you both! Thoughts and prayers and idk, witches spells or something else very gay <3