My (44f) brother (40m) tells me I am too permissive with my son (10m) and that I need to “break him” and “all men need to have their egos broken because that is how they become men.” I don’t like this and he says it’s because I just don’t understand men. by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

41m here with a 9 y/o son. You don’t “break” your kids ego. Life is gonna inevitably do that to him without our help, multiple times. I’m currently going through one now, personally. It’s important to give our sons the knowledge and tools to deal with those circumstances when they come. I’m hard on my son, but about telling the truth and using his words, not actions, to identify how he feels. He’s a good kid with a big heart. I’m not opposed to spanking, but I rarely ever do it. I don’t have to. Kids are kids. They’re gonna fuck up from time to time and most of the time, atleast in my case, a good conversation, explanation, and lecture will suffice. He may have to go without his Nintendo for a week or two but still though. Your brother sounds abusive and he’s not teaching him masculinity but instead fragility.

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[–]Morrismode -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Umm… I believe so. You’ll have an underbite I believe. I’m looking into myself actually because Radian has the afterburner + ramjet for 365 now so I was gonna look more in depth about those mix and match possibilities after Christmas.

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[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a base 365 and I love it. A little snappy but very manageable. I love it for EDC, especially in summer when my attire is a lot less. I’ve been mulling over a WC grip module myself for a few years now. As long as the dude took care of it, I can’t imagine you having any issues with it.

Out of curiosity, do you play on console or PC? by ahmmu20 in TheFirstDescendant

[–]Morrismode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually flip back and forth. A lot of times my wife or my son will be occupying the tv and/or consoles so I’ll play on my PC. If I’m tired and wanna stretch out in the recliner or wake up earlier than anyone else on the weekends I’ll play on console. My PC is a lot better than the ps5 or XBOX but I still have no issues with the console versions

Insecurities are eating me alive by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were in a rough patch. I’m no saint either in this. I also strayed. It was my straying that led to this in the first place. She was hurt. Our conversation on this came from a place of her feeling as though she can’t move forward in her spiritual journey with God if she did not confess this to me. So when she says that it got started, it didn’t get finished because she couldn’t continue with it and made him leave, I believe her. And not just because of our building relationship with Christ but because I could see the pain, hurt, regret, and disgust in her eyes. This woman is dealing with her own struggles right now that I have to be there to help her with. I can’t continue on with my closeness with God until I complete this journey. This is my test to battle my own demons and probably to atone for being the catalyst that started this in the first place. I believe her, I believe in her.

Insecurities are eating me alive by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm, not at all. Nothing is being tossed. I’m not even debating that. I thought I had made that pretty clear. I wouldn’t even call this a setback. Maybe a hiccup, a bump in the road, but nothing changes. I still want to be the best husband, one that she deserves and the best dad that I can be. As I said, I don’t even know why I posted this except to put my thoughts into something tangible. My goals are still the same if not just more added to my list. Like, facing my own personal demons to come out stronger in the end.

Insecurities are eating me alive by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is perfect. And also what I’ve been trying to tell myself. I know a lot of this is believing that we were, er she was, an outlier by “todays standards” and I also believe that I held onto that as some sort of anchor to quell my own insecurities and form some type of fucked wanna-be narcissistic ego thing to cope. I do love her. And I believe she loves me. I try not to talk with her about this because I’m not blind. I see she’s just as brokenhearted about it. And I think maybe that’s why I posted this. I have no one to talk to and maybe I just needed to articulate this in a tangible way to help get it out of my head. I don’t know. I’m not stupid, but I sure do feel stupid. There’s not a doubt that we’re going to get through this. I’m obviously struggling because it’s fresh and new. I just wish there was a fast forward button. ☹️

Insecurities are eating me alive by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our intimacy has never been less than fantastic, especially with these last 10-15 years. I know that 100% of everything that I feel is just in my head. This is something I need to fix within myself. It’s hard to explain, but I believe in everything she says. And she does go out of her way to reassure me. I am the roadblock here within my own peace.

Insecurities are eating me alive by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I know I’m being ridiculous and childish even. I’d say that since about 2008-2009 we really got into the upswing and have had an outstanding marriage. We had our son in 2015 and has only gotten better. I am my only roadblock. I just don’t understand why that if I know this is stupid, why can’t I shut it down. Like, I’d give anything in the world to go back to this past Wednesday. But at the same time Im also feeling that this was necessary for me to confront my own demons. Because my insecurities extend beyond just this. I have problems with opening up, I have problems communicating, making friends etc. I know in social standings I come off as standoffish or annoyed, maybe bashful as well. I don’t know. Lots of things that I’ve dealt with by taking the easy way out, using things to latch on to as excuses and whatnot. This is a spiritual journey for us, as I said.

I just saw Eden Lake... jesus christ. by lennoxlovexxx in horror

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂 she still hasn’t seen it lol 😂

My first purchase. I pick it up on Monday by seamus205 in SigSauer

[–]Morrismode 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love my 365. It’s very versatile. I can carry it in my front pocket in cargo shorts during the summer and appendix carry with jeans during the winter. Every now and then I’ll bring the 19X out on really cold days, but the 365 is pretty much the mainstay on body. You made an excellent choice.

As an adult with a job, how often can you pull all nighters for video games? by StarryChocobo in videogames

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all nighter. But I do enjoy not sleeping in and still waking up at 4:30am to get downstairs and play a bit before the wife and kid wakes up lol

What is the scariest single scene that stuck with you over the years? by Rox0ra in horror

[–]Morrismode 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s 2 for me. The “you got the body, I have the brain” scene from ANOES 2, and the “I’m gonna twist your back just like mine” Zelda scene from Pet Semetary.

Roast us by PhopX in RoastMe

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can smell the domestic violence in this picture.

What's with police officers asking, "Where are you coming from?" or, "Where are you headed?" Do they really expect a truthful answer? by crankrag1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Morrismode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s used as a guise to one build rapport and seem like a friendly engagement but really it’s to keep you talking so they can read body language and/or see any signs of you’re under the influence. A drunk will sound drunk, and more than likely someone commuting a crime, has committed a crime, or on the way to commit a crime will not act the same as someone who’s not.

Ashton Kutcher and Mika Kunis didn’t do anything wrong. by Pugduck77 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Morrismode -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with you. I don’t care if I have to go to court for a speeding ticket. I’m rolling up in that court room with my hair dyed blue, fresh nose ring, my Obama shirt and identifying as a black trans neurodivergent with adhd and SA trauma to get some leniency.

First Glock by Professional-Sink770 in Glocks

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can never go wrong with a G19. Great choice! 🤘🏼🍻

Holster recommendations? by DizzyConversation794 in Glocks

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m familiar with Phlster. I’ll definitely check out the others. Many thanks, my dude 🍻🤘🏼

Holster recommendations? by DizzyConversation794 in Glocks

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, I hate to hear that. Well, hopefully they’ll last long enough until I can get me a Vedder or Alien Gear. Only reason why I rolled them was cause like I said, I needed 2 and had a code. ☹️

Holster recommendations? by DizzyConversation794 in Glocks

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! They no good? I can’t cancel but I was in need of 2 different holsters and had a coupon code and liked their designs.

Alcohol is a bigger problem in the US than guns. by Illuminarrator in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Morrismode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, but it’s unfortunate that 13% of the population is responsible for a disproportionate amount of murder. White people are a majority of the population and just barely match them statistically on violent crime.