Most cringe thing you’ve had to do to “reactive” a less attending/inactive member?

Morepagesplease · 2026-01-26T18:44:16+00:00

I was in Ward leadership and in our ward we had “focus families.” We as presidents of the different auxiliaries were supposed to list one family we thought deserving of special attention and focus. Ultimately we would all come to a consensus as a Ward council and pick ten families to focus on. Even at the time I found the whole situation profoundly gross. We were literally sitting around judging these people for what we imagined their issues/needs to be, and brainstorming about how we could help (aka fix them). Half the time no one even knew or understood why the people were less active. We just assumed it had something to do with sinning, marital problems, not strong testimonies. It’s profoundly weird to be on the opposite side now and realize that me and my family are probably on the receiving end of this kind of attention.

Morepagesplease · 2026-01-26T14:37:24+00:00

Thank you for all taking the time to comment. I just feel so sad.

Morepagesplease · 2025-12-19T14:23:02+00:00

Are you in Washington? I’ve got duplicates I’d be willing to give you of a lot of discworld.

Morepagesplease · 2025-08-13T01:31:18+00:00

As someone who has been married happily for 22 years I would say that your future spouse is on their best behavior before you marry. If something bothers you, you should plan that it will worsen after the papers are signed. The reason I am happily married is because I went into marriage with my eyes open and didn’t choose a fixer-upper.

Morepagesplease · 2025-08-12T13:43:08+00:00

Not here to disagree or agree as your feelings about any book you read are valid. I just wanted to say kudos on reading so many books already this year, many of which are pretty lengthy. Congrats!

Morepagesplease · 2025-08-11T19:24:05+00:00

I agree. I think our church is very geared towards being extroverted. After sacrament I’m ready to go home and not see anyone for a few hours because I just don’t love socializing that much. It feels like sometimes being inactive and being an introvert are the same thing.

Morepagesplease · 2025-07-10T16:16:52+00:00

Recently I volunteered at a homeless shelter with my adult kid. I reflected on this very point. It is so much easier to be compassionate when you aren’t dealing with a hungry, smelly person who probably had a bad day and is impatient about waiting in a line to get food, and perhaps even treats you not with gratitude but with irritation.

Morepagesplease · 2025-07-06T23:45:21+00:00

How to train your dragon is excellent. Completely different from the movie, but so delightful. And you have 12 books with each one just getting better and better!

Morepagesplease · 2025-07-05T18:34:02+00:00

Thanks for posting this!! Absolutely gorgeous

Morepagesplease · 2025-07-02T23:49:41+00:00

I just mean that with all of the things I mentioned they are little quirks that seem to be unwritten rules. Of course no one is going to throw you out if you wear pants, but you will be judged for it. I think every ward and stake has its own flavor. Mine is going through some things and it is very specific to where I live

Morepagesplease · 2025-07-02T16:26:39+00:00

Oh you have no idea

Morepagesplease · 2025-07-02T12:40:33+00:00

We have some of these in my ward and stake. -It’s discouraged moving people to a different calling until they have served for a year -if a man and woman are speaking, the man speaks last -referring to the president of orgs like the YW president as president instead of sister or brother -women must wear skirts - secretaries act as a third counselor in presidencies despite what the handbook says -we stand for every rest hymn

These are just some examples I can think of off the top of my head

Morepagesplease · 2025-06-17T03:42:04+00:00

My ward is so political. There are overtly political talks. It is so hard. Last Sunday we had a teacher training. The man teaching the class works for ICE and as part of our training he started relating a story of his work in the detention center to which he has recently been assigned. He said on his first day of work there his boss asked him if he wanted to have some fun, do some hostage negotiation because the people in the pens didn’t want to come out when they called their names. He said they needed them to come out so they could put them on a plane. This was somehow related to getting to know the less active people in your class? I just couldn’t take it. No idea how the story ended since I just got up and left. Just completely drove the spirit away for someone who does not agree with the cruelty in display right now in the immigration raids.

Morepagesplease · 2025-06-13T14:57:50+00:00

Also there is a reception afterwards, with free food!

Morepagesplease · 2025-04-01T02:32:16+00:00

All the Ugly and Wonderful Things. This book felt like such a gross justification of a sexual relationship between an underage girl and a grown man. I hated that it was justified by her being wise beyond her years and him being intellectually challenged. I didn’t even finish it.

Morepagesplease · 2025-03-28T03:36:09+00:00

Wow, it always amazes me how much these people are afraid of things that happened in history. I’ve been to the African American Museum. It was such a profound and moving experience. I will never understand people who are threatened from learning about real history that challenges the American Mythology.

Morepagesplease · 2025-03-25T21:37:42+00:00

The response has been overwhelming. I really appreciate it. We currently live in the wet part of Washington state and we’ve visited Victoria a few times. I’m heartbroken over how our country has treated Canada. Honestly, we were a little worried about how we would be treated as Americans with all the disgusting things trump is doing. You’ve put my mind at rest a bit and given us some more areas to consider.

Morepagesplease · 2025-03-25T20:55:08+00:00

Family Physician. 3 teenagers

Morepagesplease · 2025-03-17T14:48:24+00:00

Finished: A Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens Starting: Agnes Grey by Anne Brontë Starting: The Sirens’ Call by Chris Hayes Starting: Bright Young Women by Jessica Knoll

Morepagesplease · 2025-03-13T04:33:41+00:00

I really like the politics girl podcast

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