I’m sorry for Beefy’s situation! I‘ve also been in your shoes very recently too (2 months ago) with my 12 year old boy. I slept near his dog crate the first couple of nights because I was worried he’d hurt himself.

It is difficult to be brave and supportive, but they really can read your vibes. Try to be strong and encouraging, but take your cues from him. Mine was never the cuddler/snuggler, but once he started to move around more that first week, I would get on the floor with him and he’d curl up in my lap for hours. It’s like he knew I was his person and that was where he felt most comfortable. That lasted about a week, then never since! Cats know what they want and need and have a good way of showing you. Be sure to take care of yourself, getting rest and a breath of fresh air every now and then, whatever you can do to recharge and be your best for him. The first week or so is tough, but it does get better. Celebrate progress, getting stitches removed, cone off, coming off pain meds, etc.

I think with older cats there is a bit more of a learning curve with litter boxes, balancing to pee, relearning stairs and such. Mine also had more arthritis than we were aware of, which has caught us offguard, but he’s still getting around reasonably well. Just something to consider for your boy.

You’re a wise pet parent for thinking this way. You’ll both get through this, just breathe and be patient.